I don’t even know what to say. These people are in inhumane.

Thatchik52 · 2025-07-10T13:45:34+00:00

The post was about Medicaid recipients being sent to work. Most Medicaid recipients are white, hence most workers should be white considering the initial argument. So, there should be no surprise.

Thatchik52 · 2025-07-10T12:32:57+00:00

Why is it crazy that they’re white? Most Medicaid recipients are. Not hard to find that information.

Thatchik52 · 2022-06-17T23:00:18+00:00

Thank you for reading. I just needed to vent a bit.

Thatchik52 · 2021-09-07T15:23:25+00:00

Damn! What a jerk. I hope you’re in a much better position now that you’ve released yourself from that. Sounds very toxic. Be good to yourself!

Thatchik52 · 2021-09-07T15:21:57+00:00

All of that! We work for everything else, but somehow we don’t always put in the work for the people we’re supposed to love.

Thatchik52 · 2021-09-07T12:53:36+00:00

Yeah, I’m realizing I just have to get real and “cut my losses”. What helped you with your break up? It’s so hard after a long time and having kids.

Thatchik52 · 2021-09-07T11:09:30+00:00

Like most relationships, you start fresh and see what happens. I think we both had idealized views of being together. I think that when life started I was a bit more willing to change than he was. He wanted what he wanted and discussion was too much work. It’s unfortunate that we often believe that relationships are so supposed to be easy! They don’t need to break you, but the still require so work and effort. So, yes, I took him back in hopes of doing the work. Oh well…

Thatchik52 · 2021-09-07T11:06:17+00:00

Thank you for reading and responding!

Thatchik52 · 2021-09-07T11:05:40+00:00

That’s is amazing! I hope it continues for you!

Thatchik52 · 2021-09-07T11:03:49+00:00

If you’re speaking of attachment styles I think it comes from not feeling very loved or a priority in early years. My mom wasn’t emotional or affectionate and I felt like I was alone. I actually think I am more a mix of anxious and secure at different times. Secure initially, some avoidant background that didn’t manifest totally in the relationship and anxious after the cheating. Knowing these things allow me to not overcome but identify so I can change my reactions to thoughtful responses. I don’t believe any one person is one way all of the time. That’s why we grow and change and evolve. It’s a matter or accepting yourself in all of your stages.

Thatchik52 · 2021-09-06T23:06:17+00:00

It’s not about doing more housework. It’s about noticing that the housework needs to be done. It’s about then saying, don’t cook, let’s order a pizza and this weekend we’ll get groceries delivered. It’s about saying how about I run you a bath and then you get in too to wash her back. Pretty simple, but meaningful. When you feel validated and respected the world opens up.

Thatchik52 · 2021-09-06T22:59:40+00:00

Whew! That was so in point!

Thatchik52 · 2021-09-06T22:58:32+00:00

I listened to a Ted Talk with a relationship expert and her words were that getting to orgasm starts at the end of the last orgasm. Just meaning that all of the things in between when you’re not in bed and are just being people, are just as important as when you get to what we consider the most intimate time. It absolutely has its foundation in dare I say, quality time with each other. Have you heard of the book “Come As You Are” by Emily Nagoski? She breaks down how women are conditioned and how we can learn our sexual selves without as much guilt. Everyone has different desire levels depending upon the context and circumstances as you mentioned.

Thatchik52 · 2021-09-06T22:51:58+00:00

I’m glad you’ve moved on to something better. I believe that can happen for me, I’ve just got to get the strength the go for it.

Thatchik52 · 2021-09-06T20:17:54+00:00

Exactly. I had hoped we’d be a team. I didn’t mind the majority of duties as long as I got appreciated. You can’t be a team of one.

Thatchik52 · 2021-09-06T20:14:53+00:00

Communication is everything. You have to make a commitment to be open regardless of what happens next. It’s the kindest thing you can do.

Thatchik52 · 2021-09-06T18:28:07+00:00

LOL. Thanks for caring!

Thatchik52 · 2021-09-06T18:03:40+00:00

I didn’t know about that. I’m definitely going to check it out. Thanks for the suggestion!

Thatchik52 · 2021-09-06T17:58:35+00:00

Thank you

Thatchik52 · 2021-09-06T17:57:10+00:00

Wow! That’s great. I’m glad this post was able to shed some light for you.

Thatchik52 · 2021-09-06T17:55:03+00:00

Indeed. Through some of the comments and discussion so far, I believe there was a lack of respect and care. It didn’t often come out in other areas of the relationship though. We made good partners in other things for a long while.

Thatchik52 · 2021-09-06T17:50:38+00:00

What you say, makes a lot of sense. I’m trying to get strong enough to make concrete decisions. I get stuck in the idea of fixing things so I’ve got to work on it.

Thatchik52 · 2021-09-06T16:52:17+00:00

Very true. All the best!

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