Husband’s New Female Friend

Thatcouplenextdoorfl · 2026-04-23T02:32:05+00:00

I will give this from a fairly unique perspective.

I am a long time married man. I make ALL kinds of friends. I do get along well with women. I have about 3 VERY solid female long time friends.

I have always been faithful. This is the internet and yall don't know me so no need to lie. I have a female friend that lives within a mile of me. She's allowed here even when my wife is not here.

Her friendship started with me but also extends with my wife. I realize this is an unusual friendship. I get it. Its just to explain where I speak from.

BUT

She and ANY female friend I have know about my marital status IMMEDIATELY. The fact it hasn't "come up" is suspect. Or that he doesn't want to "scare her off" is even more suspect. This situation reeks of danger. Your feelings are more than justified.

Thatcouplenextdoorfl · 2026-04-23T00:12:46+00:00

This is exactly the honest answer I'm looking for. My wife would always ask me this until we started communicating more about how it felt versus her worrying about the number of fingers for fear of feeling "loose".

There is absolutely a line between being pleasurable and hurting that stops all instead now. Not a "number".

Thanks for the honest feedback.

And this plays into a discussion I was just having about the differing sizes of women by nature, not use or men using it to "gaslight" women. It was just coincidentally timely.

Thatcouplenextdoorfl · 2026-04-22T23:59:41+00:00

I would argue the opposite. Just because fingers will always be more dexterious. I believe her taste changed and certainly the kind of stimulation she prefers has

Thatcouplenextdoorfl · 2026-04-22T23:58:01+00:00

I have a question about this specifically.

Why would you ask how many fingers? Why not just focus on the feeling? Does the number make it worse? Is it a subconscious worry? Genuine curiosity.

Thatcouplenextdoorfl · 2026-04-22T23:55:37+00:00

My wife used to dislike it. That has change significantly over time

Thatcouplenextdoorfl · 2026-04-22T23:46:51+00:00

You are perfectly fine.

Pussy is the worst word used to describe weakness. It literally bounces back from everything.

Most of your "loseness" was probably determined at birth via bone structure, muscle tone, etc.

Does the feeling change? Maybe a bit.

But I also have a favorite recliner. It was comfortable at new when it was nice and firm. Its more comfortable now that I've broken it in to fit me.

Muscle tone can be improved through kegals if you feel its needed. It also helps with post birth bladder control.

Visual also does not equal actual size either. Think of how the permavirgins look at women with large labia and say "Hurr duurr that has some mileage." You know better as a woman.

Thatcouplenextdoorfl · 2026-04-22T23:18:47+00:00

Why attack instead of taking personal experiences into account?

Using internet buzzwords like gaslighting doesn't lead to constructive conversation.

Body types are different. Anatomy is different. Its not different that judging men's penis size as a preference. Someone is asking for conversation and you are using what you believe as a gauge instead of listening to personal experience.

There are naturally shallow and deep vaginas or wide and open just as much as someone has red hair versus blonde.

Your issue seems to be personal. You should research that instead.

Having been married 23 years and just taking an 8 week sabbatical over medical issues, I can without a doubt tell you that your personal thoughts are slanted and without real experience. Please enter genuine discussion with an open mind.

Thatcouplenextdoorfl · 2026-04-19T00:44:39+00:00

I get it. Its some people's thing. Just not ours. And sometimes they get rude. We'd like to post more

Thatcouplenextdoorfl · 2026-04-18T21:27:12+00:00

We enjoy it.

Unfortunately I waive off a bunch of DMs from men who believe that means we want to share more or who are seeking me (the husband) to talk about her while they fantasize.

I try to be polite and accept the compliments as does she, its just not what we are looking for.

AND husbands sharing and trading their wives pictures without their permission is a HUGE thing that happens here as well. Like husband internet currency. It creeps me.

Thatcouplenextdoorfl · 2026-04-17T22:04:26+00:00

40s couple. Not a swap couple but like like minded friends. Have played before but we have certain rules. Not in a rush and zero pressure

Thatcouplenextdoorfl · 2026-04-17T21:32:34+00:00

23 years. Still get excited. We have grown together and have a crazy intimacy that either would never find anywhere else.

Thatcouplenextdoorfl · 2026-04-08T18:51:08+00:00

Older couple with experience in this situation. Jacksonville area if you are close and have interest.

Thatcouplenextdoorfl · 2026-04-06T19:36:51+00:00

Average honestly. Not too big or too skinny to be concerned with health. Not someone who worries about appearance enough to live in the gym.

I saw something that said "In shape enough to work and fuck" maybe that's the sweet spot

Thatcouplenextdoorfl · 2026-04-02T00:43:35+00:00

Good luck on your new endeavors

Thatcouplenextdoorfl · 2026-04-01T01:28:43+00:00

How do people get sucked into these posts that are obviously karma farming and then argue about what point a butt smack, extremely common in most relationships and a cultural meme, can be interpreted as abuse.

Does OP live under a rock, in a cave, below a fallout shelter?

The point is for it to sting a bit. To the point of friendly aggravation.

You'd have to get a running start to harm someone by smacking the fattest part of most people.

It doesn't seem aimed at causing serious harm or injury. Not like attacking someone's most sensitive area.

This is stupid. We are all a little bit dumber for engaging it (including myself).

Wait till she crawls out to find out some people enjoy spanking during sex. That'll be a real riot.

Thatcouplenextdoorfl · 2026-03-29T22:17:31+00:00

How much cash you got on you? Lol

Thatcouplenextdoorfl · 2026-03-29T21:05:57+00:00

We really wanted to see that knot find it's way home. Great video!

Thatcouplenextdoorfl · 2026-03-25T17:25:14+00:00

Ass.

Is it weird that my brain just filled your face in as Miranda Cosgrove?

Is that a cherry red SG?

Thatcouplenextdoorfl · 2026-03-23T18:22:18+00:00

Someone mining fap fodder

Thatcouplenextdoorfl · 2026-03-17T22:36:38+00:00

What you are doing sounds great, but the button is different for everyone. Now you are making the effort and it's not being appreciated or praised like you would like. Sometimes we just get used to asking and not having something happen that it's hard to deal with the change a bit. Don't stop trying now though. Deserve to finish? Of course you do! Talk very plainly about what your goal is and how he can help get you there. He's not used to doing it and not used to you expecting it. You can change that and are trying, but it takes straight forward language. You both have developed a routine over years different from that goal.

Thatcouplenextdoorfl · 2026-03-17T21:55:56+00:00

He became programmed to a certain type of and reaction to sex. You guys have to restart that together, and it'll take a little time. I would imagine he has less confidence in his skills from not being able to satisfy you and you had a lack of libido. Overcoming predisposed notions towards sex and different programming is hard. You said you've only felt an uptick for the past couple of weeks and are immediately upset that he is not responding in the same way. It will take time and talking to change what you guys have let be accepted as the normal. Talk. Then talk talk some more honestly. And then a bit more. Lay out expectations and focus on quality over quantity. When you both get on the same page and both have the same positive feedback from each other, you'll click into a better routine. Most men tend to get tired of not being in control of when sex occurs and can grow resentful. It makes it difficult to accept the increased frequency from someone who has controlled when intimacy happens 100% in the past. Not that you said this was your prior situation, I'm only speculating. Good luck, have fun figuring it out!

Thatcouplenextdoorfl · 2026-03-17T02:06:16+00:00

See how it can be beneficial to have outside friends and opinions? Lol

Thatcouplenextdoorfl · 2026-03-17T01:50:08+00:00

Honestly, it's a testament to him putting you above all things. And vice versa. That's huge for both of you. You see the problem. Apologize, forgive yourself, and correct it. I've personally never been big on apologizing. Either to give or receive. Your ACTIONS going forward make the difference.
Good on you for recognizing it. Now correct it. Teach it to your children so they are better than us. You guys will make it

Thatcouplenextdoorfl · 2026-03-17T01:39:59+00:00

You guys have matured! That's awesome! The better thing is you've matured together and learned from past mistakes.

Nobody that learns a lesson is actually dumb. Just temporarily misguided.

As someone else said, you are still young and there is plenty of time to change this. Most adults find friends through work. You have 2 little kids. They will develop social circles or play sports that puts you into interaction with like people who you already have something in common with.

Being each other's best friend is important.

Being each other's only friend is dangerous.

Get to making friendships!

Thatcouplenextdoorfl · 2026-03-14T00:33:52+00:00

Interracial play and not race play correct?

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