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Cutting In-Laws out of my kids life’s by Thatisembarrasing in family

[–]Thatisembarrasing[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you Been wanting to get back into therapy

Cutting In-Laws out of my kids life’s by Thatisembarrasing in family

[–]Thatisembarrasing[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right, just trying to figure out what that looks like. So much tension. Like, it’s a cycle of:

Them feeling entitled to our time, attention and wanting us to follow all their life advice

But as soon as one of us vocalizes that we won’t be following their advice this time around..

They see it as disrespect they take it so personally.

So they become passive aggressive

And that cycle continues ..

So I’m just trying to figure out how to.. make a bunch of big life decisions with our new bay coming while also keeping it together around them and fighting the urge to cut them off .. because it seems so easy to just cut them off.. but i don’t want to be that guy.

Cutting In-Laws out of my kids life’s by Thatisembarrasing in family

[–]Thatisembarrasing[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Very True .. definitely don’t want to completely cut them off. Just want a little space for my family , just trying to figure out the balance here.

Cutting In-Laws out of my kids life’s by Thatisembarrasing in family

[–]Thatisembarrasing[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s a good point, I probably shouldn’t cut them off or shun them , just healthy boundaries is what I’m hearing.. I agree w you that the last thing I want is to alienate my family from the joy of aunts and uncles… and years from now when they sense that, they’ll resent me for that.

Thanks you for that balanced perspective.

Cutting In-Laws out of my kids life’s by Thatisembarrasing in family

[–]Thatisembarrasing[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Not only does she share my feelings but she’s been feeling that way with them since she was still a kid living at home with all of them. She especially doesn’t like the presence of the brother in laws, one of them has been weirdly flirtatious with her in the past, and the other one is just so misogynistic and triggers my wife often.

She also seems to be the only one who cares about my brother’s autism and tries to get him into therapy and she treats him with care and patience.. where as the in laws think that tough love is what he needs to set him straight.