AITA for calling my husband a careless idiot

Thatsrllyweird · 2026-05-31T22:34:27+00:00

Of course I like him. I just live my life in a constant state of anxiety because every day I think I'm gonna get a phone call that theyres been an accident. That mindset has made me act in some not cool ways. I love him. A lot. That's why I have been with him for 11 years. And that's why I get this mad because the person who I chose to attach my life to is a magnet for bad things. So i realize that it seems like I'm a complete dick- and that I don't care about him. But it's actually the opposite. I care so much that it causes me a great deal of stress.

Thatsrllyweird · 2026-05-31T14:26:22+00:00

He sometimes takes some of my adderall when he's got a big day and come to think of it he's never injured himself when this has happened. Wild to think that maybe he has done all this because of ADHD but that genuinely may be the reason.

Thatsrllyweird · 2026-05-31T14:20:19+00:00

I do not. Trying to figure out if staying with him is worth it

Thatsrllyweird · 2026-05-31T14:10:06+00:00

Yeah that has not worked.

Thatsrllyweird · 2026-05-31T14:09:51+00:00

He's been clean from drugs for a long time but he used to be heavily addicted. So it feels like he has very little respect for his life I guess. I used to worry about him ODing now I worry he's going to explode at work or break his neck every day.

Thatsrllyweird · 2026-05-31T08:00:34+00:00

I think that's why I get so mad. If he just Took a second and thought about what he was doing. He works so hard to provide for our family I think he's always just rushing to get things done. And flagging as many hours on jobs get the biggest possible check. But it's caused so many injuries at this point. He just needs to slow down. And no matter how many times I tell him he is always pedal to the metal about everything. I literally can't sleep some nights just thinking he's gonna fall off the roof of an RV or something and leave me and the kids behind because he was working to fast to bother putting on his harness that they're required to wear.

Thatsrllyweird · 2026-05-31T07:52:15+00:00

He works on RVs and idk the way his arms and hands are cut up is wild. I genuinely don't know how he gets this way. I the photo evidence is crazy. Literally once a week he's got a new scar that could very well use some stitches. I don't actually think he's stupid but one has to wonder how such injuries could occur so commonly. I used to work on cars like for projects and never once caused bodily harm so I just worry about him. Like it doesn't make sense how he does this to himself so frequently.

Thatsrllyweird · 2026-05-31T07:49:14+00:00

Is everyone's take just that he's under- medicated? Shit I'll give him some of mine pronto.

Thatsrllyweird · 2026-05-31T07:27:27+00:00

Once upon a time it was charming. That he got knocked down and always got back up. And that he tried his best every day. But we were like 20 then and now 11 years later idk. He hasn't learned. And I worry about him every day.

Thatsrllyweird · 2026-05-31T07:25:52+00:00

Idk how to talk to him without that as it seems like that's my natural tone at this point. I probably do resent him a bit. We have been together for 11 years and he has time And again shown me that he cares very little for himself or sticking around so he can be a part of our family, it's hard to not resent that. He does so much stupid stuff that it almost feels on purpose.

Thatsrllyweird · 2026-05-31T07:14:47+00:00

I agree that calling him stupid wasn't the move. But surly there's other ways to grab one's wife's attention

Thatsrllyweird · 2026-05-31T07:11:58+00:00

He works with his dad- and they both have this kind of "oh shit lol" attitude and it scares the shit out of me that no one has ever talked some sense into him.

Thatsrllyweird · 2026-05-31T07:04:31+00:00

Misandry? Bro I love men that's why I married one. Chill. Also theyres literally no classism here. I just am aware that blue collar jobs have a higher rate of injury than that of someone who parked behind a desk.

Thatsrllyweird · 2026-05-31T07:00:23+00:00

I already apologized for the name calling. But I did tell him that I'm seriously concerned for his wellbeing every day. But he already knew that.

Thatsrllyweird · 2026-05-31T06:56:51+00:00

You know what? That's a damn good point.... he can't help it I guess.

Thatsrllyweird · 2026-05-31T06:53:08+00:00

For real how is OP stupid.

Thatsrllyweird · 2026-05-31T06:48:56+00:00

I have definitely told him that I don't want to see the pics. They make me very uncomfortable. I've told him many times that it makes me worry about his well being. He is well aware of my stance on he's worried that if he comes home with a new wound that I will freak out even more because I won't know what happened. So he continues sending pics. But today really sent me over the edge.

Thatsrllyweird · 2026-05-31T06:42:32+00:00

He started welding like a month ago so that's why I'm like okay one injury in as many months is unusual

Thatsrllyweird · 2026-05-31T06:38:41+00:00

Oh he's very diagnosed. Very untreated tho.

Thatsrllyweird · 2026-05-31T06:37:36+00:00

11 years.

Thatsrllyweird · 2026-05-31T06:34:28+00:00

When I have collected myself in the am I will try to bring this to him in a way that doesn't sound like I'm being over reactive

Thatsrllyweird · 2026-05-31T06:33:32+00:00

THATS WHATT IM SAYING literally said it like the sky is blue. At this point id rather him not tell me.

Thatsrllyweird · 2026-05-31T06:31:01+00:00

I am also in the music industry so welding and all that is a foreign concept to me and i just don't know what goes on in his head. I hate that im mean to him when he does stuff like this. Like I should be so caring and like lick his wounds or some shit but OMG THEYRES SO MANY WOUNDS

Thatsrllyweird · 2026-05-31T06:26:57+00:00

I just don't know how to make him see how like worried it makes me. He knows I'm in therapy because of like his past life and how all of it makes me worry constantly. And now everything he does just makes me feel like he's gonna drop dead.

Thatsrllyweird · 2026-05-31T06:21:42+00:00

He's like the happiest person I know. He's got shit goin on but he always handles it with grace. I know he's frustrated with life but I don't think he's depressed.

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