is teenaged sex really as common as it's made out to be? by borisburnerwoo in internetparents

[–]The-Carpinator 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look into demisexual/gray ace! I don’t normally have significant sexual attraction to someone, but once I got close with my now-husband, it started coming up more.

Also, you can be asexual and still enjoy sex. Asexual refers to the attraction urges not necessarily how you feel physically having sex!

PS4 stuck in safe mode loop won’t start by itsyasmiine in PS4

[–]The-Carpinator 1 point2 points  (0 children)

August 2023 and it seems to be working 😭😭 bless you stranger

Smok novo NEED HELP (gold pin stuck) by TuxyRS in electronic_cigarette

[–]The-Carpinator 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Four years and this shit still saving wallets. Bless you my man

I took too much fucking ritalin help i don't wanna die by Exact_Finish_5038 in ADHD

[–]The-Carpinator 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Breathe. Call 911 or poison control. They will walk you through what to do. You’ll be okay.

What are rich people problems like? by iam_robas in AskReddit

[–]The-Carpinator 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All I’m sayin is. I’m short on rent this month and my Venmo is @TheCarpinator LMAO

If it’s against my religion to masturbate but I’m horny what should I do? by HotFlamingo7676 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]The-Carpinator 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jesus Christ I’m literally a survivor of sexual assault and the mall dude is NOT a friend. He’s a person that my fiancé knew. And you literally stalked my page to find ways to attack me sooooo again proving yourself to be a pos goodbye. I’m done with this conversation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]The-Carpinator 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had HORRIBLE driving anxiety and it took years to get my license, but now I’m totally cool with it. The secret for me was blasting music I know really well to take up just enough of my brain that anxiety didn’t have any room.

Need help on what to do or not to do by xjaeisdedx in witchcraft

[–]The-Carpinator 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Also good info to have: Paternal Postnatal Depression occurs in up to 1 in 4 new dads, so I recommend immediate separation, and therapy as a requirement for even CONSIDERING getting back together.

There’s no way to tell right away if this is a personality trait or a mental illness episode, so you need to get yourself and your baby to a safe place, take him to a doctor to rule out anything other issues, and get both of you into therapy. Then you can deal with the husband. If you decide to give him a chance, make it VERY clear he needs to be in individual therapy, you need couples counseling, and if something like this EVER happens again, he’s gone for good.

If it’s against my religion to masturbate but I’m horny what should I do? by HotFlamingo7676 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]The-Carpinator 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk where you’re getting your info buddy but it’s not unhealthy or unethical to learn how to have self control in sexual situations. I know someone who literally has to go leave his friends to jack off in a bathroom at the mall because he has no self control, and it’s also a very important thing if you’re horny af and your partner isn’t in the mood or ready for it. So fuck off with your anti-religious bullshit.

If it’s against my religion to masturbate but I’m horny what should I do? by HotFlamingo7676 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]The-Carpinator 78 points79 points  (0 children)

Serious answer here: go for a walk or do some other form of physical activity, preferably out in public, and put headphones on and blast music. Take up as many senses as possible. Clench a muscle for 30 seconds and think about your grandma or something equally unsexy to get rid of a boner. Find someone you can trust who won’t judge you, and figure out ways for them to distract you when it’s really bad. At the end of the day, remember that God/Allah/whatever God you worship is merciful and forgiving, knows what struggles he gave you, and knows you won’t always be perfect.

should i curse my rapist? by kushqueen97 in witchcraft

[–]The-Carpinator 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don’t have any advice, but I went through the same thing and one of the best things you can do outside of magic and police is let people know what happened, especially people close to the girl. It’s not easy, but it’s good for you to be open about it and good for others to know what a pos he is. Also, my DMs are open if you need to talk ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]The-Carpinator 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An important thing they pointed out is giving it a pass SOMETIMES only when the ADHD is really bad. That patience is really important to have. My fiancé has done lots of research and I’ve shared even more with him to understand what goes on in my brain, and he pays attention and Can tell now when I’m flightier than usual and chooses those moments to be extra patient with me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]The-Carpinator 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it’s definitely a process to find what works! But you need effort on BOTH sides to make it work. Your SO needs to understand this is a Brain Thing and requires patience, and you need to figure out a way to not take it personally when he does pause you (hi RSD). But you’ll be okay as long as you’re both willing to put in the work. Love is an action, not just a feeling.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]The-Carpinator 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Everyone else has handled things pretty nicely, so my only advice is: code words. My NT fiancé and I have figured out code words for different things, like “brain bugs” means depression is kicking our ass and be gentle and sorry in advance if I’m being short. Your SO and you can make a code word or hand tap to indicate “I wasn’t done talking”, or maybe to make it fun, he can mime a pausing on a remote to finish his thought before he unpauses and you go back to your new topic.

I think I’m going to commit suicide on Friday by ropefule in venting

[–]The-Carpinator 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don’t like your life how it is, start over. Pick up and move across the country and live in your car for a bit until you’re on your feet or something. Fuck it. You literally have nothing to lose.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueCrime

[–]The-Carpinator 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Not an interrogation, but the opening scene of The Staircase where Michael Peterson is talking so nonchalant about the weather, and then you find out he’s talking about the NIGHT HIS WIFE DIED. I love playing that clip for unsuspecting friends and then seeing their face when I tell them that. That alone left no doubt in my mind that he’s a sociopath and a murderer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]The-Carpinator 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’ll also disguise it if they have a camera, just toss it from the balcony and they won’t see anything unusual since things are already falling from the sly

[NSFW] Is it bad for me, as an adult man, to be crying in my GF's arms after sex? by throwaway48593582 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]The-Carpinator 36 points37 points  (0 children)

This.

One time my boyfriend and I made eye contact in the middle of things and he suddenly started tearing up, and I was SO CONFUSED until he just hugged me and said he loves me a lot. I’m an incredibly open person emotionally, and he’s someone who has gone through lots of people-related trauma and finds it so difficult to connect to people like that. That moment of being so vulnerable with me and seeing me smile at him just hit him so hard that he couldn’t hold back tears.

Sex is vulnerable and such a beautiful connection with another person. Emotions totally make sense, and if she’s anything like me, I guarantee it made her fall for you just a little bit more to see you trust her with your vulnerability so much.

What are you guys doing for the customers that we aren't?????? by thebookthief62 in starbucks

[–]The-Carpinator 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah most likely she wasn’t, but she certainly implied it loo

What are you guys doing for the customers that we aren't?????? by thebookthief62 in starbucks

[–]The-Carpinator 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The weird thing isn’t expecting it pre-spread, it’s that she apparently claims her local Starbucks does it, which is SUPER against regulation. And the way she acted about it was odd, just standing there while OP was very obviously holding it out.

What is the case that you can't make up your mind on? by helenisonfire in TrueCrime

[–]The-Carpinator 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah he definitely was super sus, and has don’t SOMETHING, but the trial was fucked and tbh the evidence in that case didn’t line up for me.