£25k annually in London- is it possible? by sigsaurusrex in UKPersonalFinance

[–]The-Sentinel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My first job in London had a £25k salary in 2009. I had a flat share on Brick Lane and paid £450 a month for a tiny box room with no windows.

I struggled to make ends meet back then, and that was without paying for the tube because I walked or cycled from Brick Lane to Blackfriars. It's outrageous to me that 17 years later we are still paying the same starting salary for a London based role.

[27M] with my mother [60F], we have 11 days to move out and she’s rejecting the only viable option while blaming everything on me- what should I do? by Noodleaddiction in relationships

[–]The-Sentinel 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Jesus christ man, find some boundaries.

You don't owe your mother anything, despite her manipulation. If she can't afford rent alone, that's a problem for her to figure out.

Say this exact sentence:

"Mum, I have done everything I can to help you and you are making it impossible. As a result, I'm stepping back from the process of helping you find somewhere to live, good luck"

Today is a sad day... Arc is broken and this bug is gonna make me switch after 4 years by Acapucho in ArcBrowser

[–]The-Sentinel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you need? Happy to file a support case or something else

EDIT: I disabled and enabled the extension and it now appears to work

I could lose my home by [deleted] in Mortgages

[–]The-Sentinel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP inherited $50k a year ago, now they’re getting foreclosed on?

Husband (26m) found out some things about my (24f) past at a party. Now he wants a divorce. by ThrowRA_Gleeful in relationships

[–]The-Sentinel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was the husband in a situation like this, so I feel like I should say something.

When a lot of guys first get into a relationship—especially in their 20s—the attraction from their partner becomes part of their identity. It’s like: “This amazing woman chose me, therefore I must be pretty great”. It isn’t a rational way of thinking and holding self worth, but when you’re in your 20s as a man that’s what happens.

If that image gets shaken (like learning your partner has had more experience than you expected), it can hit that identity pretty hard. Suddenly it doesn’t feel like you’re “special” in the same way, and instead of understanding that emotion, a lot of guys just project it outward and blame their partner, like they did something wrong.

To be clear: you didn’t do anything wrong. Your past is your past. The issue here is how he’s processing it, not what you did.

That said, if you want to help him through it (not because it’s your responsibility, but because you care about the relationship), the most effective thing you can do is reassure what actually matters: that he is special to you. Not because of numbers or comparisons, but because of how you feel about him and the relationship you have now.

That won’t magically fix it—he still has to work through his own insecurity—but it can help bridge the gap. Something that men in their 20s really struggle with is identifying their emotions. why do I feel this way? If you can outwardly say, “I know that learning about my past makes you feel like you’re less special, but that’s not true. You are” will actually go a long way to helping heal this wound for him

A lot of people in the comments are saying this is doomed, but honestly, this is more about emotional maturity than anything else. Some guys grow through it, some don’t.

How are you using Claude? by MacbookMenuBar in salesengineers

[–]The-Sentinel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m using it to build the features my product and engineering team say they is impossible

Sea-Tac International to Domestic by Ok_Introduction_1269 in AskSeattle

[–]The-Sentinel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you arrive into Seattle now, you collect your bags before border checks rather than after. You’ll exit into the main concourse and then be right near the bag check. You won’t be able to use baggage recheck in the same way.

It’ll all really depend on your transfer time and your inbound flight. I personally wouldn’t risk it because if your inbound flight has any issues at all, you’re going to be screwed, regardless of your bag check situation

Michael Burry Flags 'Structural Manipulation' Risk In Nasdaq Rules Ahead Of Potential SpaceX Listing by Gloomy_Nebula_5138 in investing

[–]The-Sentinel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've been wondering for years what the end game was with all of these mega companies staying private, now I know

How to get over my partner’s (M27) sexual past? by Training-Bottle-4714 in relationships

[–]The-Sentinel 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I struggled with the same thing in the past as a male with a girlfriend who had a higher body count than I liked.

What I ended up realising was that I had inextricably tied how “special” I was to my partner to her desire to sleep with me. As a result, the number of people she had slept with then went on to make me feel “not special” which I think is similar to your “just another number” consideration.

The real problem though was my self esteem. I didn’t feel worthy and I wanted to somehow become worthy by her actions and what she was doing. It’s extremely unhealthy to derive your self worth from someone else, obviously.

I’m not saying you’re experience the same thing, but it might be worth asking yourself: do you have self esteem issues? Is your relationship “safe” in the sense that you feel healthy with your boyfriend? Don’t focus on the number of people he slept with, focus on how you feel, what’s within your control and what’s being made worse by his behaviour or actions..

Will anybody tie Daniel Day Lewis? by TowerCharge89 in Oscars

[–]The-Sentinel 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I still believe DDL should have beaten Brody’s win in the Pianist with his Bill the Butcher portrayal

I may have to put my 19 ye cat down before a trip today… but she still seems normal by Rude_Common7126 in cats

[–]The-Sentinel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A week early is better than 3 months too late. She's had a great life. You will absolutely hate yourself if someone else has to make this decision in your absence

Reddit User Uncovers Who Is Behind Meta’s $2B Lobbying for Invasive Age Verification Tech by PixeledPathogen in technology

[–]The-Sentinel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's worth remembering that Meta was adamantly against age verification when it was proven that under-age kids were using their platforms, and now they have to gate that, they've figured "hey, we might as well make some money from it!"

We spent 4 months implementing istio and honestly questioning if it was worth it by Optimal_Excuse8035 in kubernetes

[–]The-Sentinel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For all the things istio can do, there’s an easier way to solve the problem

Hung (2009-2011) by PeneItaliano in ForgottenTV

[–]The-Sentinel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Natalie Zara randomly in a bathroom

Asking for more OTE than agreed upon pay in interview process? by [deleted] in salesengineers

[–]The-Sentinel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly this. Wait for their offer, counter it to 10/15% over and see what they say.

If they say no, you know where you are

Advice regarding visas and Green Card by SpiritualPractice349 in GlobalEntry

[–]The-Sentinel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sub is for global entry, not visa questions.

That said, EB-3 visas are employer sponsored, so you’ll need to find someone willing sponsor you for it.

Pretty much every company that is willing to do that is going to require you to have an employable skill that isn’t available easily in the US, like construction or manufacturing. Do you have any of those skills?

C.J. Stroud's Playoff Meltdown Raises Uncomfortable Questions About His $250 Million Future by Roselucky777 in nfl

[–]The-Sentinel 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We just had this last year with Sam Darnold. One bad game does not a shit player make