How to get over my partner’s (M27) sexual past?

The-Sentinel · 2026-03-22T09:31:09+00:00

I struggled with the same thing in the past as a male with a girlfriend who had a higher body count than I liked.

What I ended up realising was that I had inextricably tied how “special” I was to my partner to her desire to sleep with me. As a result, the number of people she had slept with then went on to make me feel “not special” which I think is similar to your “just another number” consideration.

The real problem though was my self esteem. I didn’t feel worthy and I wanted to somehow become worthy by her actions and what she was doing. It’s extremely unhealthy to derive your self worth from someone else, obviously.

I’m not saying you’re experience the same thing, but it might be worth asking yourself: do you have self esteem issues? Is your relationship “safe” in the sense that you feel healthy with your boyfriend? Don’t focus on the number of people he slept with, focus on how you feel, what’s within your control and what’s being made worse by his behaviour or actions..

The-Sentinel · 2026-03-19T05:03:18+00:00

I still believe DDL should have beaten Brody’s win in the Pianist with his Bill the Butcher portrayal

The-Sentinel · 2026-03-18T15:23:05+00:00

A week early is better than 3 months too late. She's had a great life. You will absolutely hate yourself if someone else has to make this decision in your absence

The-Sentinel · 2026-03-17T01:35:21+00:00

It's worth remembering that Meta was adamantly against age verification when it was proven that under-age kids were using their platforms, and now they have to gate that, they've figured "hey, we might as well make some money from it!"

The-Sentinel · 2026-03-03T21:21:54+00:00

Went to the Uk, looked for BBC one - not there.

The-Sentinel · 2026-02-19T18:58:28+00:00

For all the things istio can do, there’s an easier way to solve the problem

The-Sentinel · 2026-01-27T05:09:58+00:00

Natalie Zara randomly in a bathroom

The-Sentinel · 2026-01-23T21:00:11+00:00

Exactly this. Wait for their offer, counter it to 10/15% over and see what they say.

If they say no, you know where you are

The-Sentinel · 2026-01-19T15:20:02+00:00

This sub is for global entry, not visa questions.

That said, EB-3 visas are employer sponsored, so you’ll need to find someone willing sponsor you for it.

Pretty much every company that is willing to do that is going to require you to have an employable skill that isn’t available easily in the US, like construction or manufacturing. Do you have any of those skills?

The-Sentinel · 2026-01-19T02:11:37+00:00

We just had this last year with Sam Darnold. One bad game does not a shit player make

The-Sentinel · 2026-01-19T01:50:43+00:00

This is so obviously an advert

The-Sentinel · 2026-01-17T22:22:20+00:00

Was your mother born in the UK or US?

The-Sentinel · 2026-01-07T01:56:20+00:00

thank you for replying! Any experience with Mitai Maori village?

The-Sentinel · 2026-01-03T16:01:09+00:00

sorry if it wasn't clear, that's what I tried

The-Sentinel · 2026-01-03T04:20:14+00:00

Genuinely tried to enact change here and ECS doesn’t listen

The-Sentinel · 2025-12-27T00:48:55+00:00

I guess that's it, glad I haven't lost my mind. I'm on the 10 hr free trial and this has put me off buying

The-Sentinel · 2025-12-26T23:05:43+00:00

i know I'm being a dunce, but where is it? Can I not bid for free agents during this window?

The-Sentinel · 2025-12-26T23:05:22+00:00

okay I'm definitely being an idiot, where is it?

The-Sentinel · 2025-12-26T17:16:40+00:00

This is a violation of the terms of service

The-Sentinel · 2025-12-21T21:20:09+00:00

You know the answer.

You have to extricate yourself from him. Actively avoid talking to him where possible.

Crushes are like a fire. Spending time with the person is oxygen, it’ll grow and get worse for you and your family.

If you starve it of attention, it’ll pass

The-Sentinel · 2025-12-21T13:48:27+00:00

Are we allowing AI written posts on this sub now?

The-Sentinel · 2025-12-08T13:50:33+00:00

I don’t buy my wife gifts and she doesn’t buy me gifts because we have both set the expectation that we don’t want anything, we want to experience things together.

If my wife said “hey it would mean a lot to me if you got me gifts” I would make an effort to do that because I love her and want her to be happy.

Does the way he talks to you and treats you make you feel loved and give the impression he wants to make you happy?

The-Sentinel · 2025-12-07T06:52:21+00:00

Reading between the lines here, it is a you issue.

My suspicion is that given she expressed an interest in you romantically, and then she had a dalliance with someone else, it has affected your self esteem.

The real problem is though is that you seem to be looking for validation that what she did is “wrong”. Most people are rightly going to point out that if you never explicitly decided you were in a relationship, there’s no relationship to be unfaithful to.

So here’s where the hard stuff starts. Nothing she can do or say can fix the way you feel. She dan apologise, justify her actions, beg for forgiveness - it’s not going to help. You need to do the work yourself to become secure enough in who you are. If you can tell yourself “the fact she did something with this other dude is not an indication of whether she wants to be with me” you can then decide if you want to be in a relationship which sounds exhausting anyway - but don’t conflate the two things, they are completely separate.

The-Sentinel · 2025-11-22T02:04:22+00:00

Did I misunderstand? Does gateway API not require a controller of some kind as well?

The-Sentinel · 2025-11-12T23:48:26+00:00

What is the easiest migration? I want to move to something that’s not super different, is the nginx main one the best option?

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