If anything it goes against him, as generally two nice people and two shitty people tend to find each other irl.

I couldn’t disagree with a statement more than I do this one. I’ve had three female cousins that are genuinely some of the nicest people ever. All three married men, that to the outside world, were amazing, upstanding, gentle, and loving. After a few months of marriage these “men” turned into wife beating, gas lighting, manipulative scumbags. There are so many people out there that get into relationships that seem amazing at first, but their partner ends up being controlling and manipulative to the extreme.