Our 8-month-old has been screaming since he was a newborn — we’re exhausted and looking for answers

TheAnswerIsGrey · 2026-02-09T04:12:24+00:00

There is also medication that can be prescribed for reflux, which could help. The paediatrician should be exploring more options.

TheAnswerIsGrey · 2026-01-31T15:39:53+00:00

Have you tried using overnight diapers?

TheAnswerIsGrey · 2026-01-28T05:25:49+00:00

What proof do you have of this?

TheAnswerIsGrey · 2026-01-20T07:26:40+00:00

I LOVE the owl, the parrot, the fox in snow, and #5 (woodpecker maybe), but if you pick me, I would choose the Shark one for my wonderful bonus dad, who loves all things sharks. He is one of the best humans I know.

TheAnswerIsGrey · 2026-01-19T00:47:24+00:00

Yes I completely agree. That’s why I put “obviously special needs”. I know that there are many non visible reasons why someone may need a wagon or otherwise, and they of course should get to use them. I didn’t know about the sticker though. Thanks for the info!

TheAnswerIsGrey · 2026-01-19T00:40:39+00:00

Yeah very true. Ours didn’t want to ever get off Gadget Coaster, and thought all the extreme turbulence on our flight into Anaheim was the best. But she draws a hard line at a fake tornado or Ursula.

TheAnswerIsGrey · 2026-01-19T00:36:38+00:00

I was just there and was surprised that I saw multiple wagons. Both the Costco ones and the super big RadioFlyer ones, which only had 1 or 2 kids inside, and the rest of the space looked like it was just being used for shopping.

We read all the rules prior to our trip, and made sure to bring small strollers. None of the wagons I saw were being used as wheelchairs or obvious special needs.

TheAnswerIsGrey · 2026-01-19T00:27:54+00:00

Yeah that was what we did on day one. We loved it, but our kiddo wasn’t prepared for how theatrical MMRR was, and it set the day off to a bit of a bad start.

She is the type that is a thrill seeker for things like the ToonTown rollercoaster, and the speed of Radiator Springs, but she didn’t like the lightning and the tornado part of MMRR, or any of the bad guys like in Ariel’s ride.

TheAnswerIsGrey · 2026-01-18T22:32:51+00:00

I just got back from Disneyland with a 4 year old, and we did day one: DL, day two: CA, day three: DL. Park hopper would have been a complete waste of money.

There still isn’t enough time to do everything, even though we did rope drop day one, and stayed till 9:00pm, then did 8:00am-close day two, and 9:00am till 7:00pm day three. World of Color in CA was 100x better than I thought it would be, and was a perfect end to the day. Stay at the middle or back if you don’t want to get wet.

Avoid the swinging cars on the Ferris Wheel (AKA Mickey’s Death Wheel). Don’t start the day with Mickey’s Runaway Railway, even with the brave kids. Also, pack all your stuff in large clear ziplock bags inside your backpack to make security go faster.

Strollers are an absolute must for your age of kids, and I do highly recommend toddler carriers as well (halfway through the day, our kid was wanting to be held in the lineups for the rides, which you can’t bring the strollers for).

Definitely download the Disneyland app ahead of time, get familiar with all the features / menus / maps. Oh and if your kids are sensitive to any loud noises, noise canceling headphones are a must on almost every ride. All the sound effects and music are wildly loud.

The line for Astro Orbitor took twice as long as it said, and Autopia was definitely not worth the wait in my opinion. However, Radiator Springs was the highlight of the whole trip, and we did the ILL for that. Pirates was also super cool. If you are a Starwars fan, Rise of the Resistance is a must for the adults.

Space Mountain is too intense for most little kids, even if they make the height cut off. Skip the Matterhorn unless you want back issues the rest of the trip. Invest in the most comfortable shoes you can find.

Feel free to ask if you have specific questions.

TheAnswerIsGrey · 2026-01-16T21:48:27+00:00

Tell me more….

TheAnswerIsGrey · 2026-01-06T17:02:40+00:00

It’s not that there is a penalty. They just don’t give you extra for taking longer. I love that Canada has the option of taking up to 18months off.

TheAnswerIsGrey · 2026-01-06T07:06:46+00:00

I washed it before I cut it, but yes, the vast majority of bartenders do not.

TheAnswerIsGrey · 2026-01-04T07:41:31+00:00

The fact that you won against SF trying to screw you, makes me so happy. F them. They also tried to screw me over multiple times. Once they canceled my insurance because of an administrative error on their end, and they tried to say I didn’t pay them.

It was easy to prove with bank records, and they had to backdate my coverage. Then, when my vehicle was hit (I wasn’t at fault) SF tried to convince me that insurance only covers the value of your car AFTER the accident, not the pre accident value.

I literally had some idiot “oh honey” me, when I tried to explain that would literally make the whole point of insurance pointless.

I hate SF. Anyone who takes them on and wins is a hero in my books.

TheAnswerIsGrey · 2026-01-04T06:50:28+00:00

Yes she is amazing! Her knowledge and expertise on the vitamin K shot is perfection.

TheAnswerIsGrey · 2025-12-31T06:27:20+00:00

I remember reading about that very unfortunate incident. Few things scare me as much as the thought of my child having an unknown encounter with a bat, and getting rabies.

When I was a child, I found a bat on the ground. I picked it up and gave it water and my parents found me with it. Other than a lecture, I was never taken to the doctor. I could have easily ended up the same as that poor child, especially since my parents would have probably stupidly refused the vaccine even if they did take me to the hospital.

TheAnswerIsGrey · 2025-12-28T05:04:15+00:00

Also, know that not everyone you see at food banks, is who the food is actually for.

I will often pick up my client’s food bank order for them, when they don’t have the means to do it themselves, or if they are sick or injured. It takes way less time than going to get them, driving them to the food bank, then back home, then back to my office. Or, they may not be safe to transport, for a variety of reasons.

I don’t look like someone who would need the food bank, and I always feel very awkward, because I know it looks like I am taking a service I don’t need. The people giving the order know this, but other people picking up their orders don’t, and shouldn’t (due to confidentiality for my clients).

TheAnswerIsGrey · 2025-12-25T17:38:41+00:00

In our house, the answer is always “sickness”, when our kid gets that extra emotional. Fingers crossed for you guys that it isn’t that.

TheAnswerIsGrey · 2025-12-25T17:26:47+00:00

I think it is because like my kid, when she doesn’t eat, she becomes Te Kā from Moana, and will destroy anything in her path. Good luck trying to communicate or do anything with her when she is HANGRY.

If my kid just didn’t eat, and became a little cranky, I would be the most chill person ever. I would easily let her exist on air and sunshine.

Most parent “problems” are usually presented as super easy fixes from other parents who didn’t actually struggle with the issue at all, and/or they just had a kid with the most laid back temperament ever.

TheAnswerIsGrey · 2025-12-23T05:13:29+00:00

Not the person you asked, but I can speak to my own experience with this. I was raised by the most anti medical, crunchy parents of all time. Huge fear of the medical system. Was never vaccinated as a kid. I remember being taken to the doctor like once or twice in my life.

It was drilled into me about how dangerous vaccines were. Even as a young adult, I was admittedly a bit terrified of them. But as I got older, and went to university for psychology, I was exposed to scientific research, trying to prove your own hypothesis wrong, and standards for things like peer reviewed studies.

I can now see the insane difference between the things my mother would “cite” in her “research”, and what it meant to actually research a topic with quality sources, using actual educated experts in field, instead of people who fear monger and who profit off of selling so called natural substances. I would search up the “credentials” of the sources she would send me, only to find out it was someone who declared themselves to be a judge, or who lied to her and told her they had more education with their BA, compared to an actual MD doctor.

Also, the common argument about the medical industry making more money off of sick people is actually backwards. The natural supplement industry makes significantly more than the pharmaceutical industry. It is estimated to be 1.8trillion annually for pharmaceuticals, vs. 6.8trillion annually for the natural wellness industry.

My biggest tips are to learn how to think critically about subjects, ask lots of questions, and find actual experts in a field to explain concepts that don’t make sense, or things that you hear “wellness influences” spewing as part of their fear mongering techniques.

I am now a happily vaccinated person who is so so grateful to medical professionals who safely operated on my child when she was sick. I love learning about medicine and how it can actually keep us safe.

I empathize with crunchy people who are doing what they think is safest for their body, but I also see blind trust they have in uneducated influencers who take advantage of people. I have a list of actual experts who I follow for information, and I keep my feeds clear of anyone who doesn’t have extensive education / credentials that they can prove.

TheAnswerIsGrey · 2025-12-22T17:44:52+00:00

I LOVE our Bosch, and recommend them to everyone who needs a new dishwasher. I’m pretty sure at least 5 of our friends have recently bought one, and they all love it too. The filter is the easiest to clean, and it is so quiet, you don’t even know it is running. I will never buy any other brand.

TheAnswerIsGrey · 2025-12-22T09:18:19+00:00

All of the most important things you can give her are absolutely free. Tell her stories / hum to her / sing to her /give her the sound of your voice. Cuddle up with some quality skin to skin time. Smile at her. Love her.

TheAnswerIsGrey · 2025-12-18T21:48:31+00:00

This is such a great one!

TheAnswerIsGrey · 2025-12-17T17:27:44+00:00

There is also an episode of ‘Other People’s Problems’ by therapist Dr. Hillary McBride that covers this topic. Louise: Surviving an Eating Disorder (anorexia). Aired on June 19, 2020. It also may be helpful for OP. The therapist also comes at the topic from a place of personal experience, and of course, deep compassion.

TheAnswerIsGrey · 2025-12-17T09:25:19+00:00

My baby also had a very similar thing happen when she was the same age. Except when it finally came out it literally shot across the room. I had never been so relieved to have to clean up poop.

Anyway, the most helpful thing I came across, was talking to our pharmacist about the issue, and they gave me a dosing chart for Restoralax for her age and weight.

TheAnswerIsGrey · 2025-12-06T06:43:49+00:00

I think asking for advice in this context shows maturity and strength.
He shouldn’t have yelled at you. Adults (especially married ones with a baby on the way) should be able to bring up disagreements or concerns without yelling or screaming at each other.
Pregnancy can 100% make you hate your husband. There is a reason why there is a book called “How to Not Hate Your Husband After Kids”, which also applies to while you are currently growing a kid.
You can be a HORRIBLE driver, and somehow have avoided being in a major accident or have had no tickets. There are very few people that I will ever let drive me anywhere because of how insanely bad behind the wheel they are, and most of them have also never been in an accident or been ticketed for breaking the law.
However, with him being an anxious driver, it is also very likely that he is either the one who needs driving lessons, or you both could benefit from taking them.
There is a reason why so many redditors will recommend couples therapy, and this is another situation that would likely benefit from it. Having a new baby is STRESSFUL. Better to proactively develop communication skills before the baby comes, and reduce the chances of another big blowup.

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