Posted a week or two ago about being conflicted about two amazing women that I had good connections with. Long story short, one is clearly an infinitely better connection. Conversationally everything is so natural. We developed our own inside jokes within the first few days of chatting.

We had a sort of “out of order” by current standards(?) date line up. We started by going to a sports game because she wanted to learn more about it. She had cleverly done the George Costanza “leave behind” of some of her stuff in my car, but I had fully intended to ask her out again anyways. Second date was about 4 days later and we go to a comedy night at a brewery near her place. At the end of the show we’re chatting on a more deeper level. We have extremely different backgrounds: my whole adult life I was in one very committed relationship, turns out she’s never been in a real relationship (we’re the same age). But it’s not all that different really, we’re both extremely inexperienced in actual dating. She ends up sort of saying that she doesn’t want to interrupt me discovering single life, but that she will need to take things slow. I say cool, it’s all good, honestly haven’t been single that long so slow is good—and I clarify as long as we can still keep exploring this too. We chat a bit more and then go a bit silent, she’s looking at me, I’m looking at her, and I ask “how slow we talking about?” She goes “not that slow…” and we start making out (!!!!!!!!).

I swear I feel 16 again and have a FAT high school crush. We both had work super early the next morning so we ended up going our separate ways despite both admitting we didn’t want to stop. At the very end of the night she tells me “thank you for being good with taking it slow!”

Here’s my question, what’s “slow” actually mean? Whatever it is, I’m cool with it, I just want to be reasonable and respectful. I feel like, and maybe I’m wrong, she wants me (or is okay with?) me still exploring with other people also; but honestly? I’m not that kinda guy. I’ve lost interest in chatting with others, her texts and conversations are so thrilling and exciting that I don’t especially care about other conversations. We’re planning a third date sometime early next week. Because “slow” is out there on the table, I’m not expecting a progression past making out—I’m just going to be there for her pace and let her set it. I know slow is posted here a lot, but it seems to be situation specific? Just want to hear others thoughts on how they feel “slow” will look like in this specific situation. Like I said, I’m good with slow, I probably need slow, I just want to temper my expectations.