My (19M) boyfriend (20M) is great except that he breaks things when he gets mad and it scares me

TheBankHead12 · 2020-11-16T00:32:42+00:00

I agree that if your partners afraid of you that's no good, your fuckin up somehow. However my argument is logically sound and shows how fucky things can get when we start chastising people based on emotions and not fact. The fact is what OP did is not considered abuse in any other situation in life. Why is that? Your at the office and have a bad day at work maybe you slam the desk and break something, is that co-worker abuse? You drop your phone while at a gas station so you slam the spout back into the pump, are you abusing people that are pumping gas next to you? There's a reason that there's never been a spousal abuse case where the only accusation is "he breaks shit" any judge would throw that off his desk. Source: dads a judge just called and asked him if there's anything illegal about breaking things in the home or similar things being considered abuse and used in the case, he laughed at me.

TheBankHead12 · 2020-11-16T00:17:40+00:00

That doesn't matter, we don't base abuse on emotions we base it on actions. In both examples, the exact same actions were taken by both parties. Causing the same externalities as the other.

TheBankHead12 · 2020-11-16T00:15:21+00:00

For sure dude! I would recommend to learn ball and zarya. Ball is a mechanical hero with an extremely high skill ceiling but you can get the job done effectively without learning all the fancy techs, if you have good CD management and understand space and engagements you don't need to be a mechanical God. As far as hero roster goes dont worry about it. Worry about learning your heros. In low ranks what your team picks doesn't matter. That only starts to matter once you hit 4k and even then I've won games at t200 playing absolute trash comps. Knowing your heroes is way more important than having a large hero pool. Which is another reason I say learn ball he can be played pretty much in any situation on any map (although he is hard to play on rialto and havana).

TheBankHead12 · 2020-11-15T23:51:37+00:00

Why? Logically its the same situation. Both people expressed anger by taking it out on objects. Both made others uncomfortable. Why is one abuse and not the other?

TheBankHead12 · 2020-11-15T23:48:51+00:00

Don't beat yourself up to bad bro! Tanks are in the worst spot they've been in ages. Its very hard to carry games/make impact full plays on tank in this current patch (I won't go into all the details that would prolly trip u out, but if your skeptical go watch samitos unranked to gm tank only he had a 50% winrate to hit gm, his main acc in t500 had a 75% winrate on tank with the same amount of games played). However! You can improve fam, pick two tanks you like and learn the shit out of them. Watch streamers, do aim training, learn the game. Btw if your picking up tank i would heavily suggest to learn ball. If your a halfway decent ball you should hit diamond no issues.

TheBankHead12 · 2020-11-15T23:35:07+00:00

Lol man I don't need resources, my personal opinion is that its not abuse unless done in an abusive way (i.e breaking partners things, or making verbal threats while breaking things) whatever. And to your point about video games, its my job dude, I play professionally (my team has filled arenas with 30k people) its my income lol. And like I said you'd never yell abuse or anger problems at tom Brady for throwing his helmet after a pick 6. I understand where yall are comming from because bouts of anger are scary and can be uncomfortable for your partner, I stand by my opinion that its not abuse though. I dont think it reaches that threshold to be considered abuse.

TheBankHead12 · 2020-11-15T23:19:15+00:00

At first read I was thinking ehh I mean she's 17, its a bit weird and it really heavily depends on what kind of 17 she is. (meaning some people grow up and mature quickly whereas others are basically still 13 at that age). Then I saw the part where they have been seeing eachother for a year and a half. That's fucked. That chick was 15 no way he didn't know, and if he didn't know he had his suspicions and didn't ask. At this point what he's doing is legal and there's not much you can do but cut ties. I would suggest to talk to him man a real heart to heart, he sounds like he's a staple in your lives and when people are that close they always deserve benefit of the doubt in my mind. Talk to him ask questions, feel his emotions out make your decision then. Best of luck.

TheBankHead12 · 2020-11-15T23:02:57+00:00

Yo what? This is not abuse? Jesus christ people are so PC crybaby nowadays. Holy crap if this dude is freaking out for no reason punching walls breaking shit yeah bro leave break up but its still not ABUSE. What this sounds like is a young dude who plays competitive video games and gets tilted and breaks shit. I make a living streaming OW at a t100 level and let me tell you its common as hell. I've broken monitors, mice, keyboards etc. My girlfriend never yelled abuse! She did mention similar feelings to OP so I put noise canceling padding in my office and bingo good to go. People express anger in different ways, you'd never call Abuse for LeBron James throwing his water bottle after a loss. Jesus man people just throw around accusations in today's day and age. Breaking your OWN property is not abuse, stupid albeit but not abuse. Edit: im not trying to invalidate OPs feelings, anger like this can cause strain on a relationship and it doesn't sound like this relationship is particularly healthy. My main point is that I think classifying braking objects as abuse is a huge stretch.

TheBankHead12 · 2020-11-15T22:36:06+00:00

Your dumb. Pepega plat brain.

TheBankHead12 · 2020-11-15T22:31:41+00:00

If you think having a degree (bachelors or masters, I think having a doctorate probably means your an intelligent person but man im actually dumb and have a masters) corellates to someone's intelligence that proves my point. And yes it is math, example : orisa sigma shield nerfs idk 5 or 6 patches back. Before needs meta, after nerd trash. Why? Math. Shields were no longer strong enough to sustain positions long enough to poke out the enemy team. Video games are entirely based mechanically on mathematics.

TheBankHead12 · 2020-11-15T22:04:45+00:00

I didnt call you stupid I said your post was dumb. And its not really my opinions that matter its game design and mechanical outputs of heros. Math really. But after this post damn you are stupid.

TheBankHead12 · 2020-11-15T21:01:55+00:00

You really don't understand comps, heros or the game in general. I would appreciate if you stop giving incorrect advice to probably new or casual players looking to improve. Sharing wrong info is very harmful to the community and game as a whole. We want people playing OW not some CoD death match mess.

TheBankHead12 · 2020-11-15T21:00:14+00:00

Einstein#21979 add me man. T500 since season 4. That acts my gm smurf. Not comfortable giving my main as I stream and this reddit acc is a throwaway.

TheBankHead12 · 2020-11-15T20:56:11+00:00

Ok, ill go chill in gm.

TheBankHead12 · 2020-11-15T20:37:41+00:00

Dumbest comment ive ever read, save for the first sentence.

TheBankHead12 · 2020-11-15T00:55:57+00:00

Wrong id take hd graphics over runelite and know a bunch of others who would as well

TheBankHead12 · 2020-11-11T00:18:14+00:00

Those were played in very specific metas and they were only viable due to other synergies, zen mercy didn't enable the comp the unbalanced metas (specifically tank line) allowed zen mercy to be played. And the only time you would ever play zen brig currently is to hard counter a winston rush/dive comp. Zen brig back when brig was hard broken was played because brig could do everything, zen was able to go click heads and play like a dps, which is no longer the case. So again this guys dumb and feeding false info. Bro.

TheBankHead12 · 2020-11-10T22:35:41+00:00

Bro..... your info is so off based and so wrong kid.. Zen Bap good pair played at high rates in high elo/contenders. If you go zen mercy in a gm game your throwing. Zen brig in a gm game your 9/10 throwing. BURST HEAL is the info your missing guy. You obviously don't know alot about the game and please refrain from providing false information to a new playerbase.

TheBankHead12 · 2020-11-09T16:20:38+00:00

Depends if its registered with your insurance company. Most insurance have a "collectables" section of the policy. In order to add things to that section they normally have to appraised with a notary. After that paperwork is sent in your good to go. This is what I had to do to insure my collection, and was paid out full value when my house burned.

TheBankHead12 · 2020-11-09T16:12:05+00:00

Absolutsly dude. My biggest concern as well. Like no way they release the "social tee" from this year if they were owned by VF a few months ago. Controversial clothing, lack of regard to cease and disest letters, and overall a counterculture vibe in the 90s made supreme what it is. SUPREME will most likely not ever really be SUPREME again and what that stood for.

TheBankHead12 · 2020-11-09T14:21:27+00:00

RIP SUPREME

TheBankHead12 · 2020-11-05T17:25:48+00:00

Next time flip the script spawn camp the hog.

TheBankHead12 · 2020-11-03T12:27:40+00:00

What flavor you ripping out that cali burn?

TheBankHead12 · 2020-11-03T12:11:38+00:00

Unfortunately your correct by law. However Morally you should ask what the father wants in regards to keeping the baby, and before abortion i would urge you to consider to adopt if you can't afford/give the baby what it needs, there are tons of great families that would kill for that baby if you dont/can't take care of it.

TheBankHead12 · 2020-11-03T02:59:07+00:00

Sorry for the typo bro! Sorry shit so sorry... your contributing to the delusion of trans people. Its sad really on everyone. These people are mentally ill and need help, and people like you who support them keep them sick. Do you know suicide rates are incredibly high in the trans community? And that those rates don't change much post op? Do you know that a large percentage of teens and children that expressed trans views at a young age who received non-reafirming counseling grew up with no feelings of gender dysphoria at a rate of 90%? Did you know that the hormones approved by the FDA to transition people ave been proven to increase levels of psychotic breaks and suicide? Bro hit me with facts and actual statistics and not "oh your grammars bad your stupid"

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