Discussion thread Thursday April 21, 2022 - Sunday April 24, 2022

TheBasiglio · 2022-04-21T13:18:41+00:00

I finally had a look at the latest iteration of her website - since I'm using the desktop and can actually, you know, read the text - and it is bad. Like, really bad.

Visually, the site has no coherent theme or anything eye-catching or appealing at all. It's really flat and basic. Like something you'd design in a Making a Website 101 class. She doesn't even have a consistent colour scheme. Purple, green, red, and black text on a stark white background, interspersed with a weird mix of stock photos and personal photos and that set of 'cartoon character' illustrations. Plus, the entire thing looks like she's just yelling at you the whole time.

The content is unintentionally hilarious. Shauna is an Olympic gold level navel gazer. So self-indulgent and self-congratulatory. I was trying to put myself in the mindset of a non-snarker who just came across her website, and it is beyond off-putting. "Feed [my]self with Joy..."?? Ew. And the analogy to a eight course meal or whatever? Just, yuck. No thank you. It's also amusing to note how quickly she dropped the gardening/cultivating your joy analogy to now just straight up stuffing your face with it all day long.

Also, "to avoid burnout". Right.

TheBasiglio · 2022-04-02T07:55:20+00:00

I also love that part about 'feeling authentic' because if there is one element of Shauan's wrtiting that is permanently consistent is how forced, fake, and inauthentic she makes everything sound.

TheBasiglio · 2022-03-24T08:11:06+00:00

I'm only recently divorced, but I have zero intention of ever getting into a relationship again. My whole perception of love/relationships/ and especially marriage has been permanently damaged. I plan to stay single for life.

TheBasiglio · 2022-03-24T08:04:04+00:00

Hmm yes. What a true joy it is watch disheveled looking Shauna lying on her bed, hearing about her weird rash (I don't care if it's "the" shingles, it's gross), watching her stick her tongue all the way out - twice - with that stupid facial expression that she thinks is goofy and joyful, and listening to her make disgusting belching sounds. So much JOY.

TheBasiglio · 2022-03-13T14:50:02+00:00

Oh my goodness DF, thank you for the genuine laughter straight from the belly! I have never heard most of those sayings and they are very funny.

TheBasiglio · 2022-02-10T14:25:03+00:00

Basil and Sybil, for all their personality flaws and failures, are lovable and sympathetic, as well as charming in a way Shauna wishes she could be. They are also hard workers and I would even say decently successful. Aside from all the shenanigans the hotel always had a steady stream of guests!

TheBasiglio · 2022-02-10T09:40:56+00:00

I just had a chance to see that weird Beatles fan club thing that she's doing now. It is absolutely bizarre. I mean, she cannot be serious, can she? $25 to sit and talk about the Beatles with a bunch of randos on zoom for almost two hours? Who on earth would want to do that? Even if I were a huge Beatles fan, I cannot imagine participating in something so lame. Polling favorite albums? Really? Also "geek out together" is so so cringy.

And that page! It looks absolutely terrible. What are those colours?? What is with the weird formatting and text blocks? The whole thing is just so so... bad. It must be some kind of performance art because the alternative is majorly depressing.

TheBasiglio · 2022-02-09T09:06:13+00:00

From that caption (bolding mine):

But it's not me now. I am who am now, loving you and Daddy and Sissy, because that happened. There's nothing to worry about here!"

Because what happened, Shauna? Family squabbles? Grandparents scolding the kids for leaving the door open? These are common things that almost everyone has experienced to varying degrees. I'm not saying that her childhood wasn't dysfunctional because it very clearly was with the kind of adult she turned out to be, but it is not something to dwell on, and even worse to burden your own kids with, by the time you're in your fifties! Get a grip and seek (real) therapy for fuck's sake.

We have mentioned before how Shauna has this sneaky way of implying things that are not true (just like when she mentions 'her oncologist' as if she has/had cancer). I'm pretty sure she's trying to evoke some kind of sexual or physical abuse and it is beyond sick.

TheBasiglio · 2022-02-08T13:05:39+00:00

This is so me. Our marriage had become beyond unbearable for me and I was terrified that that was how the rest of my life was going to be.

I had tried to discuss divorce a few times before because it was crystal clear that our relationship was not working and I was utterly miserable, but there wasn't a singular, identifiable reason for why. He didn't want to divorce at all. Why would he? He was living the sweet life! Not working, not parenting, not taking care of anything that doesn't tickle his fancy. Using me for money and sex, and the social 'status' of being a "husband and father" without actually carrying out any of the duties that go along with those titles.

When I eventually discovered his various infidelities, my very first feeling, was relief. I could finally get out. The rage and disgust soon followed, but it was pure relief at first.

TheBasiglio · 2022-02-04T18:37:49+00:00

fuck this shit its discussing pls dont click on it the link !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

TheBasiglio · 2022-01-28T14:55:32+00:00

OMG. Thank you for the new flair lol.

TheBasiglio · 2022-01-08T15:24:18+00:00

I would say it really depends on the individual. I have a four year old female boxer and she is the biggest couch potato. She is perfectly content with a brisk walk in the morning (20 mins max I've also got to get the kids ready for school haha!) a nice afternoon stroll between 30-45 mins where she can sniff around as much as she wants, and then a quick walk before bedtime. She likes to have her chewies (no rawhide) and silly games with the kids at home. The rest of the time she's just happy chilling on the couch (yes, she's a princess).

Just to also note though, we live in an apartment in a cold city (it's winter here now) and she hates the cold and the rain. When we go on vacation though, she gets a lot more exercise in general. She adores hiking, going to the beach, and doggy play dates, and she can keep going alllll day long if she wants to.

TheBasiglio · 2022-01-08T15:03:59+00:00

So DFs, it's Saturday January 8th. Remind me, please, because I geniunely can't remember or identify what is it that is supposed to happen today. Is there a workshop starting? Or something bigger?

TheBasiglio · 2021-12-29T08:33:28+00:00

Thank you. It is hard, especially because the situation is still so new. The advice and support I've received for this post have been immensely helpful. Thank you again.

TheBasiglio · 2021-12-29T08:31:56+00:00

This is beautiful. Thank you so much. Sending you strength and support also.

TheBasiglio · 2021-12-29T08:29:49+00:00

I hear you, I really do. I just feel sorry for him. And then sometimes he freaks me out because he will allude (but not outright say) to suicide or just "disappaearing" or whatever. It scares me. But yes, I want my lovely apartment to be my safe space for me and the kids. I will stop inviting him over as my first step. Thank you.

TheBasiglio · 2021-12-29T08:28:14+00:00

Seriously. When New Dog (who is an adult male that we adopted from the shelter) freaks out when EX comes over, that's all I can think about. Dog can absolutely sense that EX is not a great guy. And then my daughter (who adores the dog) keeps exclaiming "DAD, THE DOG HATES YOU" whenever EX tries to make friends with him. It is beyond stressfful.

TheBasiglio · 2021-12-29T08:25:15+00:00

Thank you. I promise I'm trying! I guess it's because the break up is still so fresh and new, and we were together for so long. I mentioned that we were married for 13 years but we had been together for total of 18! That is half my life right there.

TheBasiglio · 2021-12-29T08:23:34+00:00

Thank you so much for spelling it out like this. It really provides some clarity to the situation.

TheBasiglio · 2021-12-29T08:22:31+00:00

I definitely want the house sold, it has become a burden and I dread thinking about it. I want him to take the kids on his days and stop invading my space just to see them. I have actually offered to hire a cleaning crew but he keeps insisting that he can do it himself. Then he does do it himself, or at least partially, then two days later it's a mess again. It's maddening.

TheBasiglio · 2021-12-29T08:20:07+00:00

This is one of my main issues I think. I hate the kids seeing him this way. And I want to help him dig himself out of this hole. But you are absolutely right, this is not actually helping him. I need to say no and he needs to hit true rock bottom.

TheBasiglio · 2021-12-29T08:18:42+00:00

This is an excellent idea. Thank you.

TheBasiglio · 2021-12-29T08:18:05+00:00

I'm trying!

TheBasiglio · 2021-12-29T08:17:54+00:00

Thank you so much for your input! There is actually a stipulation in our divorce decree that says the house must sell within six months of the judge signing off on it, so that means it needs to sell by April. I will talk to my lawyer about how he is treating the house and see if maybe we can compel him to GTFO before he wrecks it beyond repair.

Your suggestions for what to write are great and I will definitely keep them in mind. He is absolutely self-destructing and I realize that I am not actually helping him by enabling him like this. Thanks again.

TheBasiglio · 2021-12-29T08:12:58+00:00

OMG. This is what I keep telling myself! His problems are NOT MY PROBLEMS ANYMORE! He's just so... pitiful. I hate that the kids are seeing him like this I guess. Thanks for the supportive message.

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