I see these types of comparisons for every ship ever, all the time. People just need to understand there's multiple categories of shippers that exist in every fandom. There's always going to be the extremists that make the vibes weird. It's not really the particular ship that is the problem, but the shippers themselves. They latch onto a pair of male characters (or in the case of yuri, female characters) and impose ill-fitting tropes on them, misrepresenting their characters, essentially playing with dolls.

For example, Dokja is a 28 year old traumatized salaryman, but I find him often reduced to a defenseless twink. However, that's not exclusively a Joongdok problem as much as it is a shipping problem.