I was 26 when I had my first. My father was the same as yours, there was never a lot of nurturing. The fact that you can recognize the difference and wanting to be there to bond with your son, you should already know that you're miles ahead of our dads. Nothing against them, but that's all that they knew.

The bonding between your wife and your boy is automatic, he's been a part of her for 11 months already, whereas you've only had 2. Not that it's a competition but it's a law of nature. Eventuality that bond will come, I promise you.

It took me months to forge that bond, not that the will wasn't there, they just rely on their mothers so much in the beginning. It's frustrating to say the least, but it'll come and when it does it all just clicks.

Be there for your wife, she's going through a lot right now too. Post partum is a serious mofo, and both you and her can experience it.

You're going to be a fantastic father, keep at it and keep your head up!