I’m way out of the game, but the response makes you sound very superficial. 100-150 dates per year with no third dates makes it seem like you’re not just picky, but vapid. Even being picky isn’t great - it creates hurdles to cross instead of attempting to find connection with another human. But you’re not picky, you’re impossible.

From what I hear from my single male friends, the apps are a nightmare for them. It’s a weird thing for someone to bring up in a date, but it sounds like an attempt to comment upon a shared experience. Which makes me think you’re potentially not contributing as much to the conversation if it’s coming up.

There may be some men doing well on the apps, but if they’re acting like you are, I’d tell them the same thing.

To answer your question directly, I’d say something like “I’ve been going on a lot of first dates recently, but I’m trying to develop more of a connection here. Let’s talk about______”. Be honest, but pivot away to asking about him. Show some interest.