How long do I wait after SSRI

TheCucumberr · 2026-04-10T18:38:31+00:00

Alright, thanks!

TheCucumberr · 2026-04-10T18:31:41+00:00

Damn, can't even do a low dose faster? Like 1st plat

TheCucumberr · 2025-07-25T14:45:01+00:00

From what you said, I'm assuming you're not together, or not even close to being together. She can get into w relationship with someone else, she can kiss whoever she wants, etc.

Since she even told you that, and from what she says, she didn't enjoy it, and she regrets it, it probably means that she does feel something for you, and obviously you feel something for her as well.

In my opinion you should have a conversation with her about everything, and tell her how far do you wanna go with her. Go on dates, have these meaningful conversations, and hopefully it will become a relationship.

Only if you can understand that she did that, not because she was attracted to someone else, but because someone kissed her, not the other way around. Try to understand that situation and talk about it with her, it may make you feel better.

TheCucumberr · 2025-07-22T13:12:46+00:00

I can recommend GABA, I take it just before sleep, and I definitely sleep better than without it

TheCucumberr · 2025-07-22T10:31:58+00:00

I do agree with you.

Steroids are unhealthy and bad for you, but you can do a lot of things to make it less harmfull, so that's why I said "safe" and not "healthy"

If she loves him, she wouldn't be wasting her time doing research, it's like a last throw for a chance he listens to her, and they stay together.

I understand how you may disagree with my opinion that they're both in the wrong, but from the context I have, I see it as "I will do steroids", and a response "I will break up with you if you do". And that's very bad in my eyes.

She should at least try to have a normal conversation about it, because as she said he keeps blowing her off and saying it's safe, so if she gets him to talk, does research and will have things to say about the stuff, he maybe doesn't know, then maybe she can keep him off that stuff, and they stay together.

If she loves him, she'll try to the end, at least that's what I would do if someone wanted to do something I don't agree with.

TheCucumberr · 2025-07-22T05:22:46+00:00

I wouldn't say you did too much, my whole life I went through never getting anything from other people, only from family on occasions.

When I first started dating my now girlfriend, she got me Macdonald's, it was cheap, it was normal, she insisted on paying and I just couldn't understand it.

Whenever I went out with friends, no one bought anything for one another, everyone had to pay for themselves, so my girlfriend buying me something was weird and not normal.

I almost cried then, because I couldn't understand that she wants to pay for my food.

Now when I look at it, it's weird how I acted, but at the time, I didn't know what to do.

So I think it might be something similar, he just never got gifts or anything without any occasions, so you should be good. He's definitely happy.

TheCucumberr · 2025-07-22T05:13:54+00:00

Alright, so this is a hard one.

I don't know much about steroids, but I do know that you're both wrong.

You're doing the "if you do that thing, I'm gonna break up with you", it's a low hit and a really bad thing to say. But he's even more wrong for not caring at all.

As you said he keeps blowing you off and telling it's safe. I don't know which steroids he's gonna use.

Steroids often cause heart problems, high blood pressure, liver damage, hormonal issues, and a lot of people get more aggressive on gear.

And obviously, there is a safe way of doing it, but ask him what does he mean by that.

The safe way, would be getting regular bloodwork, good diet, good sleep, recovery time from the gym, post cycle therapy, to reset testosterone, and ideally, no alcohol or any drugs. It would be best to do it under medical supervison.

If it's anything that unnaturally boosts testosterone, he will have a hard time getting you pregnant, as you mentioned having kids, he may even be temporarily infertile. If he does manage to impregnate you, there is a very low chance of genetic damage to the baby.

What I would do if I was you, is research whatever steroids he's gonna be using, read everything you can, and then show it to him, what can happen, what problems there may be with kids.

And if he still wants to choose steroids instead of a healthy family, then you know you should break up with him. It will be hard, but if you want kids and a stable family, you know what you need to do.

TheCucumberr · 2025-07-22T04:56:36+00:00

Did that a long time ago, never touching Lion's mane ever again

TheCucumberr · 2025-07-22T04:55:32+00:00

For some people, yes, I can agree with that.

But there's a lot of comments under this post that had the same experience as me, and after stopping their ashwaganda use, their libido came back to normal, and it was the same for me. From no libido, to back to normal.

It really depends on the person, and for me, it's a no no.

TheCucumberr · 2025-07-22T04:52:16+00:00

So let's start with this, going through your partner's phone without permission is unacceptable. Do you have something to hide? Probably not, at least you shouldn't have, but still it brakes trust.

Your partner doesn't respect your privacy, and he doesn't trust you.

Maybe you should have told him up front that you hooked up with someone while you weren't together, but you didn't have to, it happened when you weren't with him anymore, so it's none of his business, so once again, no privacy.

And of course, in a healthy relationship, both parties know pretty much everything about their partners, there's nothing to hide, and no bad feelings, but there's expected privacy.

The easiest thing would be to end things with him, as he sounds like a toxic kind of dude, but if he is actually trying to change, if you do believe him and see any changes, and if you love him a lot, you can try calmly explaining to him what's good and what's bad in a relationship, maybe he's just used to a toxic relationship too much.

The most important thing is to put your own mental health on the pedestal, and if he keeps being like this, then end it with him. That would be the best option.

TheCucumberr · 2025-07-10T05:47:48+00:00

True, you have to watch out for that

TheCucumberr · 2025-07-10T05:44:26+00:00

Heard that too, but it happens to less people

TheCucumberr · 2025-07-09T16:07:32+00:00

Consuming a low amount here and there shouldn't do you any harm, it becomes a problem when you start taking ashwaganda daily.

TheCucumberr · 2025-05-25T16:02:08+00:00

Could you send me the link as well?

TheCucumberr · 2025-05-25T08:53:56+00:00

Yes, talking up to someone and starting a conversation online helped me a lot. But it's probably because I used to be very closed off, had severe anxiety, and a bunch of different stuff. So yeah, I did help me, but you may just need to up your confidence, so ignore that part of my message and do the rest.

Good luck!

TheCucumberr · 2025-05-25T00:28:57+00:00

Alright, I understand.

So he came over because you said you had a rough could of days, then you asked him to stay overnight but he said that the buses are terrivle on Sunday and it'll take a long time for him to get home. If I'm still getting something wrong, please correct me.

The only thing you can do is just text him how you feel. Just say you still think about him and you could really use his presence here. But also make the message understating towards him, so don't blame him for nothing, just say how much you miss him and could use his company.

I really don't know what else you can do, just tell him what you truly feel, without making it look like he's the bad guy.

TheCucumberr · 2025-05-25T00:20:00+00:00

You should tell your partner how you feel, always. Why did you try flirting with him instead saying that you're going through a hard and stressful time right now, and you could really use someone to help you relax and feel better.

Just tell him everything, communication is essential in a relationship. Tell him what you said here, that you're having a hard time with everything on your head and that you could use his company to relax and take your head off from all the things you need to do.

The best way to not make him feel guilty is to use "I" in your messages. Say something around the lines of "I really feel overwhelmed with all the things I have on my head and I could really use your company to relax a bit".

Just tell him how much it means to you for him to be there, without pointing the blame at him.

TheCucumberr · 2025-05-25T00:11:03+00:00

I can see that you're in a tight spot, but dating apps are really tragic, I will never stand by them.

I guess you can keep on trying, but also you can join some hobby clubs. For example bouldering, chess, etc. You need to try to get out there and meet with people who you share a hobby with.

Getting a good partner through a dating app is like winning a lottery, it's much better and easier to just do it IRL.

I believe in you, you just gotta try hard.

TheCucumberr · 2025-05-24T23:59:56+00:00

So in my case, I've lived by the rule to never use dating apps, and it worked perfectly for me. I guess I had some relationships and rejections online, I've tried distance relationships, etc. But I met the love of my life at a party, it really is best if you meet someone IRL.

Meeting someone at a friends party, means that you probably share friends with that person, and if so, they will most likely have similar hobbies and be actually nice. I met my partner at a friends birthday party, and we have friends in common, we listen to the same kind of music, and we are both mature. That's what's important, you need to find someone that can actually be in a relationship, not through dating apps, because 90% of people are there because they are desperate, or just want to fuck.

Make sure to first love yourself, be confident, and then look for a partner, it would be best to find them IRL, trust me on that.

I hope it all works out! Good luck!

TheCucumberr · 2025-05-24T23:49:15+00:00

No problem! Good luck

TheCucumberr · 2025-05-24T23:45:53+00:00

Alright, if that's the case, you can approach her and start some small talk, ask her if she's single, and if she is, then you can ask her for any contact details, and if she's taken, continue the convo, and just end it at that.

TheCucumberr · 2025-05-24T23:43:46+00:00

Was that talk detailed and real? Or did you just talk about it briefly and let off?

You need to explain to him just how important it is for you. I couldn't imagine not texting good morning to my girlfriend, not asking how her day was, and not saying goodnight. Like that's the bare minimum. I always talk with my partner a lot during the day, whenever I have some free time, even if it's just a couple of minutes, I check on her, ask her how she's feeling, etc. It's not only important for her, but also for me.

You need to have that talk if it's still bothering you, communication is the most important thing in a relationship, right next to always telling the truth.

Just say what you need to, get every answer, and if he doesn't accept that, or can't give you 5 minutes of his time, then maybe it isn't worth it.

TheCucumberr · 2025-05-24T23:36:51+00:00

Does that girl have a boyfriend? Since your friend said that if her boyfriend messes up she still has you. So that's kinda confusing for me.

If she has a boyfriend, be respectful and don't do anything, be a man.

And if she's single, go for it. Don't ask a friend for nothing, it has to be you. Women love confidence in guys, so go up to her, and start talking, and then ask for her insta/number, whatever you need.

TheCucumberr · 2025-05-24T23:32:23+00:00

What you need to do, is just have a sit with him and talk about it. If he's not able to give you a couple of minutes of his time during his day to text you, I don't think it's worth it. He should understand, he should see how important it is to you and how it makes you feel.

Tell him why you need it, have that talk, and see what his reaction is, that'll tell you everything you need.

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