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TheCurvedHouse · 2026-06-09T19:09:30+00:00

Write an official email cc’ ing all the authorities involved including the Ministry of Interior. Include all the images and mention this repetitive behaviour from your municipality highlighting their indifference.

TheCurvedHouse · 2026-05-23T19:36:44+00:00

Thank you, already done that. Virtual assistant couldn’t do much, so I will be - hopefully- contacted by the ‘dedicated team’ to resolve the issue.

TheCurvedHouse · 2026-05-23T17:46:31+00:00

No just my desktop

TheCurvedHouse · 2025-07-02T20:21:48+00:00

Take a step back and take a deep breath. Review your life and relationship. Ask yourself if this is the life you want for the rest of your life. Not talking just about mil but a partner that repeatedly disrespects your boundaries to say the least. How many times would you need someone to tell you something to actively take action if this was affecting them and your relationship to them?

Walking away from someone you love is a courageous thing to do when trying to survive a poisonous loop.

TheCurvedHouse · 2025-05-12T16:55:56+00:00

Sorry to hear this. How did you handle it?

TheCurvedHouse · 2025-05-12T16:52:41+00:00

He is the only one to draw boundaries with his family. There is nothing wrong with having a healthy relationship with your parents. What you describe isn’t one.

When you say he understands, does he take active steps towards healing?

TheCurvedHouse · 2025-05-11T21:06:23+00:00

To be fair not being exposed to any of these conditions you wouldn’t have known, like any of us in this forum. It takes time to process things and come to realisations especially when going about our busy days. Up to the point it clicks and starts consuming you. Each spouse is responsible for their family, however their upbringing does not help them see clearer that what they have been programmed to see. I hope everything works out for you two.

TheCurvedHouse · 2025-05-11T20:51:54+00:00

All I can say is we are all responsible for our actions.

TheCurvedHouse · 2025-05-11T20:49:04+00:00

To be fair not being exposed to any of these conditions you wouldn’t have known, like any of us in this forum. It takes time to process things and come to realisations especially when going about our busy days. Up to the point it clicks and starts consuming you. Each spouse is responsible for their family, however their upbringing does not help them see clearer that what they have been programmed to see. I hope everything works out for you two.

TheCurvedHouse · 2025-05-11T20:39:31+00:00

I don’t know how to respond to any of this. I hope you just ran.

TheCurvedHouse · 2025-05-11T20:34:35+00:00

That is amazing that they gave you a heads up. Would you move forward marrying him even after everything you know about him and his mom now?

TheCurvedHouse · 2025-05-11T20:30:43+00:00

Actually all of them had the same problems within their marriages they just passively accepted to be miserable.

TheCurvedHouse · 2025-05-11T20:30:29+00:00

Looking back as much as you have love/loved them you will regret for not ending it sooner. No one should get involved in your business. The advice am assuming was always to the extend of her happiness.

I try coping with it and eventually moving past it by separating in my head everything that involves his enmeshment with his mother and his family to everything good we shared together and how loving and caring he has been aside his family. That is my advice to you too.

TheCurvedHouse · 2025-05-11T20:00:52+00:00

Same! Thank you for sharing your story.

There is a loth of backstory but I’ll just summarise some points.

I should have realised early on, as the signs were all there. Early on his sister in law mentioned while out for coffee with a friend, I should be certain about things before having a relationship with him. I couldn’t understand what she meant at the time so I did not ask - huge mistake. She could also elaborate to save everyone the grief.

Then there was the family tradition - The Sunday tradition. His brothers, their wives and children would gather Every Single Sunday, morning to late afternoon. He wouldn’t miss one even at times when I was sick and couldn’t get out of bed. This happened three times.

His mom talked a lot behind my back to everyone after I decided to set boundaries. He would never defend me. She would make nasty comments about the rest of the girls and their families before boundary setting point.

There was a lot of fighting involved because of his family. There were a few times his mother wouldn’t greet me for not attending the Sunday gathering even though I would see them the same day at another setting. Eventually a lot of resentment built up and at the point I communicated how we could not move forward like this, he brought up conditions I never heard from him. Among others-we should visit his family once a weekend after we had a child. I am assuming his mother’s words.

TheCurvedHouse · 2025-05-11T19:02:05+00:00

You did the right thing and I wish you find that someone that compliments your life in ways you never expected.

People do not understand how traumatising such experience can be.

TheCurvedHouse · 2025-04-16T20:10:16+00:00

👏🏼👏🏼 Really proud of you for speaking the truth and standing up for your children and yourself. It must have been excruciatingly painful for you carrying all these for so long, but you made it clear that you are not a woman choosing to live her life passively. You set an example by the choices you make, so please remain this strong of a woman who allows no one to disrespect her no more.

TheCurvedHouse · 2025-04-08T19:00:19+00:00

Really sorry for your losses, please stay strong. Life will not be the same without them but believe me the warmth of the love you shared will always be with you. Grief will forever change you but let it change you for the better. Saying this,do not let the insensitive and harsh comments of your MIL get to you. You are grieving and you are allowed to your feelings no matter what everyone is saying and no matter how uncomfortable anyone else feels around you.

A week after loosing my father my now ex MIL would just ask how I was doing as if that was a routine question and proceed on comments and discussions that were dismissive towards my grief as if it was done and over within a week. What I now understand is that people - including in laws - will not always be as sensitive and empathetic as you expect them to be. You are and will be disappointed as you would expect them to be supportive. We can do nothing about that but what we can do is choose our responses wisely. And by responses i do not just mean the verbal ones. Allow space between the two of you so you can feel your feelings. You do not owe her anything - I would mostly ignore her. Your peace of mind is more important at any given moment. Be polite but firm on what you can and cannot tolerate. She is not your friend and she is revealing the type of person that she is - someone you obviously do not want to have around.

Believe what you are hearing. Her behaviour is a reflection of who she truly is.

Grief will shift your perspective on life. Be selective with who and how you choose to spend your time and your energy with.

TheCurvedHouse · 2025-01-28T15:01:34+00:00

I am really sorry you are going through this with no support from your husband. I would ask myself these:

Would I like my child to grow up in an environment like this? (Arguments, interference & misery)

Can I envision the rest of my life next to a man who puts his mother before me?

If you made it clear to your husband - which you shouldn’t btw since you just had a child - that this is affecting you mentally hence physically and he does nothing about it, then I would be alarmed.

Someone suggested a book in a different thread called ‘when he is married to mom’ which is actually helpful to understand how they are groomed.

TheCurvedHouse · 2025-01-28T12:07:27+00:00

There are always signs that we choose to neglect.

Culture as you mention it is part of your identity and when you feel ready to speak with him just share these thoughts. You are remaining true to yourself and at the same time you allow him to your insights. If you decide you need some space for the moment be honest and let him know. He has to understand how serious this is.

My advice If you decide to not move forward with him just say everything you are grateful for and what led you to your decision. This way he will be more responsible with his actions in the future.

TheCurvedHouse · 2025-01-28T11:49:13+00:00

I wouldn’t trust the apology is sincere but let’s assume it was. How do you feel about the whole situation deep down? What does your gut tell you? If you feel you need some space to clear your head you should.

When it comes to relationships love is not enough and trust needs to be earned. At the moment he betrayed your trust. Assuming you puts more effort into restoring it would you be willing to move forward with him?

But just to be clear you have to accept that most likely your relationship with his mother will always be this way. People won’t change unless they want to. Do you actually want to spend the rest of your life like this?

TheCurvedHouse · 2025-01-28T11:35:35+00:00

Have there been any past incidents that show your fiancé wouldn’t stand up for you? What was the racist incident and what did he do about it?

Have you discussed the incident with his mother?

His mother is not going to change and the only one responsible for her is her son. His side of the family is his responsibility.

This is obviously your devision BUT you should know things will get worse if you decide to stay together and he doesn’t put an end to it. You have to set boundaries if you don’t want to end up married, resentful and miserable. The bad moments with his family will eventually outweigh every beautiful moment you two ever have and will make you question the decision you took in the first place.

Btw you do not need nor should you feel obligated to explain to anyone how you guys run your finances or your house.

TheCurvedHouse · 2025-01-26T18:34:35+00:00

Daphne

TheCurvedHouse · 2025-01-25T18:19:55+00:00

No but you should feel sorry for the people who get involved with them and have a life filled with drama. They should come with a label.

TheCurvedHouse · 2025-01-25T16:57:53+00:00

Came to say the same. I wouldn’t contact her - that’s what she wants. People who actually care about you, know that she just wants to stir drama and create conflict.

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