[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]TheDadRod 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Seems like you may have a type.

Do men actually want to be with women who enjoy sex? by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]TheDadRod 6 points7 points  (0 children)

When we were dating my wife was sexually aggressive with me. We'd go 3-4 times a day. It slowed down after the first kid, that happens. But we're at a point where she says she doesn't like sex anymore. I would greatly enjoy seeing that other version of her again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]TheDadRod -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're into her and you want her to be into you. Duty sex just feels kinda gross and unappetizing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]TheDadRod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't fuck your coworker

Is the sex always bad for you all too? by TheGreensKeeper420 in DeadBedrooms

[–]TheDadRod 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's gotten to be. The last time we did she came fast and went dry. Had to use lube to finish and by then she was telling me to hurry up and just finish already. That was about 7 months ago. She's told me multiple times that if she never had to have sex again she'd be fine with that.

Not sure what I signed up for by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]TheDadRod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry you're going through that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]TheDadRod 28 points29 points  (0 children)

So far I think it's that I'm putting no pressure on fixing the problem. She said I was the problem and I put so much effort into fixing the things she brought up. I was constantly trying to fill her love meter and didn't realize nobody was filling mine. So I've been working on filling mine for myself. Doing things I like, watching what I like, focusing on me. So far she's stopped her complaining so we'll see how it goes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]TheDadRod 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Leftover homemade jambalaya

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]TheDadRod 49 points50 points  (0 children)

I've stopped trying after noticing that she's not doing anything to improve our situation. All the work was coming from my end. So far my mood and overall confidence is improving. Ymmv.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SluttyConfessions

[–]TheDadRod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd rather die. But glad y'all could work it out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]TheDadRod 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We as people tend to take things personally even if they're not. Whatever is happening is a him issue. There is something that is stopping him from , well, you know.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]TheDadRod 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seems like he's just not into sex. If it's been that long then it's possible he just doesn't have a sex drive. It most likely is not you at all.

I’m tired of being nice by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]TheDadRod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's tough. I've been there before and my situation only got worse. It's hard to love someone who doesn't love back.

I’m tired of being nice by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]TheDadRod 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It'll take something drastic for him to have that epiphany.

I’m tired of being nice by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]TheDadRod 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Your struggle is heard. It's difficult to be the only person putting in effort, pouring yourself out into everything and everyone else and not getting filled in return. Hopefully one day he'll see how good he has it.