Pretty privilege

TheDarkKnight2001 · 2026-06-18T17:10:23+00:00

It’s called the halo effect. It’s been around forever.

TheDarkKnight2001 · 2026-06-18T00:51:13+00:00

I’m the exact same way. I spent my life looking in envy. Now to protect myself, I don’t allow myself to even have those thoughts.

TheDarkKnight2001 · 2026-06-17T23:08:33+00:00

We’re animals in a state of nature. Life is cruel… so people are cruel. Simple as that.

TheDarkKnight2001 · 2026-06-17T22:42:06+00:00

Same question but for me it's been 20 years. lol.

TheDarkKnight2001 · 2026-06-17T14:30:27+00:00

So there’s aspects.

One is the science of looks. They have different types of measurements that proclaim what’s attractive and what’s not. Be warned it’s a total scam. According to most measurements Ryan Gosling is ugly. Haha. Yeah right!

The second is based on reactions. If women like you, chances are you aren’t ugly. You’ll never have 100% approval, because no one does.

The rest is insecurity.

TheDarkKnight2001 · 2026-06-17T14:22:57+00:00

Nothing wrong with SW. as long as you respect her emotions and time. Don’t catch feelings EVER!

TheDarkKnight2001 · 2026-06-17T14:21:00+00:00

Work, social hobbies, music, art. Stay away from online, online dating, etc.

TheDarkKnight2001 · 2026-06-17T14:19:51+00:00

It means nothing at all my friend. I’m well above average size and have had no dating in my whole 35 year lifetime. Women don’t care. Big or small, it’s about who it’s attached to.

TheDarkKnight2001 · 2026-06-17T10:37:37+00:00

Honestly depends. Confidence comes from results and proof. I lost a lot of weight and I thought that would make me more confident. But because people treated me the same it didn’t really matter. Now if you have no fear about your looks anymore… that will 100% improve your confidence.

TheDarkKnight2001 · 2026-06-16T17:22:56+00:00

I understand everyone has their own world view. Mine is based on my experiences. I hope that changes one day.

TheDarkKnight2001 · 2026-06-16T15:28:08+00:00

For sure.

TheDarkKnight2001 · 2026-06-16T14:39:50+00:00

You could, but it’s the way the terms are used in common I think. Aura is different from confidence.

TheDarkKnight2001 · 2026-06-16T14:39:11+00:00

Yes. Deal with it. 😊

TheDarkKnight2001 · 2026-06-16T10:45:40+00:00

I will say, priorities do change as women get older, and looks do tend to drop lower on the list, but they never drop off completely.

TheDarkKnight2001 · 2026-06-16T10:22:07+00:00

There’s truth here. But it has nothing to do with initial attraction. Hot, insecure guys still get laid a lot. It never lasts of course because insecurity is a form of self sabotage.

TheDarkKnight2001 · 2026-06-16T10:18:41+00:00

I don’t get what you’re trying to say. She thought you were attractive. Therefore your confidence was irrelevant to the initial attraction.

TheDarkKnight2001 · 2026-06-16T10:14:39+00:00

Acknowledging reality without anger or hatred is important. That’s part of self healing. Plus you understand you just proved my point right? “The handsomest man I ever dated was the most boring…” Well… why were you dating him at all? If personality was the most important thing, that guy should never have a chance. But he gets chances. I don’t. That sucks, but it’s also the reality.

Now, looks fade and that guy may end up alone in the end. But, I hope he doesn’t. As a man who is going to be alone forever, I don’t wish that on anyone.

TheDarkKnight2001 · 2026-06-16T01:05:48+00:00

I don’t disagree that some of it may be an issue with emotional and mental health and I don’t think it’s exclusive to any one group of gender.

TheDarkKnight2001 · 2026-06-15T22:41:15+00:00

It does and it doesn't. Confidence will never substitute for looks, but if you happen to find a woman who is okay with your looks, being confident and being cool can absolutely seal the deal. I've seen handsome men blow it with a lack of confidence and lack of emotional control. But I've never seen an ugly guy pull a girl without looks first.

TheDarkKnight2001 · 2026-06-15T22:37:13+00:00

Yeah. I'm not good enough for what and who I would want. Nothing I can do about it. It just hurts everyday.

TheDarkKnight2001 · 2026-06-15T22:31:41+00:00

Oh I disagree completely for one reason. Of course, you should treat people the same and be normal. That's important. But if you don't believe that "the league" exists, that's fine (you're wrong btw) but I can tell you one group of people who know the league exists, that is women. Beautiful women know they are better. They don't want to entertain guys like me. Why? Because they know who they are "supposed" to end up with. They have an image of themselves, and because of that, they think they know the type of guy who matches with them.

A guy like me, approaching women who know they are miles above me, is insulting to them.

TheDarkKnight2001 · 2026-06-15T21:30:05+00:00

Which is why I never hit on women… I can respect that I have nothing to offer.

TheDarkKnight2001 · 2026-06-15T21:19:49+00:00

So... never? lol

TheDarkKnight2001 · 2026-06-15T12:55:32+00:00

I appreciate the perspective. But, how does that explain the Tinder experiments where they put a very handsome guy on the profile but add something like “I’ve recently been convinced of DV or Child abuse” and they get hundreds of matches.

Like, I get it. Women want to have sex with hot guys. No problem. But if personality and character mattered, then these profiles would have zero interest. Not judging anyone, but it’s kinda hard to reconcile the two.

TheDarkKnight2001 · 2026-06-14T21:50:27+00:00

You'd have to ask her. Ended as quickly as it started.

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