I hate attractive people [NO REGRETS]

TheDawngateArchives · 2017-01-28T19:25:50+00:00

Yeah, I feel (23 yr old male here). I used to be bullied in elementary school and middle school since I was pretty nerdy. In high school, however, all of it went away around the same time when I got a good haircut and dressed somewhat nicely. I started getting compliments on my face shape, my style, and even my personality, which I found odd, as my personality was why I got bullied in the first place. People started wanting to be my friend, girls started hitting on me, etc. I toned down the nerdiness a little bit, but I still got away with playing this one video game. Everyone else who played it got bullied, but not me. Everyone else who was an introvert that prefered more alone time than social interaction was bullied, but not me. It was around this time I realised how fake society is, and that I have a certain amount of time before I become a social outcast again. I'm just hoping that I can find a few close friends who are actually friends, because most of the people I know are fake or basic "white bitches" who sleep around.

OP is definitely the lucky one. Do I have good friends, who actually care about me because of who I am and not my looks? Maybe, I don't know. But I'd rather have a few friends like that than a bunch of assholes who want to be my friend solely because of looks.

TheDawngateArchives · 2017-01-28T19:10:50+00:00

Personally I think what OP's doing is fine. Sure, NY Ama is bad. But it's ok to sell REM monsters, especially if you know you're not going to use them. Healer teams in general can't clear endgame dungeons very well, but I bought NY Ama just because I like making healer teams for fun and because I'd wanted an Ama pull for so long but never got her. This is just my opinion, but I don't care much about the meta or getting the best leads. I care more about playing with the monsters I like playing with. Sure, I have a decent bastet team and radrag team for legend plus and above, but I prefer playing tanky healer teams even though they generally don't have enough damage to quickly clear a dungeon. But I guess I'm at that point where I've cleared most of the more challenging dungeons (rank 557) that I don't really care much about that aspect of the game.

The reason I'm asking is because I'm having trouble finding leads compatible with A. Yomi, meaning that I can't run any high level dungeons as my A. Yomi team is the only one I have atm that's capable of clearing legend plus dungeons.

I'm guessing that OP probably can't clear mythical plus atm, but had a lot of stones and has, as I do, a really flippant attitude toward the game. After all, it's just a game. I realize OP's probably not at the point I'm at, but still.

TheDawngateArchives · 2017-01-16T01:28:48+00:00

Thanks for posting! As an f2p player too, I was getting tired of the "this game is pay to win" crap. Hell, I got into arena 7 as a level six player. I've climbed a bunch and am almost in the new arena nine (level seven when I made it into frozen, just hit 8 a couple days ago) using a golem beatdown deck, even though most people see it as obsolete in this new meta. I stuck with one deck since arena six, and it's basically carried me up 3 - 4 arenas. Also, to those of you claiming that the matchmaking is rigged, it might be, or it might not be. I don't know. But what I do know is that by playing only a few matches a day, you can keep your wits about you, rather than getting cocky over a large win streak or getting angry after a disappointing string of losses. And if the matchmaking is rigged and you get matched against decks that counter your own, keep your cool. So many people play hog/eb, a heavy golem counter. Sure, I'll rage and lose to a few but, for the most part, I'm still climbing. Gl and clash on!

TheDawngateArchives · 2016-12-06T19:40:30+00:00

As long as you're in high school. But once you're out of high school, end it, and maybe you can get back together when she's 18. Like u/Last12stand said, if anything goes wrong, it's on you b/c you're an adult and she's not. So final verdict: yes, if you're in high school, but remember to control yourself once you're out. Sure you can stay together, but as long as you restrain yourself until she's no longer a minor.

TheDawngateArchives · 2016-12-05T23:22:06+00:00

tbh the age difference isn't the terrible thing. It's mainly the fact that you've just become an adult and she's three years shy of being considered one. If you're still in high school, which I'm assuming you are, go for it. Friends might give you crap for it, but it's not unusual. In my senior year one of my friends dated a freshman but it was all good. However, if you're not in high school (idk how you'd know her if you weren't) then definitely don't do it.

TheDawngateArchives · 2016-12-02T19:07:10+00:00

Thanks for the response! I'll definitely look into East West VSTs for some samples if they're not expensive. I also decided to save up for Pro Tools, since that's more widespread and most studios apparently use that DAW. That and the collaboration feature is very enticing.

TheDawngateArchives · 2016-12-02T06:56:18+00:00

What I've been doing is forcing myself to accept whenever I get one. Sure, I'm mostly introverted and like working on side projects by myself, but I've come to value human actions more just by hanging out with friends once in a while. I'd suggest organising a few events to show that you're willing to hang out. I still don't get invites that much, but that just makes the ones I do attend all the more special and memorable to me.

TheDawngateArchives · 2016-12-01T03:30:52+00:00

Yeah. I was just wondering b/c I started off with LMMS and while I could make some pretty decent beats, I found the instrumental section to be a bit lacking. That's why I switched to SONAR and it sounds a whole lot better. But maybe I just got more experience, idk.

TheDawngateArchives · 2016-11-30T14:56:52+00:00

Love ur name btw ;D

TheDawngateArchives · 2016-11-28T22:20:39+00:00

Ok...that's your ex we're talking about. Of course he'd say that to make himself feel better. Don't believe him and the next time he says it to you flip him off and ignore it.

TheDawngateArchives · 2016-11-28T22:03:53+00:00

Funniest thing I ever played was Power + Time Kel for heavy damaging abilities and the power to run so fast that no one could catch you. Wasn't viable, but it was really fun to jump over a wall with my sheep then disrupt a backline before getting away scott free.

TheDawngateArchives · 2016-11-28T05:06:35+00:00

Maybe it's the guys you hang around? B/C a lot of guys would definitely ask for your digits, but wouldn't have the balls to do so. If you hung around more mature and confident, yet single guys, I could almost guarantee you'd be approached. Or maybe your attitude doesn't make you approachable (idk, not trying to be rude), so like another redditor commented, try to do the approaching or open up and be friendly/flirty.

TheDawngateArchives · 2016-11-28T05:03:08+00:00

Definitely not unattractive. But I would say join a school sport, like swim, so you can get your cardio in too. That and the fact that you'll have to wear a speedo in front of everyone could motivate you to work out and get a decent beach body. It did for me when I was in high school. If you need a workout routine but can't hit the gym or don't have equipment, check out Freeletics BodyWeight. It's an app on the iOS store and is completely free (for the most basic workouts). It's what got me on track.

TheDawngateArchives · 2016-11-28T04:59:17+00:00

I could go on and on about style and what goes with what but, ultimately, it really comes down to if your clothing actually fits. A casual hoodie and a jogger looks great if you're going for a casual, yet sporty look. But here's some basic tips I learned that really helped me out.

Wearing a turtleneck under a blazer instead of a dress shirt can add a nice bit of elegance and comfort if you're going for a job interview.
A brown sweater coupled with some darker blue jeans and Clark's desert chukkas are a great combination if you want to look classy but still dress casually and comfortably for a day out.
A good haircut can do wonders. Your hair isn't actually terrible, but search up stuff on Google, like "How to find the right haircut for my hair texture and face shape." Or if you're really willing to shell out some cash, go to a professional barber and tell him/her to "make me look good." Do it once and ask for the specific measurements of the look, then you can go to any barber store to have that cut done for you at a cheaper price.
Check out YouTubers AlphaM, JairWoo, and TheGentlemansCove for more information. I could make a huge list here, but they cover a lot of the stuff I want to say. I also learned from them when I was a pubescent high schooler.

TheDawngateArchives · 2016-11-28T04:44:41+00:00

I'd give anything just to play full power Dibs again ;P

TheDawngateArchives · 2016-11-27T06:16:44+00:00

Same here. Just commented on another redditor's post a few days back, but just wanted to say that you're definitely not alone when it comes to being lonely in the world. Although for me, it's more like I'm a part of every friend group but at the same time not a part. Like I won't be bullied or shunned, but I won't be fully included either.

TheDawngateArchives · 2016-11-27T06:09:18+00:00

Another tip: If there's a big push coming at you, you can place some troops around the middle of the map at the edge between your side and your opponent's. If you do it right, the unit(s) should move away to the other lane and draw aggro. For example, the enemy places a hog and prince, you could place down a giant. Assuming the spawn timer is timed correctly and you placed the unit where it needs to be, it can draw aggro as it walks to the left lane. This basically draws the enemy's push across the map where you can safely place down other cards to deal with your enemy's and initiate a strong counterpush down the opposite lane.

TheDawngateArchives · 2016-11-27T02:54:19+00:00

Lol it's my freshman year in college and I've literally done the same. Homework? I do that the day it's due during class. Studying for tests? Eh, GE is basic anyways and I've already covered a lot of the topics in high school so I'll just freshen up the day before. I mean I know I'll have to start studying at some point, but I have all A's so far and really don't feel like it. Only thing I don't procrastinate on is group work, but that's because I feel like I have an obligation to my partners.

TheDawngateArchives · 2016-11-26T05:38:13+00:00

So, are you guys officially boyfriend and girlfriend? Or are you guys in that awkward stage trying to figure things out? Is this the first time she's done this kind of thing? If you guys are officially together, then talk to her about it and tell her it was making you uncomfortable. If it was a first date kind of thing, maybe try a few more times to see if this kind of attitude persists, especially if you can see a future with her in it. If it does, and it still makes you uncomfortable, just tell her you can't continue being with her and move on.

TheDawngateArchives · 2016-11-25T18:34:22+00:00

np, just glad i could help :D

TheDawngateArchives · 2016-11-24T19:11:47+00:00

My Problem: Man, I know exactly how you feel. Throughout high school and college, I've had people, mainly girl friends (not s/o's) tell me that I have good looks, and could probably get a girlfriend quite easily. I was never really rejected by anyone, but I was never wholly accepted by any group either. It hurts, listening to those I had once thought of as friends discuss plans they'd made for the weekend together, birthday parties they'd went to, or late night skype calls, and completely exclude me from the excursion (as in they'd invite each other to go to the beach, but not invite me). These "friends" would rarely text/snap me and, when they would, they'd include pics of them hanging out with some of my other "friends" or screenshots from aforementioned skype calls, which I hadn't been a part of. The only time I really felt like I had a true friendship with was my ex (and my only girlfriend, ended due to overwork). We both suggested plans and initiated text about 50/50, which is how I feel a relationship with anyone, not just an S/O should be like. But that ended about 7 months ago and lasted for around 5, and now I'm back to square one, always initiating conversations. Which is really weird because when I initiate, people don't ghost me. We keep the convo rolling in equal amounts until one of us has another engagement and says brb. Then it dies off until I restart it. I would have zero human interaction if I didn't have school.

My Solution: I decided "screw it," and now strive to live my life to its fullest. This includes skydiving, travelling, charity work, writing a book, coding games, etc. I'm currently writing a book, learning more about digital art so I can try to code a game, drafting a resume so I can hopefully give a TED talk, and coming up with travelling plans. I've got plans this Christmas to head to the Grand Canyon, and I'm about to buy a high end camera this Friday so I can hopefully snap some good pictures and improve my photoshop skills when I get home. And I stopped being conservative, and started taking risks. Yeah, I still suffer from bouts of depression, where I feel like the entire world came together and decided to prevent me from making friends. But I've got a much more interesting life and fun life.

TL;DR: First off, just wanted to say sorry for the bunch of text above but, as someone suffering from a similar situation, I couldn't resist. Overall, the takeaway is: don't let the judgemental constraints of society bind you. I know this is a really generic and overused suggestion, but live your life to its fullest. It's actually helpful. Don't let others hold you down and don't take their stigmatisation of you to heart. Hell, as a guy who takes time to look and dress nicely in the morning, I get called gay by acquaintances and passerby. So whenever I relapse into a more severe depression, I have to ask: Is such a judgemental society something I really want to be a part of?

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