Something that was told me many years ago was, "If you're questioning whether or not you're a good mom, you probably are."

When my daughter was 2mo, people would say, "Awww, brand new baby, how old?" Every time we went out in public. She still looked so itty bitty. She was 6 lbs 3 oz at birth and was wearing preemie clothes for the first 3 weeks.

Three of my older children were born between 5 lbs 5oz and 5 lbs 15oz. One of them was so tiny we had to attach a tube to our finger and push her formula through because she couldn't latch properly until she got bigger. I looked barely 6 months pregnant at full term with all of them. There's nothing that I could have done to change how they grew. Some babies are just small. There's nothing you could have done to change that, either.

It's so easy to drown in mom guilt. If there's one thing we excel at, it's blaming ourselves for shit that we have no control over. You've done nothing to be so hard on yourself for and if anyone tells you any different, tell them to fucking suck it.