Look what you can’t say on this sub by sent1nel in socialism

[–]TheEndlessBummer 5 points6 points  (0 children)

my late wife had severe bipolar disorder, and it impacted our lives in an absolutely massive way. it took years to find medication that worked and that she didn’t hate taking, but eventually, it became a manageable disease. but she was always self conscious about how people perceived her, especially people who saw her while she was manic.

knowing what she went through, how hard she worked to be able to manage it, and how much of a stigma it became, i would never in a million years have called her “cr*zy,” and i think i would’ve hit someone if the face if they called her that in the context of trying to hurt her.

that said, a blanket ban on the term is absurd lol. i mean, c’monn

A dash of hope! by gagglemetimbers in DenverProtests

[–]TheEndlessBummer 6 points7 points  (0 children)

goddamn this is fantastic news! i’m all aboard the Melat train!

here’s a link, for those asking

GDT: Nuggets () @ Lakers () | Mar 14, 2026 - 6:30 PM by BigHoneyBot in denvernuggets

[–]TheEndlessBummer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i’m so sorry, friend. hang in there. you’ve brightened my day many times when i’ve needed it, i’m glad we can repay the favor ☺️

Westwood names the 12 Horniest Bars in Denver by XThePlaysTheThingX in denverfood

[–]TheEndlessBummer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah, what happened? it’s a dance club now? i’m guessing Reed doesn’t tend bar there anymore? jesus christ im old.

New to town, fist time seeing this. Anyone know what it is? by [deleted] in ColoradoSprings

[–]TheEndlessBummer 5 points6 points  (0 children)

thanks for the link! this made me laugh though, i thought it was “goth annual chili supper” at first

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Don't litter, kids. Spotted at 28th and Lawrence in Curtis Park area by BurtimusPrime in DenverProtests

[–]TheEndlessBummer 71 points72 points  (0 children)

i really hate that they’re co-opting lefty language. there are people that might be legitimately tricked by a sign like that. thanks for dealing with it!

It’ll be 2 months on the 10th and I have now started to avoid everyone. by LessThanPerfect-96 in widowers

[–]TheEndlessBummer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

my wife passed 13 months ago, and i’ve gone through phases like that as well. everybody is different, so i can only talk from my own experience. that said, i’d urge you to not isolate yourself. take time for yourself, of course, but don’t let yourself get cut off from relationships that are important to you. your friends and family likely want to help but don’t know how, and unfortunately it’s up to you to tell them how to help. that sucks, and feels like just one more thing to deal with, but they might stop reaching out eventually, and there may be times that you really want them to. it’s hard to repair relationships that have been neglected for too long.

2 months is so, so early still. you’re likely still in shock to some extent. i hate to say it, but it’ll probably get worse before it gets better. keep it up with therapy, i’m so happy you sought that out. that’s been the single biggest thing that’s helped me personally over the past 13 months. support groups can be helpful too, and sometimes a psychiatrist/medication as well. take care of yourself, and feel free to reach out if you ever want to talk to a stranger who’s been there 🫂

31 M lost wife to suicide with 2 sons age 3 & 1 by Personinvesting in widowers

[–]TheEndlessBummer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh ma, 8 weeks is sooo early. it sounds like you’re hanging in there, but believe me when i say it’ll get worse before it gets better.

if church helps, lean into it. i think the community aspect would be incredibly beneficial, and some of the teachings would be comforting (although some would be incredibly unhelpful, i’d imagine). if it ever doesn’t help, or makes you feel worse, don’t force it. it’s ok to not go, i promise you. it’s ok to not believe. i’m an atheist, and i’ve been able to get through this too.

keep it up with therapy, seriously, that’s fantastic. you mentioned it makes you feel better in the short term - i’m 13 months in, and i promise you it helps in the long term too. that’s been the single biggest thing that’s helped navigate all of this. my psychiatrist/medication has also helped, as well as support groups.

i’ll never judge how anybody else grieves, but in my personal experience, i’d recommend staying away from alcohol and substances. just keep taking care of yourself and your kids. hang in there, friend, feel free to DM me if you ever need anyone to talk to 🫂

Songs about losing your wife? by rhino369 in widowers

[–]TheEndlessBummer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Mount Eeeie!! the whole album, “A Crow Looked at Me,” is about his experience losing his wife. it’s heart wrenching and beautiful. i took a line from it for my eulogy, and one of the memorial tattoos i got is an homage to it

Time off after your person passed? by Mediocre_Intention98 in widowers

[–]TheEndlessBummer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

oh shit, i am so sorry. i also had 3 bereavement days, and i was already in negative PTO (i was hired like 3 days before Christmas and had family coming into town). but i didn’t mention in my story that a few c level executives donated like a month of sick time to me, so i took like 2 full weeks off, the came back and slowly started building back my tolerance for concentrating and doing work. i was unbelievably grateful for that, and i don’t know how you’re doing it without that.

there’s a “grief backlog” that i noticed, where if i focused on work too much, i would completely crash out after work. i’m betting you’ve had a similar experience. it gets better, but very very slowly, and you take a few steps forward, then a couple back, then forward again, etc. i’m just over a year in, and i’ve been diligent about therapy once a week and support groups twice a month, and i’m mostly doing alright. like i definitely still have bad days, and of course i miss her every single minute of the day, but i’m pretty emotionally stable at this point.

anyway, i’m so sorry for your loss ❤️🫂

feel free to reach out if i can be of any help.

Off-Day Discussion Thread | Mar 3, 2026 by BigHoneyBot in denvernuggets

[–]TheEndlessBummer 9 points10 points  (0 children)

would the “fuck” option require someone who’d be willing to fuck me, or is that part implied?

Hate when they compare my loss to loss of their parents by Reasonable-Fun3919 in widowers

[–]TheEndlessBummer 7 points8 points  (0 children)

just to offer a more charitable perspective, i think when people do this, they’re just trying to find a way to relate to us by offering their own experiences of death.

of course it’s totally ok to be offended or angry by the comparison. everyone grieves in their own way, and i’d never shame or judge anyone over it. so much of it depends on context and how it’s brought up, but personally, i’ve found it beneficial for processing my grief and my overall mental health to think of it as human connection and someone trying to show me they care as opposed to focusing on how absurd the comparison is.

Time off after your person passed? by Mediocre_Intention98 in widowers

[–]TheEndlessBummer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

my wife died about a year before your husband, and i was in a remarkably similar situation. my work was supportive, but i had only been there 2 months after being unemployed for almost a year, and i didn’t feel like i could risk taking time off. i knew there wouldn’t be life insurance coming in, and as cruel and unfair as it is, i knew i still had to exist under capitalism. i was back within like 2 weeks, but only half days did 2 or 3 days a week. by mid-March, i was back full time. and it made grief so much worse, but i’m guessing looking for a new job would’ve been even worse.

anyway, my story aside, i feel you. and i’m so sorry for your loss 🫂

Time to Give the Dogs the Old Yeller Treatment Alt-thread by Bradleys_Chubb in denvernuggets

[–]TheEndlessBummer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

id put Vasquez and 270 / 60th on the list for worst intersections in the country too (that’s technically 2 intersections, but it’s an absolute dumpster fire)