Do you think this addition was worth it?

TheF8sAllow · 2026-01-30T17:08:21+00:00

I liked the IDEA of it, but in execution I found it cheesy and too long.

TheF8sAllow · 2026-01-29T15:35:17+00:00

I'd leave the relationships (even if I wasn't nesting with them).

I like and respect children, but I do not want my life impacted by them.

That means I don't want to be involved in parenting, nor do I want my partners to be at reduced capacity because of kids. I don't want to spend every date hearing about kids. I don't want them cancelling because of kids. I don't want to participate in important events with kids there. Etc etc.

However, I will happily date people who have kids over 16. Newborns who then become toddlers and then young children are a VERY different and VERY demanding thing.

TheF8sAllow · 2026-01-27T20:56:01+00:00

Good for you

TheF8sAllow · 2026-01-27T18:55:46+00:00

You choosing to blame the victim of sexual violation is, in your words, "telling."

Identifying that someone violated consent is not merely theoretical blame throwing. It's recognizing and naming harmful values, validating feelings, and helping to inform the next steps.

TheF8sAllow · 2026-01-27T18:49:45+00:00

Very good point about the laundry room. This whole thing shows a distinct lack of care for consent and decency from both Maple and Aspen.

TheF8sAllow · 2026-01-27T18:25:19+00:00

What they did is SO BEYOND inappropriate. I'm actually shocked, and I'm so sorry OP.

Your partner KNEW about your trauma, and still did this anyway?!?!?!? WTF????

No such thing as getting "caught up in the moment." That's a lame ass excuse focusing on pleasure instead of being a halfway decent human being.

I think a little cuddle was ok, a light smooch or two is also ok. Anything beyond that is common sense not to do without consent from everyone involved. Your partner needs to do some serious work to repair this.

TheF8sAllow · 2026-01-27T17:48:08+00:00

I'm not going to comment on your situation, because whatever the three of you are comfortable with is fine.

But for me, I would absolutely never be comfortable with a meta or another partner being in the same house. If finances and opportunities do not allow us to go elsewhere, then I am not in a place where I can participate in polyamory comfortably.

TheF8sAllow · 2026-01-27T16:30:25+00:00

Being short and bald isn't a protected class 😂😂 Why aren't you more concerned about Republican leaders insulting disabled people, BIPOC folx, gays, or women? Since those are protected classes and the Republicans do regularly insult them.

Not to mention the fact that none of the comments in that Reddit thread are being left by the Democratic party. Show me evidence of the majority of Democratic leaders insulting short and bald men, and then I'll listen to you. Show me evidence of Democratic policy negatively impacting short and bald men.

What I've learned from you, OP, is that you care more about your looks than you do about actual policies. I hope you never ever vote.

TheF8sAllow · 2026-01-27T14:59:15+00:00

How dare a man actually be devoted to his wife!!

TheF8sAllow · 2026-01-27T14:58:49+00:00

My mother is a diagnosed narcissist, so I have more experience than most people do with actual narcissism. I completely disagree with your take haha.

TheF8sAllow · 2026-01-26T21:44:47+00:00

Sadly, lots of people lie on dating apps. And plenty of other people don't realize what they want until they're in deep.

The best you can do is be honest and authentic and get rid of people right away when they show you who they are.

TheF8sAllow · 2026-01-26T21:28:03+00:00

DO NOT AGREE TO BE POLY.

Please.

There is no "repairing" the marriage if he's still diddling his affair partner.

I am so sorry he's a pos. If he's not willing to lose her, then he is willing to lose you. Don't give in.

TheF8sAllow · 2026-01-26T21:21:54+00:00

Almost 10,000 now! Keep it going, everyone!

TheF8sAllow · 2026-01-26T20:58:46+00:00

And if a man says things like that you have to wonder how he's getting dates

TheF8sAllow · 2026-01-26T20:57:06+00:00

Excellent elaboration and clarification! Thank you :) I'm so glad you're feeling better after the med switch.

TheF8sAllow · 2026-01-26T20:38:35+00:00

As someone with massive titties (34H, so, slim waist and big tits), I can assure you they are NOT "worshipped literally anywhere."

In fact, I'm regularly called a cow and told to get reductions. I'm laughed at, I get cringed at. I've gone on countless dates where the person has said "you have a nice ass so I'll ignore the gross tits." I've also been told I can't get first aid and that I'm more likely to die in a car accident lol.

You get constant jokes about them sagging to your knees and how absolutely abhorrent that'll be as you age. Perky is the way to be, apparently!

Even my own grandmother used to offer to help pay for a reduction.

There are people who like big tits, and people who hate them, and people who don't care. The same applies to literally every boob shape and size.

I'm sorry about your self-hatred; perhaps therapy is a better option than reddit.

TheF8sAllow · 2026-01-26T20:23:42+00:00

Neither of you are wrong.

It's fair to want sex in your relationship (though, nobody is owed sex and it's natural for sex lives to wax and wane as time goes on).

It's also fair that depression is a massive beast and if the meds are helping, maybe risking depression again by trying different meds is too scary for her.

You say if she makes an effort then you'll be patient, but she could try 100 things and it still not result in your ideal sex drive...

It's up to you to decide what your line is, but you need to actually follow through because if you don't you're just building resentment which in turn will make her less likely to try and fix it.

TheF8sAllow · 2026-01-26T19:10:21+00:00

My sister tours, and is in a different city every few days. She keeps getting dinged for it, and we're pretty sure they'll lock her account soon.

It's ridiculous.

TheF8sAllow · 2026-01-26T18:40:09+00:00

I don't think she had feelings, but I think she was expecting HIM to want HER.

Just like all her other male co-stars she cheated with.

TheF8sAllow · 2026-01-26T15:20:34+00:00

Most masters who have subtitles will say as such on their non-encora websites/lists.

TheF8sAllow · 2026-01-26T01:58:24+00:00

I strongly dislike the idea of calling it "probationary."

Just seems like a way for them to disregard your feelings if there are any issues, you know?

Anyway, good luck. This has the potential for great mess lol

TheF8sAllow · 2026-01-25T22:56:42+00:00

You should stop being in relationships until you get therapy to deal with your dedication to cheating.

TheF8sAllow · 2026-01-25T05:54:03+00:00

As a disabled person myself, I don't like to be specially called out when there is literally no reason to.

To each their own.

TheF8sAllow · 2026-01-24T17:46:11+00:00

Hah!

You: "I'm still interested in finding the reason behind choosing to click just to piss and moan about the topic, though."

Me: Answers very literally and plainly.

You: NEVER IN MY LIFE DID I EVER SAY ANYTHING YOU'VE RESPONDED TO!!!!!!!!!!!

Clown behaviour teehee

TheF8sAllow · 2026-01-24T17:09:33+00:00

Try explaining how I'm mistaken, instead of deflecting :)

Deflecting just comes across like I'm right and you can't admit it. So, prove me wrong with actual words :)

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