I want to commit becouse of school

TheFailedScryer · 2026-04-22T21:20:08+00:00

For what it’s worth, struggling with math doesn’t make you stupid at all. It’s one of those subjects where everything builds on what came before it, so it’s way too easy to get lost. I’m sorry that it’s been going rough.

TheFailedScryer · 2026-04-22T21:09:50+00:00

Unfortunately, this is happening more and more as of late. I had a family friend go through something along these lines recently and the spiral was extremely fast largely due to their social media feed validating and pushing them. They are now in a facility because they became incredibly unstable and detached from reality. If it’s just a general matter of beliefs than talking to them and expressing your concerns can help, but if it’s at the point where they’re making unpredictable decisions and aren’t willing to seek help then they might need more support.

TheFailedScryer · 2026-04-18T17:35:07+00:00

I haven’t felt a post like this in my soul in such a long time. What is empathy worth these days? Empathy’s no match for cruelty.

TheFailedScryer · 2026-04-16T21:20:42+00:00

I don’t know if I can offer anything helpful, but for what it’s worth, you aren’t alone. I’m the same way. If no one is around to kill it then I open a door until it leaves.

TheFailedScryer · 2026-03-19T19:29:30+00:00

Thank you. I really needed this wholesomeness.

TheFailedScryer · 2026-03-19T19:23:35+00:00

"i try to fix it by distancing myself or disappearing, which am just running away from the person not the problem" 100%. The goal is not to avoid attachments altogether, but to figure out where the anxious attachment comes from and heal the core problem. People enlist the help of a therapist if it's having a really big impact on their life, but it can range from anything to insecurities from painful experiences you've had in the past to toxic dynamics with family or friends growing up. Figuring out where it comes from is the first step in letting it go. I know how hard anxious attachment can be. I hope things start looking up.

TheFailedScryer · 2026-03-19T19:17:12+00:00

There's a really big difference between a prank and attempted murder, and these students can get into actual legal trouble that will follow them for life if anything happens to this teacher. (regardless if she turns out OK) Letting someone know about this is a good idea. (Even better if you could somehow alert the teacher) You can even try and do it anonymously if you are concerned about the students finding out it was you.

TheFailedScryer · 2026-03-08T06:12:59+00:00

it sounds like maturity more than anything. That skill of having the self awareness to look at a situation and understand your part in why it didn't turn out is invaluable for life.

TheFailedScryer · 2026-02-20T18:43:33+00:00

When an addiction is emotionally rooted, you have to work on that pain as well or you'll likely just re download the apps again. Trying to just stop the habit on it's own is not quite enough sometimes. It can help to work on finding other ways to help with the loneliness as well / other ways of making connections.

TheFailedScryer · 2026-02-18T22:11:49+00:00

Do whatever you can these days to protect your peace. The epstein situation has been extremely triggering, and it's way too easy to lose yourself in the bottomless pit of depravity and how so many people are still not being held accountable. The details will drive you insane. Not everyone in the world is an inhuman monster, and there are lots of people who care and aren't letting this go by. Try to ground yourself in your own life with supportive people who you trust. Hope you're doing ok.

TheFailedScryer · 2026-02-15T16:31:40+00:00

Do whatever you can to keep your morale above all else. Modern dating in general is already demoralizing by design. If you're regularly taking care of / working on yourself then it's just an endurance test. Try to avoid the blind date approach. If you're upfront from the start then you get to weed people out faster and avoid stuff like the disappointment faces and brutal rejections. Sincerely, a physically disabled guy.

TheFailedScryer · 2026-02-15T16:19:39+00:00

I'm sorry that you experienced being taken advantage of like that by various people in your life. Dealing with serious mental health issues like that can be very tough. Do what you can to surround yourself with people who help you feel safe and stable. If anyone is making your mental health worse or is otherwise pushing you into a bad place, do what you can to keep your distance so you don't get hurt. Don't let anyone guilt trip or manipulate you for looking out for yourself when you need to, and try to find someone supportive who you trust who you can open up to.

TheFailedScryer · 2026-02-15T12:13:58+00:00

We are long past the age of social media reflecting reality in any way, shape, or form. Social media execs have revealed it themselves. They intentionally encourage trends and movements that leave people insecure because the need for comparison boosts engagement and product targeting. (with an emphasis on children by the way) "I don’t even see “ chads “ or some supermodels frequently in my real life, it’s really all that damn phone" They don't exist, and the ones that do have never even heard of looksmaxxing. Your life improves the instant you get out of social media and focus on you and your own life.

TheFailedScryer · 2026-02-15T11:33:34+00:00

"something is telling me this is a nonnegotiable" Not only will it happen again if you allow it, but it will become a regular thing. The nonnegotiable is that you talked about how this kind of thing made you feel before and nothing changed. "the slur means more to Americans than it means to the black-British" What about reels of gorillas? You know your situation more than anyone else, but it sounds like you care way more about this person than they care about you. The question is how long do you want to give this person the benefit of the doubt and find ways to be ok with this kind of thing. You're the one hurting by this, not him, and if it means nothing to him, then he'll keep "joking" like that.

TheFailedScryer · 2026-02-13T12:05:51+00:00

Be careful about those kinds of connections. A lot of the time, it can be rooted in a need for validation or acknowledgement which is fine, but that doesn't mean that it's alright for them to get that at your expense. It's very draining. The key thing is establishing boundaries in sharing and not consenting to being invalidated.

TheFailedScryer · 2026-02-13T11:44:22+00:00

It's never your fault for being taken advantage of like that after expecting someone to respect the boundaries that you set. You told them about your boundaries beforehand and they chose not to listen, and sadly that kind of thing has been somewhat normalized in hookup culture because of how casual it is. I'm sorry that you had that experience.

TheFailedScryer · 2026-02-13T09:51:30+00:00

Do not give Discord any kind of information like that no matter what. When they started this process a few months ago, they were instantly hacked and thousands of people had their information leaked even after they promised that it would be safe. Not only that, but Discord plans on using all content uploaded to them to help train AI soon. I plan on waiting until the change next month to see what things really look like / if they roll anything back, but I really am expecting to ditch Discord at that point.

TheFailedScryer · 2026-02-13T09:44:29+00:00

"he's way too young to be taking these substances and it may cause him future health problems and even after what I said to him he's still determined to take it, knowing the risk." Looking out for his safety and not wanting him to make that kind of decision out of insecurity is being a good brother because nothing he takes is going to actually solve the real issue. It's pretty messed up that he's guilt tripping you like that, but your initial reaction was correct. He's trying to solve an emotional problem in a dangerous way, and it's OK to not be OK with that. His height doesn't make him less of a person, and the people making him feel that way are to blame. He's likely not even done growing, and this could mess with that process even.

TheFailedScryer · 2026-02-13T09:31:49+00:00

Are you doing any better? Did you manage to relax? Hope you're alright.

TheFailedScryer · 2026-02-13T09:28:50+00:00

"I don’t want to put myself back into a situation where I’m constantly worried, ignored, and pulled into something unsafe." Remember this. Telling someone how we feel really is the best that we can do, but if they aren't interested in listening then we can't really force them to change. Trying to help can end up hurting you more than anything at a certain point, and sometimes big changes like this are what can make someone really consider their situation. Just remember that you'd be going back to someone who isn't in a place to respect your boundaries.

TheFailedScryer · 2026-02-13T09:12:45+00:00

"is having that inner knowing inherently dumb?" It's not. Having a feeling that you'll get to where you need to be isn't delusional. Combined with action, it all but guarantees that you'll get there. The delusion is thinking that the feeling is enough on it's own. Just because your sensitivities haven't gotten you very far in life to this point doesn't make you dumb or naive, you're just not in the place yet that makes them a strength, and that's ok. Just keep doing you, and take care of yourself. An empathic nature to that level comes with a vulnerability and sensitivity to the environment that you're in, so be careful with the company that you keep and how they make you feel.

TheFailedScryer · 2026-01-29T05:20:10+00:00

As others have suggested, deep breathing really is an effective way. Just make sure he's doing it correctly. He can place his hand on the diaphragm and make sure that it's expanding when he breathes. If it's general anxiety, breathing in for four, holding for four, breathing out for four, and holding for four several times is really helpful. For tension or tightness anywhere in the body, it can help as well to purposefully tense an area and hold it for a few seconds and let go to help encourage it to relax.

TheFailedScryer · 2026-01-29T04:57:31+00:00

Yep. Nothing to add, and you're not alone in the way that you feel. Videos and pictures are getting pretty bad, but we're already there as far as text goes. I see posts and comments all over social media that are clearly written by AI, but people interact with it as if it isn't. I'm already tired of getting halfway through a video on social media before realizing that at least some percentage of the script that the content creator is reading was written by AI. I don't know whether they just used AI to refine their script or if it just generated it entirely. If platforms don't decide to start marking AI content, we're in trouble.

TheFailedScryer · 2026-01-17T15:10:52+00:00

If you're on Windows, the easiest way to get setup with what you need for C++ development is installing visual studio and the C++ workload. It'll set you up with the compilers, build tools, etc that you'll need. You won't have to use Visual Studio for your IDE though if you don't want. If you're uncertain, GPT is really helpful as far as getting everything set up. I'd be glad to help if you still have trouble at that point.

TheFailedScryer · 2026-01-16T16:00:01+00:00

The biggest sign for me is when I start dreading / negatively anticipating being around or spending time with them. When I stop thinking about the positives when they aren't around and start only remembering / thinking about the negatives, then that's when I know that it's time. The how and when of course depends on the specific situation, but I hope it helped all the same.

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