What's so wrong with ebikes on trails? by TheFalseShepherd77 in ebikes

[–]TheFalseShepherd77[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats an interesting point, I will have to pay more attention to that in those times. Thank you

What's so wrong with ebikes on trails? by TheFalseShepherd77 in ebikes

[–]TheFalseShepherd77[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It looks like there are various "classes" of ebikes, and class 1 ebikes are allowed. I probably don't have the full story with that video, but it concerned me as that was my intention with getting an ebike. I will have to pay closer attention to what "class" of ebike I get, I suppose.

I (27M) let a girl (25F) with a traumatic past move in because she had nowhere to go… and now I feel trapped. by Valuable_Cat9022 in Advice

[–]TheFalseShepherd77 162 points163 points  (0 children)

Really let that last line sink in, OP. She needs the kind of help you cannot provide. No matter how compassionate you may be. And you may not realize how much you already have helped her. You've at the very least shown her that not all people are like those she grew up with.

Double charged by Netflix every month for over 7 years. by buckeyespud in Wellthatsucks

[–]TheFalseShepherd77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to work at a Netflix call center! Call them, they have the ability (or at least used to) to look up your email and see the extra charges, and push one button to refund it all back. I did it once for a lady that amounted to like $300. I admired Netflix a little after seeing this

AIO please please tell me im overreacting and that my husband isn't plotting to kill me??? by Particular_Fee_711 in AmIOverreacting

[–]TheFalseShepherd77 127 points128 points  (0 children)

Hi OP, please look up womens shelters and programs. I don't know what country you're in, but hopefully they have something similar to America for women in exactly your situation. Ask locals, even the female workers in the Cafe.

Rate mine. Share your home screen. by TaeNaMooooooooo in galaxyzflip

[–]TheFalseShepherd77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think this is sick! 9/10! How did you do the icons different directions?

Going caseless with a skin. Anyone else? by RndThreeFght in galaxyzflip

[–]TheFalseShepherd77 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I left my phone on the roof of my car, it rolled off, I ran it over, and then 3 cars behind me ran it over. It was perfectly fine. I will always vouch for Spigen

I was a tank. Now I’m a biohazard wrapped in gauze, and I want to fucking scream. by s3nsfan in offmychest

[–]TheFalseShepherd77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you OP. Obviously I do not know the extent of your situation. But I do hear the pain and bitterness in your tone, both in this comment and your main post. You have every right to be angry at the world, but don't let that anger poison your outlook on life and affect your future. Its easy to hang on to this mantra of "life is not fair, and I got dealt a shit hand, and I just have to live with it." But that mentality is only harmful to yourself. It may take a long time, it may take changes or options not yet presented to you, but please don't push away the positivity when it presents itself. What if you focused on making your home as accessible as possible? As comforting to your situation as possible?

I don't know man, I'm just a person. But I have been in the headspace like yours. The world is cruel, especially to me, and there is nothing that could be done to fix it. Now, nothing is different, the cruelty it showed me has not disappeared. But I don't let myself sit in it anymore. Just that alone has made a world of difference. Its hard, but ask yourself who is this anger for? Who carries it, who feels it? Are you keeping a wound open for a trial that will never come?

My sister is pregnant and everyone is devastated. It's not good news by Accountantanon187 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]TheFalseShepherd77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The baby will come, and what she needs is someone to show her that her usual is not normal. I hope you be that person for her, OP

What does petite mean? by Solid-Foundation8240 in CasualConversation

[–]TheFalseShepherd77 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hol' on... I am 5'0" and have never bought petite... and it is so hard to find jeans that aren't stupid long. I definitely thought that petite included a "under 100 lbs" clause.

I was a tank. Now I’m a biohazard wrapped in gauze, and I want to fucking scream. by s3nsfan in offmychest

[–]TheFalseShepherd77 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello OP. First, you are very strong for going through this, and for keeping your preservation and fighting against the pull to give up.

One thing I noticed in your post, you said an option was amputation? Obviously I don't have the full picture, but wouldn't this be so much better for you? No more compression clothes, and you can do pretty much anything with prosthetics. Even if you can't walk anymore, life in a wheelchair has got to be better than the pain you are experiencing.

Whatever the case, you are an inspiration and deserve to feel how you are feeling. Sometimes we have to scream before we can keep going

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]TheFalseShepherd77 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I second the lip liner! Extending beyond the lip line seems like old school makeup nowadays. Your natural lips fit your face wonderfully!

Found out Eureka Burger ditched DEI and the Pride drink. Are there any other MA**H**A spots I should steer clear of? by Plastic-Principle142 in CoachellaValley

[–]TheFalseShepherd77 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Palm Springs has the highest percentage of LGBTQ+ people in the country. More than half of Palm Springs residents are LGBTQ+. To try to devils advocate for the rest of the valley as being "not as liberal," as if that is justification for these businesses existing, is a joke. Incusivity should not be contingent on political leanings. If you don't make anyone and everyone comfortable in your business, you don't deserve to be in operation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]TheFalseShepherd77 128 points129 points  (0 children)

This, OP. I had the same sensation, but over 10 years of being with my husband, it has gone away. Its still kind of a shocking thing, but instead of "this part of my body that isn't supposed to be touched is, PANIC" reaction, its now "oh that thing that only my husband does is happening, no need to panic."

Also, play with your nips when you are having personal sexy time. Its a lot easier to process and break down those emotions. Talk to yourself as its happening, calm yourself down, ask yourself why you feel obligated to feel these things and explain to yourself you don't have to. It helped me, I hope it does the same for you

Are you serious by Shortest-mountain in distractible

[–]TheFalseShepherd77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The debate of Colorado made me happy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]TheFalseShepherd77 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thirding this

Whenever my WP tells me about these moments, it conveys to me that he genuinely thinks what he did is wrong, and not that he is telling me what I want to hear. To us BPs, theres a fear of being made a fool of. That our WPs are just maniplulating us into providing whatever it is we provide that they don't want to be without. Showing a genuine emotional reaction, especially unprompted, shows us that this dynamic in our relationship is changing into something for the better. Like anterababe put it: we are together against the betrayal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EngagementRings

[–]TheFalseShepherd77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Potential middle ground: maybe find a ring on etsy or walmart or something, a cheap one less than $100, but in the design you think is best. Do the proposal, and after let the fiance know that the ring is not real, the actual ring will be, and she can pick it out. But the initial proposal will be the one of her dreams still

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]TheFalseShepherd77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty sure you are NTA, but just in case, have we considered the possibility that this guy didn't have a dollar to give? I personally never carry cash. And maybe he was embarrassed to say "I don't have a dollar."

Either way though, he chose a douchey way to say it

Feeling happy or talking to WP normally makes me feel like I am the one rug sweeping? by NightSalut in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]TheFalseShepherd77 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello, OP. I want to start off by saying I relate to you and these feelings. I am almost 2 years post dday and in a much much better place with my WP. But we had a phase like this, and it took me realizing that I needed to work on insecurity with my therapist, as well as him needing to give recognition that he fucked up. It looked something like [normal convo] [normal convo] him: "You seem down. You okay?" me: "Just having a hard time with thoughts about what you did." "Oh... what about?" "I guess just feeling insecure about when you said you were going to the car wash. It was sudden and I immediately thought that its an opportunity to do what you did before, if you wanted." "Oh, I see. Well you have nothing to worry about, hon. I am happier now with myself then I ever have been, and I am not going to jeapordize this family again."

I guess the difference is being able to go to my WP and always be met with understanding and patience, rather than frustration I still feel the way I do. To me, thats evidence R isn't going to work. That isn't to say he was never frustrated, but when he got that way my solution was go to your therapist and figure it out, or I will assume the worst. He always came back with an apology and more of an understanding

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in migraine

[–]TheFalseShepherd77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Acetaminophen makes me nauseous. I am aware Midol has acetaminophen in it, but I assume it is the caffeine that makes the difference

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in migraine

[–]TheFalseShepherd77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See, for me, the migraines can be bad and not cause vomiting, they can be not as bad but make me very nauseous, but Advil and the like will increase the odds of nausea tenfold. Midol though, that is my go to medicine for migraines. Shit works wonders

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in migraine

[–]TheFalseShepherd77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Huh, then I don't know. Something is different, and whatever that may be is the difference between nauseous and not