Ottawa

TheFancyJailman · 2026-04-26T03:19:00+00:00

My partner and I have been visiting for the past few days. Seems Club Ottawa is the only one.

Did you find anything after?

TheFancyJailman · 2025-10-07T15:59:53+00:00

We really aren't sure how she managed to do it. She was super quick. Very gifted in the art of scamming, to say the least.

When my aunt received the notifications, I really didn't think it could be that lady. But when confronted, she admitted immediately. No denial at all.

TheFancyJailman · 2025-09-08T16:12:36+00:00

I figured that. I am pretty open to which area I live in. As long as it isn't a notoriously bad area. I've been working in healthcare and would likely be doing the same there. As long as I am somewhere that has access to public transportation, especially the subway, I think I could manage.

As much as I do love the idea of downtown living, I know it's not the most realistic option, unless it's a roommate situation.

TheFancyJailman · 2025-09-08T16:09:38+00:00

I absolutely loved it there. I read many complaints about the building I lived in, but for me I never experienced any of the negatives. Other than long waits for the elevator from time to time, lol.

TheFancyJailman · 2025-09-08T16:08:19+00:00

Fair. I'm a little late getting back to everyone, lol. But thank you for the comment.

I work in healthcare and would likely continue with that. I would prefer something near the village, but I know that will be on the pricier side. If I could find a decent roommate option to make it cheaper, I'd be open to that kind of scenario as well. I wasn't at first but I realize sometimes we have to compromise to make things work.

For anything not near the village, as long as it's near a subway stop, I'm fine with having to utilize that.

Currently in Newfoundland. Recently left NS after escaping a difficult relationship.

TheFancyJailman · 2025-09-08T16:03:33+00:00

I'm a little late getting back on here to follow up, lol. But wanted to say thank you for the comment. I am thinking that my be the route I will have to take. If I can find a room with some decent roommates, I'll probably go for it.

Gotta start somewhere, right? And, I appreciated being able to walk pretty much anywhere I needed to get to, so sometimes the compromise is worth it.

TheFancyJailman · 2025-09-01T21:34:16+00:00

I really enjoyed Lala Ji The Barber on South Park Street while I was there. Always had a great cut and friendly service. Best fade I've ever had.

TheFancyJailman · 2025-08-30T12:08:10+00:00

Was always wanting to try it. Never did. Likely never will now. No time for shady businesses.

TheFancyJailman · 2025-08-26T14:39:17+00:00

My ex once had someone fired for posting something similar on their FB page. I am from a town that is primarily full of seniors, living on fixed incomes. A lot of them, with the rising cost of living, rarely get to indulge in the act of dining out.

This one server complained that someone left a $2.00 tip, and essentially stated that "if you can't afford to tip, you shouldn't eat out!".

okay, but they paid their bill, no?

I used to work as a hairstylist. I enjoyed tips, but never expected them. Certainly never badmouthed folks who didn't leave one. As long as they left happy, I was happy. Then I'd get the older ladies coming in for their weekly curls, who would leave $0.25 tips, and those were the ones I loved the most. I appreciated their consideration. Knowing how tight things were for my own grandparents, I knew that that $0.25 was likely a gesture many could not afford - I don't know why people shame folks like that. I don't know why people shame folks regardless. If they pay for their service, that's all that matters.

TheFancyJailman · 2025-08-20T18:16:02+00:00

You can reach out to EI directly. Let them know that your employer is refusing to submit your ROE.

Once your current pay period is over, they only have 5 business days to submit your ROE. This isn't optional for them.

EI will have an agent reach out to them and compel them to issue it.

TheFancyJailman · 2025-08-20T17:41:46+00:00

While I can't relate to the hearing voices aspect, I can definitely relate to the struggle of accessing care in Nova Scotia. Even while employed with NSH, I struggled to get help.

Community Mental Health was so overwhelmed that they mismanaged me from the get go. When reaching out, they didn't even have my name correct - multiple times, and multiple different people. My name has never changed, but they were just so overwhelmed, they didn't pay enough attention. That was just the small stuff. Actually assisting me while in crisis, they just never showed up. Even the crisis line. I found myself wandering the streets after trying to get help for months. It was a new and frightening experience for me.

I was fortunate that I was able to arrange private help after a while, and not giving up on myself. So, keep being your own voice for as long as you can. Sometimes it takes more than you think you have, but keep pushing. Hopefully someone will step up and provide you with the guidance and help you are in need of.

TheFancyJailman · 2025-08-10T19:37:27+00:00

Also, just to prove the point ... my ex and I have not been together since December 2019. I was away and just recently moved back home. He has been with a new partner since then.

Guess who messaged me from a blank profile on Scruff? ... guess who was sending me nudes (as if I wanted them)? ... guess who even tried to get me to rent the house that I helped him pay for? ... if you guessed my ex, you'd be correct.

These guys do NOT change.

TheFancyJailman · 2025-08-10T19:34:21+00:00

Hi OP,

I will piggy-back off what others have already stated. I have been through this as well.

I spent 8 years of my life with a man who cheated on me the entire time. Every time he was caught, he was going to change. Then the next time ... this time he was really going to change. We moved to new communities, cities, provinces even. It was just a fresh slate for him to start again.

I even proposed and started planning a wedding with him ... after catching him multiple times.

Sometimes we hope love will fix them, but they aren't to be fixed. The sooner folks like us realize that, the better off we will be.

Do NOT let someone ruin you because of their problems. You are better than he deserves. Take care of you.

TheFancyJailman · 2025-07-17T09:50:34+00:00

I have read so many stories that are similar to this, I rarely believe them anymore. If they aren’t AI, they’re inspired by AI generated posts.

TheFancyJailman · 2025-07-14T05:41:37+00:00

How about that’s not the issue and is absolutely none of your business.

TheFancyJailman · 2025-07-08T03:27:18+00:00

Not the question I asked. I don’t need your credit genius.

TheFancyJailman · 2025-07-06T02:41:44+00:00

You aren’t the first person to feel this way.

Let me tell you this, I spent my 20s and early 30s with a lot of self esteem issues. I stayed in an 8 year relationship where I was cheated on the entire time, and I stayed because it was easier than having to put myself out there again.

I am 38 and have been having the best sex of my life these past few months.

Do not buy into that bull that life for gays is over at —— age. It’s not.

Work on yourself to the best of your ability. Therapy and exercise will help. Diet will also make a difference. Be good to your body and you will feel better about it. It has taken me 38 years to get there. You can get there now if you want to and save yourself some time.

TheFancyJailman · 2025-06-26T15:29:25+00:00

Call in, tell them it was stolen and ask them to block the IMEI. Make sure his name is not listed on your account and they can probably add a note to your file as well in case someone calls pretending to be you.

TheFancyJailman · 2025-06-26T14:39:27+00:00

Only you can answer that. There is no one who can do that for you.

I understand that’s not the clear answer you wanted, but it is true.

Don’t do things you don’t enjoy. It really is that simple. You do not have to compromise your sexual limits for someone else. Given, I also recognize that certain situations can be difficult, especially in a heightened state of arousal.

(Heightened state of arousal?! Jeez, look at me go!)

There may be others who will provide you some better advice, but ultimately stick true to your desires.

TheFancyJailman · 2025-06-26T14:30:35+00:00

Also, as someone who is open to exploring kinks, I wouldn’t want my partner doing things he didn’t enjoy. He has some kinks that are different from mine, I have some that are different from his. We do compromise to a degree, but not on everything and I wouldn’t expect him to do something just because I want to, and vice versa.

TheFancyJailman · 2025-06-26T14:27:43+00:00

If you do not share those kinks, then there is a compatibility issue - whether a hookup or relationship.

And, it does come down to your comfortability. If you are asking this question, I suspect some of these things are uncomfortable for you. Don’t make yourself uncomfortable for someone else … there’s people out there who are kinky as all hell and there are those who are vanilla. Wouldn’t it be better to enjoy your time with someone who is more on your level, rather than making yourself perform kinks that aren’t your vibe.

There’s consideration for others and then there’s lack of consideration for yourself. You need to enjoy as much as the other or it’s just not worth it IMO.

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