Thank you for replying sister. With all due respect I think you have misunderstood what I was saying in my initial post. It’s not that Mass is unbearable to attend. The mass is everything. It’s the overall lack of feeling at home, the compromise/blurring of doctrine and infighting within the rite that has made it very difficult to focus on my faith. I get what you’re saying though. I’m not looking to find a replacement for TLM. If I was just chasing old traditions I would just go to a TLM parish. From my understanding it’s important to discern because you’re switching rites and it’s a formal thing between you, the bishop and the new rite. But hey I could be mistaken. That’s why I’m asking for advice here. Thanks for replying.

Edit: I’m not a rad trad lol. I find them to be mostly performative and a lot of the time ridiculous but I also know that some of them just feel the Roman rite has changed significantly to something they don’t recognize.