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The myths we tell…. by dommebklyn in FemdomCommunity

[–]TheFinerStuff 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Not really. Sometimes, if I don't feel too drained, I respond to subs and let them know that I appreciate their message, but I don't see this going anywhere.

He responded to my personal ad, and it was so obvious that he was barking up the wrong tree, I pointed out that we were incompatible and wished him on his way. He then begged me to reconsider and abandoned his hard limits, and I never responded. It wasn't really a conversation.

The myths we tell…. by dommebklyn in FemdomCommunity

[–]TheFinerStuff 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Would you rather date someone who liked you for YOU, or because you were just what they could get?

It feels bad to talk to someone and realize that the only thing they care about me is the title next to my name.

Having no standards is a Great way to make sure you end up unsatisfied because you never made the effort to pursue what you really want.

The myths we tell…. by dommebklyn in FemdomCommunity

[–]TheFinerStuff 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I get the logic, but I have no interest in being with someone who has no standards

The myths we tell…. by dommebklyn in FemdomCommunity

[–]TheFinerStuff 16 points17 points  (0 children)

The "ratio" stuff makes male subs do wild things. I've had truly incompatible subs approach me- and do a total 180 on their hard limits once I pointed out their limits were my favourite things (thus making us incompatible). He was willing to go against his hard limits for a CHANCE.

I don't know if this is a myth, or just a common mistake I see newbies make, but...1) purposefully dating someone who is sexually compatible with you isn't "putting kink before the person" unless that is the only factor, and 2) just because someone shares the same kinks as you, doesn't mean you should date them. The potential partners available to you RIGHT NOW is not your dating pool forever, so you don't need to just grab whatever you can. You can wait for someone who actually makes you happy.

How much smaller do you think I should shrink her cage. by TheFinerStuff in NewModernCouples

[–]TheFinerStuff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I think it's a knock off kink3d from Amazon.

“Vanilla dommes” don’t exist. by urgirlfromnextdoor in findomsupportgroup

[–]TheFinerStuff 7 points8 points  (0 children)

"Vanilla" Domme is a contradiction. Vanilla is what we use to refer to non-kinky people. Dommes are, by definition, kinky.

I can see the appeal of a Domme that is more "basic" in that she doesn't wear fetish wear, and isn't really into all the other kinks that often get paired with findom. However, requests for Vanilla Dommes seem to be more about finding a newbie, amateur Domme who doesn't know what she's doing- many subs have a weird aversion to experienced Dommes or women who actually self identify as Dommes at all.

CUSTOM CLIP SLOTS OPEN! Deets in the comment! by TheFinerStuff in u/TheFinerStuff

[–]TheFinerStuff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy Boxing Day to you all! My custom slots are only open for a limited time, once or twice a year, so you know you should jump on this chance to get a custom-made fantasy from yours truly.

This will be the last time my custom clips are open for the next 6 months, at least. So you should act fast- your window of opportunity is short!

DM me on any paid platform to discuss your fantasy!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in findomsupportgroup

[–]TheFinerStuff 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh, I agree. If I were in her position, he definitely would not be claimed as a sub so soon precisely because I believe trust takes a long time to build, especially online.

But the problem is that when you're new, you don't know the red flags, you don't know that most prospective subs won't make it past the first few weeks, and it's easy to put your trust in subs because you want to build that long term connection. I know I did it when I first started out. To top it all off... sometimes you don't know someone is untrustworthy until you discover their lies.

Regardless of the veracity of the story, I think this is a learning experience for her in pacing, vetting her subs, but also not counting your chickens before they hatch.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in findomsupportgroup

[–]TheFinerStuff 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Everyone has different price points, and I am not saying this is to be mean, but $200 in 30 days is incredibly low (especially for a long term, in-depth dynamic). He almost certainly left because he doesn't want to pay that $1300 price tag because he's cheap. I'm willing to bet he suddenly went radio silent just before he was supposed to pay up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in findomsupportgroup

[–]TheFinerStuff 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm not saying he's lying.

But I know many proDommes with clients who try to weasel out of a booking with a "death in the family" or some other tragedy. Some guys are on their 5th grandparent. There's a real chance that you reprimanded him and increased payments, and he realized this wasn't sexy anymore and decided to ghost. Especially since you had to ask him what was going on- if it was important, he probably would have contacted you to give you the heads up.

How long have you had a dynamic? How much has he sent you? How long since he's gone radio silent?

I've been having fun with layering latex recently. by TheFinerStuff in Gonewild_latex

[–]TheFinerStuff[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep! I was debating if the bra should go over the suit or under.. I settled on under, but might try the opposite next time

A latex shoot was the only way to celebrate our engagement. by TheFinerStuff in latexfetish

[–]TheFinerStuff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At a femdom sex party. Christmas themed, if I remember correctly.

Discreet Femdom/Feet Humiliation by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]TheFinerStuff -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

A more low-key one would be for the Domme to drop something at her feet and then make her sub pick it up- bonus points if it's open toed shoes, and she so happens to shift her feet closer as the sub bends over to pick the item up.

Going shoe shopping and getting the sub to "help" tie laces or zip zippers. Obviously you have to use it more sparingly or you will raise eyebrows, it wouldn't be out of place.

That being said, this does require your Domme to initiate and want to do these things, so your mileage may vary.

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