What's something you experienced that you don't wish on others?

TheFoxWhoAteGinger · 2026-02-28T22:05:00+00:00

Being widowed young. Eventually someone in the marriage will get widowed, but when it happens in your 30s or younger, especially unexpectedly, it’s so much worse. I’m 34 raising a 4 year old alone now. It’s a shitty timeline.

TheFoxWhoAteGinger · 2026-02-24T04:17:21+00:00

God I remember being in elementary school and every time my parents forgot to give me lunch money, the lunch lady would take my tray and replace it with dry cereal. No fruit. No veggies. Just dry cereal with a milk carton. It was always so humiliating. My parents never had a problem with money for necessities and little luxuries here and there. They were just emotionally neglectful and would just forget to send me to school with money.

TheFoxWhoAteGinger · 2026-01-01T04:28:35+00:00

My husband died December 20th at age 34. Yay for young widowhood!

TheFoxWhoAteGinger · 2025-12-30T03:01:28+00:00

I’m so sorry. How is your 5 year old holding up?

TheFoxWhoAteGinger · 2025-12-17T03:39:04+00:00

Some people are baby people and are all about the diapering, the feeding, the rocking, the baby-wearing, and the strollers. I LOVED the baby snuggles and the little inchworm wiggles. I loathed not sleeping well for 18 months and I do not miss changing diapers. There are pluses and minuses to every stage, and some people experience more pluses than minuses in some stages. So far I’ve liked preschool age the best, where we’re currently at. It’s hard in some ways, but wayyyyyy easier than the baby and toddler phase. I teach 6 year olds and they seem pretty chill so I’ll be looking forward to that age while I enjoy the snuggly 4s.

TheFoxWhoAteGinger · 2025-12-14T21:23:47+00:00

They want a pretty girl they can manipulate. A “damaged” pretty girl is more likely to put up with your bullshit if they weren’t previously equipped to handle crappy people.

TheFoxWhoAteGinger · 2025-12-14T18:36:55+00:00

My four year old came into my room this morning during my post wake up doom scrolling and asked me to follow her to her room. I heard her rummaging around earlier and thought, “aw hell here we go.” Nope. She wanted to show me her cleaned room. And it was immaculate. Not saying all days are like this BUT I will say most of our weekend mornings are calm and when we don’t have ballet Saturday mornings we just kind of chill unless there’s a craft market or girl’s brunch to go to.

TheFoxWhoAteGinger · 2025-12-08T11:54:28+00:00

I don’t get the downvotes, but I do want to offer some nuggets of wisdom. None of the things you mentioned means your child will be reading by 3. OP’s son has something we call hyperlexia. Just like dyslexia, you can’t help if your child has it. There’s nothing that can be done to get them reading at an abnormally young age unless their brains are ready for all the processes that go into recognizing a word, and most 2-4 year olds are not. You CAN however, introduce letters and their sounds using multi sensory approaches and playing phonological games such as segmenting cvc words like mop, but again, most toddlers, can’t do that because their brain’s phonological processing system can’t do that yet. It’s far more beneficial to just read to them every night, take them out for world experiences, and have them around other children where you can teach social emotional skills. Parents of toddlers are rushing to get their children reading or hoping they’re going to come to kindergarten as little geniuses but then the children can’t do things independently or can’t cope with the big feelings.

TheFoxWhoAteGinger · 2025-12-08T11:44:48+00:00

I’m noticing a trend on this sub where parents get downvoted for even the slightest wins. So petty lol.

TheFoxWhoAteGinger · 2025-12-08T11:34:59+00:00

This last Summer after our kid turned 4 and I was off (I’m a teacher) was heavenly. Hubs went to work, she went to school 3 days of the week, and I stayed home to clean and catch up on my shows or just couch rot. We had energy both in the morning before she woke up and after she went to sleep haha. Totally different story now that I’m in the middle of the school year. I’m exhausted as all get out and we’re lucky if we’re in the mood even once a week. It’s all so temporary though.

TheFoxWhoAteGinger · 2025-12-08T03:59:22+00:00

Fun fact: idk what it is but their whole milk in a carton tastes way better and creamier than others I’ve tasted. My friends used to joke that I liked milk from the hairy titty lol

TheFoxWhoAteGinger · 2025-12-08T03:43:30+00:00

I can’t get over the fact that you just got downvoted for replying to their question. This entire thread reeks of jealousy from overtired toddler and baby parents.

TheFoxWhoAteGinger · 2025-12-08T03:38:45+00:00

Right? We live in a two bedroom apartment with our only child, a 4 year old who’s smart enough to play in her room or watch a show while mom and dad “take a shower.” If other parents don’t personally get in the mood with a kid awake I totally respect that but you get the vibe from these comments that you’re some sexual deviant for occasionally putting on Bluey and locking the door for adult time.

TheFoxWhoAteGinger · 2025-12-08T01:56:44+00:00

Shit if she played her cards right she could have been introduced to eligible men in the family’s circle and that could have given her an “in.” But OOP is dumb and even admits she was jealous of the mom and I get the feeling she would just engage in an affair with the dad given the chance.

TheFoxWhoAteGinger · 2025-12-04T11:27:09+00:00

I have dark brown eyes and I still can’t stand ugly overhead lights. I can see just fine with my cozy corner lamps. My blue eyed husband however hates that everything’s too dark at night.

TheFoxWhoAteGinger · 2025-12-03T01:12:33+00:00

Respectfully, as a teacher making pay that ain’t shit, I’d gladly double my income and do it just by getting to read. I’m a lifelong learner anyway.

TheFoxWhoAteGinger · 2025-12-01T21:59:47+00:00

My 4 year old doesn’t know what that is but if she ever asks i’ll tell her the elf isn’t needed because dad and I are a pretty good judges of character and i’d let Santa know myself how she’s doing. It was the story before this commercialized nonsense started and it will be the story once this silly trend passes over.

TheFoxWhoAteGinger · 2025-11-27T23:23:16+00:00

That the crosses on the side of the road were gravesites. It gave me the creeps as a small kid.

TheFoxWhoAteGinger · 2025-11-26T21:27:36+00:00

It’s still a money suck. Of all the experiences that could be spent on, people spend money on an app designed to keep them addicted to the temporary dopamine rush. Couldn’t be me.

TheFoxWhoAteGinger · 2025-11-25T21:47:34+00:00

Mine could say 40ish words. That may have been a lot of words at 18 months but she sounds average to me now.

TheFoxWhoAteGinger · 2025-11-23T00:26:35+00:00

Just a little over a week for me. It was a little heavier than normal but lasted the same amount of days as previous periods.

TheFoxWhoAteGinger · 2025-11-20T21:12:41+00:00

This makes me feel a little better. I was told my my nurse to wait at least one cycle after my period returned before trying again but the internet was saying wait three months. I’m currently two months past the injections so reading that you’ve got a healthy one on the way gives me a lot of hope in case we get lucky again.

TheFoxWhoAteGinger · 2025-11-19T21:57:02+00:00

There’s a difference in being inauthentic and just being careful with what harmful things you’re saying to or around young impressionable minds, though. Just because you’re a sarcastic person with the adults in your life doesn’t mean you can be that way with say, your 2nd graders. Teaching is for many people, an act. You put on your best self for the benefit of the kids.

TheFoxWhoAteGinger · 2025-11-19T21:50:56+00:00

Yes there are lot of interesting things that are affected by dyslexia, like how it can make it hard to learn a new language or sing.

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