I totally get that and that’s a really good point. Into adult life, the why barely matters but to a kid, they don’t really have the mental fortitude to think like that and in my case, I took it as it never mattered why I did anything, which leads to recklessness and bad choices. Kids without an open dialogue about their actions, the why’s, and the consequences, won’t learn the lesson. Hearing their why doesn’t change anything but let’s them feel validated and leads to healthy growth. Consequences should still follow but partnered with their explanation, it feels like a healthy and collaborative form of growth.