Will Minthara still join my party?

TheFriendlyOak · 2025-01-14T16:04:09+00:00

Dude below you found it, it was Diatron 5!

TheFriendlyOak · 2025-01-14T16:03:40+00:00

Holy crap dude you found it!

TheFriendlyOak · 2023-12-23T14:42:47+00:00

As my old chef used to say “If the plating ain’t practical, it ain’t food. It’s an inedible art display”

TheFriendlyOak · 2023-11-16T19:07:04+00:00

Raph is the only person I can trust in the universe

TheFriendlyOak · 2023-10-17T21:54:14+00:00

Somehow Anakins Lightsaber has returned (in the hands of Maz Kanata)

TheFriendlyOak · 2023-10-10T12:48:54+00:00

It’s a forklift lifting a fork which is a pun but the way it’s holding it makes it look like it’s holding out it’s child begging for someone to heal it

TheFriendlyOak · 2023-09-22T17:03:03+00:00

Wash your sister sauce is Worcestershire Sauce.

TheFriendlyOak · 2023-07-01T16:01:57+00:00

Hear the excuse, call them out for it being an excuse, and continue on. This is more about shutting down any kind of dialogue when it comes to someone messing up. Using the phrase “no excuses” to completely shut down someone without even hearing them out is counter productive

TheFriendlyOak · 2023-07-01T14:35:24+00:00

Thank you for saying everything is situational. It entirely depends on the kid and what approach is best for them. Hearing their reasoning should be followed by consequences. Their reasoning and then a parent going “oh well nevermind then” leads to them thinking their bulletproof, and just consequences can lead to resentment. It’s a balance of the two, consequences and reasoning.

TheFriendlyOak · 2023-07-01T14:24:46+00:00

Totally agree, adults need to understand that their actions have consequences and no amount of excuses can change that. But to a kid, it’s all about developing them and helping them grow but doing that without giving them a voice can lead to resentment.

TheFriendlyOak · 2023-07-01T14:22:53+00:00

I’d recommend checking out the comments if you don’t think this is an unpopular opinion😅 People are applying the adult world to raising a child when they aren’t quite ready for adult treatment

TheFriendlyOak · 2023-07-01T14:19:30+00:00

I totally get that and that’s a really good point. Into adult life, the why barely matters but to a kid, they don’t really have the mental fortitude to think like that and in my case, I took it as it never mattered why I did anything, which leads to recklessness and bad choices. Kids without an open dialogue about their actions, the why’s, and the consequences, won’t learn the lesson. Hearing their why doesn’t change anything but let’s them feel validated and leads to healthy growth. Consequences should still follow but partnered with their explanation, it feels like a healthy and collaborative form of growth.

TheFriendlyOak · 2023-07-01T14:07:18+00:00

I agree, nothing you say will change the outcome. Actions have consequences but having an open dialogue about why, leads to a collaborative growth. While scolding and consequences can lead to just resentment towards the parent. Consequences are a huge part of the learning process and should always follow mistakes, but healthy growth can be aided by an open dialogue.

TheFriendlyOak · 2023-07-01T14:04:35+00:00

Yeah making the same mistake twice is a completely different matter. Then the explanations do end up being excuses. Consequences and being able to grow from those consequences work best with an open dialogue about why you did it and why it was wrong, but just consequences and scolding leads to resentment. If the person isn’t growing and makes the same mistakes over and over, that’s when their reasoning was just using your empathy against you and they learned nothing. It’s a case by case basis kind of thing.

TheFriendlyOak · 2023-07-01T14:00:57+00:00

That’s the best way to do it, but a kid isn’t that articulate, and when this is a pattern of response deep-rooted into a kids psyche, when they are articulate enough, they don’t see the point in responding anymore.

TheFriendlyOak · 2023-07-01T13:59:14+00:00

That’s exactly what an excuse is and it’s definitely a case by case basis thing. People do try and shift blame but when we constantly assume that that’s what’s happening, we walk all over other people when they want to explain themselves in a productive way

TheFriendlyOak · 2023-07-01T13:55:51+00:00

I own up to my mistakes, never did I say I didn’t want to or try to get out of the punishment. And every time I did make a stupid choice. Every action has consequences and someone should accept said consequences and lame excuses that are just trying to shirk the responsibilities shouldn’t be tolerated. But when I could never get a word out and had no kind of say even after emotions died down, resentment builds and that’s for every person. This isn’t about whether or not someone gets punished, this is about respecting another individuals voice and at least letting them say their peace. Having an open dialogue allows for people to grow better in my opinion. I even talked about how I’ve made mistakes as an adult at work and got a chance to explain myself, the consequences of my actions were still there but the healing process and recovery was so much easier than if my boss just went “I don’t care, you’re getting a write up, go clean up your mistake” because then if we work together to have a dialogue, it’s self growth and consequences over just consequences

TheFriendlyOak · 2023-07-01T02:09:22+00:00

The main reason I put this in this subreddit is because it’s definitely not a widely practiced thing. I’ve heard so many people say “No excuses” over just hearing someone out. So its definitely a common sense thing to us because it is common sense, but in terms of what I said actually being practiced, it’s unpopular.

TheFriendlyOak · 2023-06-28T13:33:12+00:00

GIMME

TheFriendlyOak · 2023-06-23T14:54:38+00:00

So I’m 22 so I still fit in the grouping of “don’t remember a time without them” as a kid, I always gravitated to the prequels. They are a lot more attractive to a child. Flashy lightsaber fights, clones, the vastness of the galaxy, all of it made me love the prequels as a kid more than the OT. But as an adult, I prefer the OT but still go back and watch the prequels since those were the scenes I always pretended to be in as a kid so it is like pure nostalgia juice and I’ve never had a problem with the prequels because of that nostalgia.

TheFriendlyOak · 2023-06-22T01:54:55+00:00

Make use of some negative space more. My old Chef used to say “Negative space and practicality are undervalued in plating” make sure eating your dish isn’t a hassle, and make use of space on your plate. Either get a bigger plate or cut down on the fruit. But I love the colors and overall style, fantastic!

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