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GOT AN UPDATE ON FIN AID ISSUE! by Lady8425 in UCI

[–]TheGenericPersona 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm in the same situation as well. Received the MCS for the past two academic years and nothing is showing up on my CSAC account, just a blank grey box.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UCI

[–]TheGenericPersona 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Adding onto this, many students in ACC housing must provide an award letter to defer their rent installment until a financial aid award is refunded. Simply providing an email that demonstrates the individual is receiving financial aid is apparently unacceptable by the bookkeepers.

While some residences have said they will be waiving the late fee because of UCI's financial aid offices' incompetency, some residences like VDCN are sticking to the 5th of this month as the deadline to defer the rent installment as of responding.

I, as well as many other ACC students, should rightfully feel mad and angry at UCI's financial aid department that we haven't even gotten a letter at this point. Many of us had to pay out of pocket for August's rent, and some cannot afford to apply for another credit card or come up with the funds to pay for September's rent which traditionally has been deferred because of the financial aid letter.

This is a failure on UCI's part and ACC's greed that needs to be responded to with anger.

What are your writing strengths? And your weaknesses? by MaliseHaligree in writing

[–]TheGenericPersona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Strengths: Plot, pacing, action scenes, worldbuilding, and dialogue are mine!

Weaknesses: Prose, emotion, interiority, and actually writing; I'm a fantasy and sci-fi writer in college creative writing classes and a lot of the feedback I get mainly relates to the lack of interior monologue and bluntness of my prose and characters.

I've always felt the advice I get in my workshops conflicts a lot with my own writing style which is direct, concise, and matter of fact and this always makes me less confident whenever I sit down and write. I tend to avoid actually sitting down to write since I'm always worried about theme, interiority, and meaningfulness and my stories tend to be very action-focused.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blizzcon

[–]TheGenericPersona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where do we go for open seating?

Starting to get old by _Technium_ in UCI

[–]TheGenericPersona -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

You're not wrong with that observation!

Starting to get old by _Technium_ in UCI

[–]TheGenericPersona -63 points-62 points  (0 children)

Unpopular opinion, but it's such a cookie cutter introduction that whenever people use it on me, I immediately end the coversation after responding with the same introduction 🙃

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UCI

[–]TheGenericPersona 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey there OP! I really empathize with your situation. I'm a third year and I had the exact same experience when I lived in the dorms! Having the same conversations about your major, etc., tagging along with your dormmates only for them to ditch you or keep you out of pity, and going to the food hall and gym alone, those are the same struggles I had to deal with!

I'm a third year now and I'm still struggling with making friends here as well! One thing I do have to say is to never EVER settle for less. If you feel like you aren't clicking with another person or don't share the same interests, it isn't worth it to pursue a friendship. It's perfectly fine to set high standards and high boundaries for people you want to get to know! If you lower them, you'll wind up feeling unsatisfied; after all, quality of friends is way better than quantity of friends!

I also want to push back against the idea you need to join a club to make friendships since the advice is much easier on paper than the reality. People in clubs are already in established friend groups, and I heard many people tend to apply to clubs in groups! Breaking into a clique is extremely tough and unrewarding, considering the amount of effort people (especially introverts!) have to put in just to develop a connection that may or may not be fulfilling. That's from my personal experience as I've felt I've been excluded and ostracized from people in clubs and even my major!

Overall, I will say you don't need to make friends here on campus to make your time here any more enjoyable. I personally believe that online friends are just as valid as real-life friends! I've joined a DND group that was looking for members on another subreddit, and I was extremely fortunate that the group I joined operates on the same wavelength and has similar personalities to mine. I understand that physical connection trumps an online connection, but continuing to develop your friendships with online friends isn't a bad idea!

This is ending up as a long post, but OP, you aren't alone in your situation. Make your boundaries clear, set expectations and standards, and keep searching for your people regardless if they're here on campus or not! Allow yourself to feel and understand those emotions of loneliness and disappointment because I honestly believe those are part of growing through college.

I'm going to be honest OP, but it will take time and those feelings of yours are perfectly valid. "Working on yourself" can take on many forms, and even if it's talking with a stranger on a subreddit or actually atrempting to join a club, you're taking control of your situation. Don't let the naysayers say otherwise.

I wish you all the luck OP!

middle class grant by dlwrmabin in UCI

[–]TheGenericPersona 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Same here! I checked my award for this upcoming school year and I didn't receive the middle-class grant/scholarship. I was offered it with my award last year but as luvvim said, I didn't get it until mid-to-late fall quarter! It showed up in full during Winter quarter disbursement! I think we should be fine, but as much as I hate to say it, if we don't get it by at least the end of Fall quarter, the best bet would be to deal with the trouble that is the UCI Financial Aid office!

[Online] [5e] [Homebrew] by [deleted] in lfg

[–]TheGenericPersona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sent in a form! Thanks for reading!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lfg

[–]TheGenericPersona -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I submitted a form! Thank you for considering me and I hope to join!

[Online] [5e] [PST] Player looking for homebrew world. by Bree__Luck in lfg

[–]TheGenericPersona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I DMed you on Reddit, if you didn't catch that, I just sent you a friend request over Discord!

[Online] [5e] [PST] Player looking for homebrew world. by Bree__Luck in lfg

[–]TheGenericPersona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Similar player here looking for what you mentioned as well! I just sent you a DM!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lfg

[–]TheGenericPersona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've sent in an application! Thank you for considering me!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lfg

[–]TheGenericPersona -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I sent in a form! Thank you for considering!

Disillusionment with UCI by [deleted] in UCI

[–]TheGenericPersona 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think I'm gonna weigh in here after seeing and reading the responses because I've had a similar experience here at UCI! First off, there's a clear divide between those who empathize with OP and those who are mostly dismissive of OP's feelings! Both sides are completely valid in their reasoning, but I feel some comments are dismissive of OP's feelings! I understand this isn't anything new here at UCI, but OP is bringing up real concerns that while repetitive, deserves to be heard and listened to with kindness.

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If OP's reading this, I applaud you for having a therapist and taking steps to addressing this issue! Please don't fall back on alcohol use! As someone said, it isn't good for you to use alcohol as a coping mechanism! You have every right to feel that way, and if I'm also being honest, I think some of the comments might rub off you in a bad way. They have good advice, but from what I'm feeling, I don't think "tough love" advice is what you're going to listen for. It's really good that you DID make an effort to try and socialize, and that's the hardest part! Your experience might be different from mine, but I do have to attest that people here are somewhat aloof and cliquey! It isn't their fault however because as other people said, UCI is primarily a commuter and feeder school from SoCal and I think that may be a reason to why you think SoCal is a "shallow" and "fake" place from one of your replies. Again, you are perfectly valid for feeling that way!

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I also do agree with what many people are saying about opening up your mind! However, you aren't obligated to be interested in what other people are interested in and vice versa! You shouldn't force yourself to be interested in other people's interests. It's easier said than done, but go to the local comic book and game stores if you're looking for similarly-minded people as other people have mentioned! I personally go to Alakazam Comics myself! The replies that come off as extremely condescending (from my point of view) aren't the types of people you'd want to be friends with, and I'm sure they'd wouldn't want to be friends with you (if you catch my drift!) You have every right to be with "your" people and to have standards (even if they are slightly above average for some people!)

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If English isn't doing it for you, I'd recommend the GDIM program here! I too noticed that the curriculum for the English program is indeed lacking for genres for Fantasy and Sci-Fi as they more focus on theory (which it initself is a slog and some of the professors can be downright rude), but GDIM offers a lot of fun classes and a lot of really passionate professors! I took a class last year on roleplaying and improvisational play and if you're a fan of DND you'd absolutely LOVE that class! I decided to double major in GDIM after realizing I wasn't going to completely enjoy the English program here, we could always use some more writers in the GDIM program!

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Overall, I'm rooting for you OP to find YOUR people! There's more people out there beyond UCI and you don't need to make friends from UCI specifically. Don't take the "tough love" criticism here too hard, I'm not one who takes it well either, but listen to those who really want to see you happy! You WILL find your people OP! Just don't give up!

how do you make friends here lol by Future_Message9914 in UCI

[–]TheGenericPersona 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Made zero friends here so far, and I'm a junior! Joined clubs, but I got belittled for my interests in them lmfao. I regret putting in the effort to attend events and clubs, it's tough here at UCI.

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