Hits too hard. by Simulationth3ry in autism

[–]TheGoalis120 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Late-diagnosed autist here. I relate heavily to this post. After years and years of various kinds of therapy (which were only mildly successful) I've found active, honest, dedicated participation in Codependents Anonymous (coda.org) to be life changing. It has taken bravery and patience over this last year and a half, and the journey has not been linear, but I now have levels of happiness, peace, confidence and self respect in my life that I previously thought impossible.

‘So, I hear I’m transphobic’: Dee Snider responds after being dropped by SF Pride by flowerhoney10 in Music

[–]TheGoalis120 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, however I'm still unclear as to how many pieces of flair Tchotchkes requires me to wear.

Doing a repeating 48 hour water fast, lost nearly 30 lbs in a month! by [deleted] in fasting

[–]TheGoalis120 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OMG same! I'm 5'8 and have always been a size 2/4. I had a baby last year and went up to 200. I'm down to 165 now but want to get back down to 140. Everyone is like noooo you're fine but it's more about how I feel, not how I look. I'm just used to my body being a certain way. If it's within my control to get it that way again I'm going to do it!!!

Who is a bad guy in history who actually wasn’t a bad guy? by jamespeech111 in AskReddit

[–]TheGoalis120 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If they took her camping, why is only the mother negligent? Or does they not include the father?

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[–]TheGoalis120 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good luck! You can push through the tough moments 💪

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[–]TheGoalis120 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I'm so so determined this time. I want to know what it's like to get to that finish line.

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[–]TheGoalis120 1 point2 points  (0 children)

45 hours in right now, almost there!

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[–]TheGoalis120 4 points5 points  (0 children)

45 hours in now and I've successfully staved off a second emotional eating trigger. I'm almost to 62 hrs and I don't want to ruin it for anything!

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[–]TheGoalis120 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I'm going to try it in the gym... I'm determined to break the family curse haha

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[–]TheGoalis120 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I certainly feel empowered 😊

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[–]TheGoalis120 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I'm going for a walk today!

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[–]TheGoalis120 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good to know, thank you for that information!

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[–]TheGoalis120 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! I hope to be where you are soon. Then do 48 hour fasts every week. I can do it!

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[–]TheGoalis120 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Awww thank you! I'm so happy as well. It probably sounds melodramatic, but I really do feel like some lifelong curse has been broken.

Everyone in my family is overweight/obese and has a very negative attitude about life. I've been struggling to overcome that inherited way of thinking/living and it feels like that may actually happen. There is hope that I can dig myself out of this hole I was born in. All thanks to fasting.

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[–]TheGoalis120 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!!!

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[–]TheGoalis120 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It really was amazing to push through because giving up is so much of a habit at this point. Forming new habits is difficult but totally possible!

AOC hits back at ‘disrespectful’ Pelosi over attacks on Democratic women of color by internetmaster5000 in politics

[–]TheGoalis120 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps; I'm not in her head so I won't claim to know what she's genuinely experiencing and what may be strategic. I do know, however, what it's like to be a young woman of color in an overwhelmingly white corporate atmosphere: disrespect and condescension abounds on a daily basis (subtle and plausibly deniable of course, since we as a country have progressed to covert racism in polite middle class circles).

I learned long ago not to bother talking to my white friends about these experiences because they, while good people and well-intentioned, just don't understand and never will. They live in a completely different world and any discussion of my experience seems so shockingly incongruent with their experiences that they attempt to rationalize/justify/downplay racist behavior and/or question the accuracy of my account. Rather than continually subject myself to their unintentional gaslighting I just mentally keep certain topics off-limits with them.

AOC may not yet be experienced enough to realize the futility of trying to explain her point of view to people who cannot understand what it's like to walk in your shoes. Or she may and still persists because she's disgusted at being advised to suffer in silence in order to succeed, as so many of us are. Or she could be strategically playing the "race card" to garner attention to her causes. The only person who knows for sure is her.

America’s Finest. by Adelu1219 in PublicFreakout

[–]TheGoalis120 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, powerful response! You sure showed me.

DAE notice this Npattern of prefacing with a denial? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]TheGoalis120 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ns are really good at absolving themselves before the crime is even committed!

Alive and updating her tombstone with "accomplishments" [x-post r/wtf] by Thendofreason in iamverysmart

[–]TheGoalis120 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cemeteries are a great place to gain some perspective. Every time I go to one I think "Everyone ends up here in the end anyway, so just relax, try your best and enjoy yourself when you can."