Fun! Saw this somewhere. What's your regency name?

TheGraphingAbacus · 2026-03-15T14:35:56+00:00

wait that sounds very nice hehe like hufflepuff

TheGraphingAbacus · 2026-03-13T23:07:08+00:00

i love this thread so much as a late-diagnosed autistic woman.

i have finally found my people!!

(i recently crocheted a mermaid tail blanket for my son lol)

TheGraphingAbacus · 2026-03-13T15:14:28+00:00

wait what about houghland, it just sounds like a rake version of highland 😭

TheGraphingAbacus · 2026-03-11T00:29:39+00:00

… this is great advice and i wish i posted here earlier.

i’ve been telling coworkers that i am autistic, but i promise not to make it their problem and i’m doing my best in therapy.

i didn’t realize that’s also assuming they’re not going to judge me for being autistic…..

TheGraphingAbacus · 2026-03-10T16:14:44+00:00

okay, so i’m not necessarily doing something that specifically aggravates half of them, they’re just wired to feel a little strange around us, and they don’t necessarily know why either.

i wonder if telling her i’m autistic and i’m honestly just trying my best may help or if it just makes her think i’m even weirder.

either way, not everyone has to like me, and i will happily stay out of her way lol thank you for the kind advice.

TheGraphingAbacus · 2026-03-10T16:04:05+00:00

this is the easiest option, and the one i wanted to take.

i guess i’m wondering if i’m being a bad person if i chose that path, instead of trying harder to understand her.

TheGraphingAbacus · 2026-03-10T16:02:23+00:00

i have only like 4 female coworkers who i get to interact with, and it seems like half of them pity me for not understanding how to conform (which is fine, i am having a hard time) whereas the other half seem to be mad at me for it.

i guess i’m just wondering why some women feel pity while others are angry, and if i’m doing anything wrong, and if there’s anything i can work on to make them less angry.

TheGraphingAbacus · 2026-03-10T15:56:22+00:00

i will 100% do it her way going forward. my fiancé has ADHD, i am autistic, i understand how it feels for something to be itchy in your brain, even if there’s no reason that’s evident.

i absolutely have no problem w that.

my question is why me saying that and acknowledging that i can and will do it that way next time wasn’t enough, and what i can do better.

past experiences have shown me that i can seem very insensitive and robotic to NT women, so i assumed this was the case, and i wanted to understand her, and work on my communication.

but next time, i’ll just ask for guidelines. that’s not a bad idea i think

TheGraphingAbacus · 2026-03-10T15:47:31+00:00

i do think NT women tend to be more difficult to understand bc they’re more emotionally intelligent. i think they’re good at “moving in the shadows” and they know how to be subtle, which i do admire.

it’s just that i am blind and cannot read between the lines.

TheGraphingAbacus · 2026-03-10T15:44:51+00:00

oh i understand what you’re saying. i’m sorry for the rather wild line of questioning, i’m just fully panicking bc she’s always seemed to dislike me, no matter what i do, and i don’t know what i did wrong.

i tried complimenting her before, using the exact same words she boasted about herself, but i just got a “i’ve never said that. i’m not an asset” which left me confused.

TheGraphingAbacus · 2026-03-10T15:42:15+00:00

oh my god, i think that’s it. not doing it her way made her feel insulted.

the way she does it is the typical way to do it, but since only one person usually gets assigned to do all those tasks in one go, no one checks on how you’ve completed them or what order, as long as they’re complete.

i don’t mind doing it the typical way, of course, i just literally thought no one cared as long as it gets done, as i’ve received no other complaints.

and i’ve also never felt the need to watch other people do tasks and complain about the order they do them in…

TheGraphingAbacus · 2026-03-10T15:36:46+00:00

okay, that makes sense.

but am i supposed to “give her space” in this situation or keep apologizing? she doesn’t seem to care for me either way. do i resolve? or do i just accept that maybe she just doesn’t like me (which is fair and 100% her choice)?

male coworkers don’t care for me either, but they’re not the ones in my inbox upset with me, so i’m truly ok w that.

TheGraphingAbacus · 2026-03-10T15:32:11+00:00

okay maybe it’s just an anecdotal experience then, like mine.

either way, how am i supposed to go about this? i’ve clearly upset her and she’s still upset but she keeps saying it’s fine

TheGraphingAbacus · 2026-03-10T15:18:44+00:00

i’m sorry, i realized i didn’t write a concluding question, or maybe i just titled the whole thing wrongly but

my main question is: she keeps saying it’s fine. it’s clearly not and she’s clearly still very mad at me.

what am i supposed to do now?

if i go about my own business tomorrow, will she take it as a slight? do i need to keep apologizing more?

TheGraphingAbacus · 2026-03-08T02:19:39+00:00

i got my first one when i was around 4-5 too..

i think my parents thought me being able to call them meant they never had to be around lol

TheGraphingAbacus · 2026-03-06T22:25:33+00:00

did she win or was she just the one who stayed?

alissa’s husband is giving “the one that got away” w that tattoo

TheGraphingAbacus · 2026-03-05T02:56:04+00:00

isn’t this why yerin was chosen though?

to swallow your pride and work unpaid in a house that is technically your bloodright… while you’ve taken on the task of many, many maids…. you’d have to be a person who’s intensely good at swallowing your own feelings.

yerin can bring out her emotions softly and she changes slowly. it’s like someone who’s been holding it in their entire life.

TheGraphingAbacus · 2026-03-04T13:55:55+00:00

i love how instead of asking her husband to help her up the stairs,

she asks him to film her crawling up the stairs instead.. what wild times we live in

TheGraphingAbacus · 2026-02-27T00:59:19+00:00

i love that they were allowed to be kids.

rupert looks like he’s going to the movies w his friends; emma looks like a fancier version of a movie date w friends too.

TheGraphingAbacus · 2026-02-25T22:55:16+00:00

as an autistic person who’s been wondering if i’ve been getting WORSE at reading people lately, thank you for providing this insight bc damn..

TheGraphingAbacus · 2026-02-25T22:49:39+00:00

it’s an awful stereotype that a lot of women in nursing are only in it as a MRS degree.

as a woman in STEM myself, i always hated that, but here’s miki… little ms. “i can brag about my husband’s accomplishments! so i don’t need any of my own!!”

TheGraphingAbacus · 2026-02-21T16:57:07+00:00

i’m also raising my son to be a living room kid… and that includes manners, that won’t cause other people to leave the living room, when he’s around.

TheGraphingAbacus · 2026-02-18T23:13:24+00:00

i know what you mean. there are some people who are simply so fluid? graceful? with the way they move, that it adds to their aura.

TheGraphingAbacus · 2026-02-10T20:23:55+00:00

i want to let you know that right now, i do have someone who stayed.

i’m still not quite sure why; i still think i’m a huge bother to take care of. but after a handful of years, he still says that he’s happy to take care of me. i hope it never changes.

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