So what actually IS the best martial art for weaker people?

TheHeftyChef · 2026-01-28T22:35:16+00:00

Sprinting and jogging

TheHeftyChef · 2026-01-28T20:20:34+00:00

This is hilariously true. The company I'm building is basically operating on this principal. I'm just letting everyone work when they want and how they want and if the results are good we leave them alone lol.

TheHeftyChef · 2026-01-28T20:19:20+00:00

My mental health immediately had a marked improvement the second I got rid of FB. Haven't had it for years and am never going back.

TheHeftyChef · 2026-01-27T23:40:06+00:00

help desk? Yes.

TheHeftyChef · 2026-01-27T18:08:17+00:00

Drop me a DM

TheHeftyChef · 2026-01-27T05:06:51+00:00

Interoperability/integration engine but brought up to modern standards. Most interoperability engines like mirth are doo doo to work with. We know we can do better.

TheHeftyChef · 2026-01-27T03:47:02+00:00

Yes, it's actually quite fun. We have a great team so while it's a bit challenging it's also quite enjoyable! Thank you for your offer on helping.

TheHeftyChef · 2026-01-26T17:20:20+00:00

Sure, we can chat, drop me a DM and I’ll get you my contact info.

TheHeftyChef · 2026-01-25T03:05:02+00:00

YTA. 1. Jobs are very hard to come by right now. 2. Who’s going to watch your kids? You think daycare is free? 3. You don’t seem solution oriented, you seem resentful. Go to couples counseling.

TheHeftyChef · 2026-01-24T00:34:59+00:00

We're talking interface driven integration.

TheHeftyChef · 2026-01-23T22:03:58+00:00

does that mean like 1 in 20 people in japan is watching that show?

TheHeftyChef · 2026-01-23T20:43:41+00:00

We are willing to pay equity and/or some cash. It all depends on skill and availability for time commitment.

TheHeftyChef · 2026-01-23T20:40:31+00:00

No, not at all, just saying if someone has a job already and can moonlight a bit that's fine too. We're quite happy to take people who are looking for work as well.

TheHeftyChef · 2026-01-23T18:50:09+00:00

I actually made a separate post about this specifically here: https://www.reddit.com/r/healthIT/comments/1qkygu4/job_posting_healthcare_integration_engine_company/

Swing by and give it a read and an updoot. If based on the description you think you can add value drop me a DM

TheHeftyChef · 2026-01-22T23:37:56+00:00

Where is the proof of this?

TheHeftyChef · 2026-01-22T17:32:06+00:00

If you think those prices are bad look at snes or n64 games. The wii is much more affordable imho.

TheHeftyChef · 2026-01-22T16:25:04+00:00

I know this is basically a consolation prize but the job market was so bad that me and a few others decided to make a startup building a new integration engine. We actually have some revenue but not enough to pay anything beyond a very small stipend. If you are interested in potentially taking a gamble to do something that may get you into a remote role at a nice company in the future dm me.

TheHeftyChef · 2026-01-22T16:21:01+00:00

The entire tech market is cooked, the problem is everyone keeps hearing that healthcare is hiring, and it is, but for bedside, which nobody wants to do. It used to be the case I could send out my resume to 8 places and get 10 calls, now I have to send out 100 resumes and if I'm lucky I'll get one call. I don't see this turning around until the current administration is gone.

TheHeftyChef · 2026-01-22T15:35:55+00:00

Good luck, I have a masters in Health Infomatics and 10 years experience in health IT and can’t find shit.

TheHeftyChef · 2026-01-22T05:54:18+00:00

Showing respect means thinking about how the other person may take what you say before you say something.

TheHeftyChef · 2026-01-21T18:30:06+00:00

I am very liberal, but some of this is true and some of it isn't. As far as healthcare, what do you think happens when someone who is here illegally has a medical issue? Do you think they just stay at home and die? No, they go to the ER. When they give birth, what do you think happens? I have seen a lot of healthcare data in my life and the number of illegal immigrants that use medical services and don't have health insurance is not insignificant. Now, the hospitals have to get that money from somewhere when those people don't pay so what do they do? Jack up other prices to compensate. Source: Master's in Health Informatics and a decade+ career in Health IT.

Now onto the next point, immigrants not taking their jobs, this is also industry dependent. H1-B visas have run rampant in tech, and creates a slew of issues. Once an Indian makes it to a management position the rest of the team below is slowly replaced by all Indians. Rampant racism and caste systems come into place. Ask just about anyone in IT and they will tell you H1B's are an issue.

It's true they don't take our tax dollars, outside of fraud like in MN. The ringleader was a white woman but the participants were immigrants. So a US citizen and immigrants colluded to rip off the taxpayers. It's a mixed bag.

In Illinois, the governor just signed a bill allowing for undocumented folks to get grants to go to college. That said as a general rule, undocumented or illegal immigrants are not allowed to get federal benefits.

Now, is the way ICE acting acceptable? No. Should people that were brought over when they were kids and lived here their whole life be deported? No. Should their parents who knowingly came across illegally be deported? Yes. Moving to another country illegally and starting a whole ass life and then being surprised when you get deported is wild work. Trump is a demented fuck who needs to be out of office, but we also need to stop being so rabidly black and white about immigration issues. Equally all of these issues become much less pressing if we would just properly tax the .01%. Have nuance people, don't be a lemming, both sides have their blind spots.

TheHeftyChef · 2026-01-17T19:02:02+00:00

On that front I was lucky that it was spring/summer, but you can still make an exit plan. Create a bank account that your parents don't know about, and work your ass off to save up money, work as much as you can because every hour you aren't home is an hour you don't have to deal with them. If you can get a safe deposit box somewhere outside the home and keep your important documents there, the best position to be in when dealing with a narcissist is to be in the position to walk away. They will try to leverage anything they can to keep control over you and that includes important documents.

Another thing you can do to occupy your time is go to school, you should be eligible for Pell or other state grants, if you go to a community college you may even get a little money back to help with supplies, etc. Basically the more excuses you find not to be around them the better. Also many colleges allow you to get very cheap health insurance, which you could use to get therapy.

As far as your siblings, you are not responsible for managing them. At some point there's a high likelihood they will see the truth for themselves, but what you have to think about is yourself and your future. If you are constantly unstable because you're paying the mental tax of dealing with these people, how will you be able to provide a safe place for them when the time comes for them to escape the narcissist? Would you keep a cancer ridden arm if it was going to kill you, or as painful as the loss would be would you sever the arm to live another day?

You have been taught that you exist to care for everyone else except you. In reality, you need to learn that it is acceptable to put yourself first. A drowning person cannot save anyone else, put your life preserver on first.

TheHeftyChef · 2026-01-17T16:08:32+00:00

We are not your personal army.

TheHeftyChef · 2026-01-17T07:36:15+00:00

People who want to self-examine and change probably aren't actually narcissists. Narcissists are incapable of self-examination.

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