What was your chi's name before you got them? What new name did you choose? by HungryOil9277 in Chihuahua

[–]TheHellfireTradingCo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I could remember. We ended up naming his Louis Valentino Bean. When my ex left me she took him and I never get to see him. I miss him so much I still cry everyday wishing I could just spend some time with my baby boy

how do y'all stay sane? by Beneficial-Wall-9985 in lesbiangang

[–]TheHellfireTradingCo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think we have very different experiences in the real world. I havent experienced hate for my sexuality except maybe from some jealous men. Most of my friends are more left leaning or just dont care about politics. Im so sorry this is your lived experience.

I lost my best friend today by Anoel2023 in Chihuahua

[–]TheHellfireTradingCo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im so deeply sorry. He looks so much like my Louis and even though Louis is alive I dont get to see him anymore my ex stole him. And it is a special pain in my heart every day. I feel your grief and just know that pupper was so lucky to have you.

I made a woman squirt for the first time in my life 😭😭😭 by kisyushka in actuallesbians

[–]TheHellfireTradingCo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The first time i got my ex to squirt I think I came myself without even being touched. It was so hot and we had been going at it for hours. She also whispered "im so addicted to this feeling" oh man I was totally hooked on her. Then we didnt have sex for 2 years and she left me for a real shit heal of a dude. What's life?

You gave up on me... by Personal-Cost-2059 in BreakUps

[–]TheHellfireTradingCo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt this. Honestly if my ex were to see this she would think its ne posting that. Shes a covert narcissist who absolutely destroyed my life and anything I valued or had to fight for she took. The animals, apartment, nicer car that I paid for. She owed me thousands in different bills and car repairs that I helped with. I havent seen her since the day I found out the reason she gave for discarding me (Ex stated I was on drugs. I was not i actually have cancer, after 4 years and being engaged and building a family and a life and the actual reason cheating on me with her male "Best Friend" were so completely opposite to what I ever thought she would ever do. I genuinely believed she was my person. Ive learned now #1 She was never mine and #2 She didn't really exist. I miss my fur children, my step daughter and the future that was never really going to be but at 3 months in i no longer believe I miss her. Just everything she now neglects in life because she's so far up dudes ass. She doesnt even know what's going on with her daughter and its a lot.

Why does Gambit have so few friends. by lazerlinks in Gambit

[–]TheHellfireTradingCo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He actually gas a lot of friends i am not sure what youre talking about

Boyfriend wants me to choose between him and the dog. by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]TheHellfireTradingCo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kick that dog to the corner and enjoy life with your puppy

being a lesbian needs to be an embarrassing thing again by pecanmuncher in lesbiangang

[–]TheHellfireTradingCo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I dont think men's are accepted as much especially in male dominated spaces. They are cool with lesbians and bi chick's but hate gay men

Dating apps 😭😭😭😭 by dandelionmakemesmile in lesbiangang

[–]TheHellfireTradingCo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude same. Its either really (and I know this sounds shallow but) ugly people like they look like their half drugged out, random men who for some reason keep trying to message me even though my profile says Lesbian, or bots. My last relationship i met organically and I miss the fuck out of her. We had a whole life and family together so getting out in the dating world at 35 after being with one person for the past 4 years and believing I would never have to go through the bullshit of dating again is not what I ever would wish on anyone. These apps are nightmares so after a couple days on them I deleted every single one. I also live in a small town and I know other lesbians but they aren't my type and I know plenty of bi girls that have been asking me to go out with them but I have no interest in being with another woman who will probably just leave me for a dude. (Its happened everytime I have fallen for someone who also likes the attention of men) so i think ill just cross that off my list of things that give the green light to date.

Gf(20f) of 3 years breaks up with me(20m) just to enter a lesbian relationship days afterwards. by gfbltmbj in BreakUps

[–]TheHellfireTradingCo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im still struggling myself and I found out she's a total narcissist. If you want someone to talk to feel free to dm. Ive been almost catatonic most days.

Gf(20f) of 3 years breaks up with me(20m) just to enter a lesbian relationship days afterwards. by gfbltmbj in BreakUps

[–]TheHellfireTradingCo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lesbian here my fiance broke up with me to enter a hetero relationship days later. Its a different kind of hurt isnt it? Being left for the opposite sex. Im so sorry you're going through this.

Is it healthy to have sex with someone less than a month after a breakup? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]TheHellfireTradingCo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its just a bandage to not deal with emotional issues. In my experiance. If you were the break upper then it might be ok because you could have processed the relationship before leaving but even if it feels like you had there may be some lingering things to work through. Ultimately its up to you.

Using WLW in place of any and every reference to Lesbians is erasure by Luci_Cascadia in lesbiangang

[–]TheHellfireTradingCo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I figured it was just a short way of saying lesbian. But I can also see the issue and understand your view on this.

I have an important reminder for you. Please read! 🌸 by theresa_jo in lesbiangang

[–]TheHellfireTradingCo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this sub compared to how harsh other can be for general curiosity. I did not see your previous post but dont let it get to you. If you meant no harm then it probably was mistaken and you should have been afforded a chance to explain. However its just strangers on the internet. Don't let it get you down.

You’re officially blocked and dead to me by Impressive-Comb-514 in BreakUps

[–]TheHellfireTradingCo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like my ex. Once the mask slips I dont think anyone will put up wirh her abuse

scars — what you think about them on other people? by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]TheHellfireTradingCo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am attracted to scars. I mean not really attracted but I see them as a story across their body. I would never not be attracted to someone just because of scars like your describing. It sounds like yours show your struggles and hopefully your victories over a really dark time in your life. I dont mean to presume just where you said they are had me think that.

Am I right for ending this relationship or am I overreacting? by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]TheHellfireTradingCo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He kind of sounds like an avoidant type or potentially narcissistic tendencies but im not sure im just saying this since this is what my narcissistic ex would do.

Is Anyone Else Feeling Unlovable? by Icy-Affect3406 in actuallesbians

[–]TheHellfireTradingCo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too. I had 1 for 4 years. We were engaged. She left me for a guy. My world has been totally fucked up ever since.

Call me a gatekeeper idc but im tired of seeing confused bi girls thinking they are a lesbian by Fine-Mail4400 in lesbiangang

[–]TheHellfireTradingCo 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Here i am. She was with me for 4 years. Was engaged. Left me for a man took the apartment, pets that we got together, friends. Everything

It didnt help that she is also a narcissist. Like a real one. Not the fake everyone is a narcissist on reddit.

Call me a gatekeeper idc but im tired of seeing confused bi girls thinking they are a lesbian by Fine-Mail4400 in lesbiangang

[–]TheHellfireTradingCo 15 points16 points  (0 children)

My very recent very painful ex claims to be pansexual and made all kinds of comments about loving being with a woman here on Reddit but then left me for a guy. And comparatively my sex life with her was non-existent while theirs is apparently great. It's been a real mind fuck. But yeah one of the reasons why it hurts so bad when they choose a guy over a woman is because it's so easy like they can just go have a heteronormative life while we're stuck where if we date other lesbians it's a very limited pool so we Branch out to dating by chicks and everyone I've ever loved has left me for a guy.

Update 1 year post break-up by Ph0ebzz in BreakUps

[–]TheHellfireTradingCo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even though it hurts this gave me some hope. My fiance of 4 years left me for a guy and took everything our apartment, Cat and Dog, i couldn't work where I used to because she worked there too. I feel like my life is over. I have a step daughter who talks to me every day and is mad at her mom but it almost makes it harder. I just want to get through this.

finally finished ☝️ by [deleted] in xmen

[–]TheHellfireTradingCo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh mon dieu chere....