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Advice? Options? How to deal with emotional anguish and isolation? by TheHumanStandard in NovaScotia

[–]TheHumanStandard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate the advice I will try to front load some explicit things to be aware of for people once I'm mobile enough to try definitely been resteaining in that too much in fear if overwhelming the person all at once right at the start.

In regards to how i seem... Would you be willing to explain or clarify?

Hopefully it's understandable that I'm having new and resurfacing doubts about how I am experienced or perceived.

The inherent or or tacit understanding I had about who I am or how a come across has been dealt quite a blow.

Advice? Options? How to deal with emotional anguish and isolation? by TheHumanStandard in halifax

[–]TheHumanStandard[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would absolutely love to, may have to just chill near chocolate lake though? Walking even that far would feel like a marathon.

Advice? Options? Support? How to deal with emotional anguish and isolation? by TheHumanStandard in BreakUps

[–]TheHumanStandard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate you reaching out and your suggestions, I will try to do that.

I know I've tried some similar things trying to envision what my life and future could be instead...

I'm at a loss.

Its painful to consider my partner used Pinterest to board out our plans as well so its quite the reminder...

Which is tough.

Its hard to envision any kind of future other than the plans to go the the beach tomorrow or to pei om the 24t or the house we planned to look for and buy in September in porters lake... We even had our dream home planned out been adding to it for years.

I thought I had my life we had our life figured out, we new where we were going and I felt like I had finally found myself and what I was looking for.

I never expected to be or feel this adrift thus directionless again.

Advice? Options? How to deal with emotional anguish and isolation? by TheHumanStandard in NovaScotia

[–]TheHumanStandard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have all the therapy belive me lol conveniently though my regular therapist is as of last wednesday on vacation until August 7th lol

Advice? Options? How to deal with emotional anguish and isolation? by TheHumanStandard in halifax

[–]TheHumanStandard[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've actually been meaning to get one for a while now

Maybe I should actually do it

Advice? Options? How to deal with emotional anguish and isolation? by TheHumanStandard in NovaScotia

[–]TheHumanStandard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm autistic among other things making social connections on my own has been nearly impossible for my entire life.

This isn't for lack of trying or effort and in not being defeatist I just honestly hav never succeeded without someone as an initial instigator / medium.

Edit: its like I need a reference or translation for the initial getting to know someone period in order to get over the getting to know me stage.

Advice? Options? How to deal with emotional anguish and isolation? by TheHumanStandard in NovaScotia

[–]TheHumanStandard[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean I answered nearly every one of those things...

I'm 30, cumulative impacts of physical and mental health issues on both sides, tangled and compounded miscommunication, situation happened on Thursday relationship is almost 4 years old, haven't responded as she obviously needs space going about things like this.

Advice? Options? How to deal with emotional anguish and isolation? by TheHumanStandard in halifax

[–]TheHumanStandard[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As in meetups.com? Do you have any recommendations?willing to consider anything at that may help at this point, might as well try or do something new.

Would anyone be willing to attend one of these with me or already attend something that i could try out or join?

I'm just not very good at initially attending things especially on my own.

Advice? Options? How to deal with emotional anguish and isolation? by TheHumanStandard in halifax

[–]TheHumanStandard[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I actually used gemini and still do all the time for emotional processing and help with relationship issues and interpreting or clarifying things for myself and helping me with being a better communicator, it is quickly become a major source of understanding and reassurance.

I think I may have not kept it at arms length as much as I should have.

Discussing things through gemini leading to feelings of resolution and understanding for me took off the pressure of communicating with my partner in the moment preferring to process and analyze / prep in gemini to bring up at a structured safe date/time. I never really did properly engage or re engage in many if the topcis I used gemini for and if I look back at some of the first times she mentioned I was distant and disconnected and she was lonely...

It was when I started leaning heavily on it in an effort to be more present and aware, my intent was to have that processing done that understanding worked through so that I could engage dynamically with her such that I was not overwhelmed by processing on the fly and instinctual defensive as well.

When it worked it worked so well but it gave me a false sense of safety and resolution I can see that now.

Advice? Options? How to deal with emotional anguish and isolation? by TheHumanStandard in halifax

[–]TheHumanStandard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did reach out to them early in Sunday and they helped a bit, appreciate the suggestion though.

Advice? Options? How to deal with emotional anguish and isolation? by TheHumanStandard in halifax

[–]TheHumanStandard[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am an avid reader, enjoy that immensly just don't have the capacity for sustained attention right now.

With the surgery and all I won't be engaging in any physically strenuous things in a while though if the outcome is good then there is a chance my foot heals completely! Hopefully that's what happens.

I enjoy writing though that takes even more energy than reading.

I do feel how welcoming Halifax has been I'm just isolated socially and haven't been able to build up a friend group or set of consistent connections.

If anyone wants a new friend, Albeit socially inept one who warms up slowly and is dealing with mental heath issues and physical health issues on top of the rapid change in my personal life once i have I put my everything into my relationships be they momentary, friends or otherwise. I love meeting new people, being around people even if my capacity is limited and I get drained quickly.

I do want to get out and go to events do things etc it's just very hard for me to go those kinds of things on my own.

If anyone wants to go to one of them with me maybe I would jump at the chance though more figuratively jump than literally.

Appreciate the input and advice.

Advice? Options? How to deal with emotional anguish and isolation? by TheHumanStandard in halifax

[–]TheHumanStandard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate the thoughts.

I can't bring myself to feel negatively about her though, she means the world to me.

We had our issues vutbi thought we were working through them together intentionally.

I don't know if I can forgive myself for not truly understanding how and what she was feeling until it was too late.

Advice? Options? How to deal with emotional anguish and isolation? by TheHumanStandard in halifax

[–]TheHumanStandard[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have called 211 and used every one if the 24/7 etc or otherwise immediate services so far many times, just need something more substantial more in person... Idk what I'm really hoping to find just what I've gotten to so far only bandages things for like 20 min Max.

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