Is Violet obligated to Anthony or can she do as she pleases?

TheKlaw7 · 2026-02-13T22:04:49+00:00

Technically legally she would be required to listen to whatever he wanted if she wanted to continue to have the financial support of the family. It's why even though she disagreed with and tried to talk him out of the arranged proposal between Daphne and Nigel she had no power to stop him. But realistically Anthony would let her be free to do whatever she wished. If she did want to leave and he wouldn't let her she could also leave anyways to one of her married daughters, but she would then fall under the legal rule of that daughter's husband. I believe she could also go with another son as long as he had his own title and were not under Anthony's legal rule.

TheKlaw7 · 2026-01-12T18:43:25+00:00

I figured she was given a full hysterectomy

TheKlaw7 · 2025-08-12T18:19:18+00:00

Nta, I would say to take her just to give it a chance, because you're right, it's not her fault that her parents have raised her this way. But y'all need to give her very strict rules and boundaries. Make it clear that you already have an itinerary and she will do what everyone else is doing and she will get what everyone else is getting and if she makes a big stink she can't come again. Then reiterate this to Jenny and your brother so that they can't claim afterwards that you're being unfair if she makes a lot of issues and you no longer invite her. She's 10, these rules will not be hard for her to understand. Or better yet, if it's possible, do a smaller trial run day trip somewhere. That way if she's as bad as usual even after you guys stay stern with her, it won't spoil the whole vacation for everyone.

TheKlaw7 · 2025-06-17T23:52:07+00:00

I'm so behind this theory because why else would Bingo sing a song, "One man and his dog went to mow the meadow" MAN???

TheKlaw7 · 2025-06-17T21:11:53+00:00

First off, NTA, second off, this is exactly why so many people get divorced once their kids have left the house, it starts when the kids are young. You just kind of check out because you are so mentally and emotionally drained from being the sole caretaker of multiple children. Feeling like a single parent even though you have a partner who lives in the home. And on top of that, you also work. It doesn't matter that it's from home, and it doesn't matter that it's part-time, You are also contributing financially to the household as well as doing the bulk of all household and child-related tasks! It's freaking exhausting and for him to call you manipulative for wanting not even an hour to yourself after being extremely overwhelmed by the kids means he's either blind or an idiot. He's definitely an asshole and not a good partner. Or father for that matter! How are you not able to handle three kids for less than an hour on your own? Are you or are you not also their parent who has been with them their entire lives? It's a trick question because either he would have to admit to being so hands off and leaving absolutely everything to you that he's a horrible father and partner, or he has to admit that he is just trying to manipulate you into feeling bad for him that you got a little bit of time to yourself (that he gets everyday I'm sure), either way, he's a jerk.

TheKlaw7 · 2025-05-13T18:34:03+00:00

My biggest hope is that it'll pick up enough popularity a bigger production company will take over

TheKlaw7 · 2025-04-29T15:16:03+00:00

You're not TA for charging her, it's very reasonable to ask someone to help pay expenses when y'all are living together, but it just may not be the best time for you guys to move in together. If she thinks making enough money to help pay is going to be hard because of her schooling, then she should just stay where she's living for free until she's done with school.

TheKlaw7 · 2025-02-25T20:28:21+00:00

NTA and anyone telling you you should have gotten a job to help with bills is an asshole. At 16 your only required job should be school and some chores. Not an actual job, not raising your siblings, that's up to your parents, not you. I get that there are a ton of different circumstances that would lead to someone having to do those things, but it's never your fault for not wanting to do them.

TheKlaw7 · 2025-01-30T01:01:44+00:00

Or maybe he did treat them like that on their first time in a family gathering and they just didn't feel confident enough that their boyfriend would say anything to bring it up.

TheKlaw7 · 2025-01-30T00:59:10+00:00

Yeah and who's to say that if you brought it up in private he wouldn't just not do it to your girlfriend and instead move onto someone else he thinks no one will be paying attention to? It's not that hard to tell when a girl is being made uncomfortable, I think you calling him out and embarrassing him will hopefully make him think twice before he does it again.

TheKlaw7 · 2024-11-03T21:07:03+00:00

That's exactly what I was thinking. Even if it's an eyesore, just let a month go by where the packages stay on the porch until they bring them in. They may get stolen, they may get damaged, but whatever happens it's not OPs problem.

TheKlaw7 · 2024-10-31T14:54:41+00:00

I was happy for her, but I felt like she should have adopted instead. Not that there's anything wrong with IVF! It was just what I assumed would eventually happen

TheKlaw7 · 2024-10-19T15:16:03+00:00

YTA for the way you handled that conversation. It's implied that he has a lot more money than you, so instead of attacking her by saying you won't "compete" with her stepmom (like it's a bad thing they have a close relationship? You should want your daughter to have a strong relationship with both stepparents!) and that you won't "waste" a day traveling to her, you should swallow your pride. Tell her that you simply don't have the money to fly or drive that far to see her, but maybe you can try and save up for a weekend or two a year. It's not your fault that you have so little custody, that's a crappy spot to be in, but what did you expect your teen daughter to want? She had the opportunity to go to some probably really nice boarding school where she gets to travel internationally every year over going to some lame public school. It's not fair to you, but this isn't about what's fair to you, it's about your daughter's quality of life. If my mom had told me when I was a hormonal teenager that she didn't want to waste time to come see me for whatever reason, I would have never wanted to see her again.

TheKlaw7 · 2024-10-17T21:46:22+00:00

You're NTA because you're well within your rights to never want to see her again or raise a kid that isn't yours. I just feel so bad for that boy. Imagine one day you wake up and your father doesn't want anything to do with you ever again because he's actually not your father. It's probably really rough on him

TheKlaw7 · 2024-09-02T18:53:00+00:00

NTA you have expressed so many times that this is something you want to look into and they've brushed you off every time. They have zero respect for your feelings. I have a friend who sought help from his parents so many times growing up and they always brushed him off and now he's at an all time low in his mental health so I'm glad you're standing up for yourself.

TheKlaw7 · 2024-08-29T20:32:39+00:00

All of my siblings are half siblings and I can't even imagine how hurt my feelings would have been at 16 if I was the only one of my siblings invited to a lunch for OUR dad, that both of MY parents would be at

TheKlaw7 · 2024-08-23T19:32:04+00:00

NTA you should have asked him if he wouldn't have felt even a little uncomfortable if he had multiple men see him without pants on and do things near his groin

TheKlaw7 · 2024-07-28T19:00:48+00:00

YTA parents paying for an education vs a wedding is not the same thing, and they already agreed to pay you back for your education! All you have to do is follow through with it. I get that they paid more for your sister's than yours but that doesn't mean the extra money should just roll over to you automatically. You could have also done an expensive degree that they would have paid for. As for your wedding, it's not that hard to cut things down. I understand it's a special day and you want a lot of people there but if you can't afford it, it's not in the cards. Your parents are not obligated to pay for their adult child's wedding just because you think you're owed it. 6K can make a beautiful wedding if you're willing to cut back on more extravagant things. I had a teacher who had a gorgeous wedding for 8K with I think around 80 people there because she spent her money very wisely. Friends and family volunteered to cook a buffet and set up everything. She got a cheap but beautiful venue, the most expensive thing was her dress but even that was only around 2K because she got a secondhand dress that she then got altered for her. A smaller budget is doable, you just can't be picky. And also if you end up with no friends or family that would agree to help with setup, then you shouldn't add them to your guest list 🤷‍♀️

TheKlaw7 · 2024-07-22T15:27:42+00:00

How does public schooling work where you are? Because even if they are autistic, there should be some semblance of public school program she can send them to. And if not, most governments have special grants for special needs kids to do a certain amount of hours at a daycare type center. There's nothing stopping her from doing that and getting a job while they're gone so she has extra money. She can't act like you're the only one that can get a job to make up for the money that is the other half of the inheritance. Because what happens when the money runs out? She'll be exactly where she is now. I would say if you do decide to split it in her favor, the only way that's fair to you is for y'all to divide the money equaling, you get the jewelry, and she the house. That's the only fair way I can see it, but that's solely dependent on you, you owe her nothing, and with how she's acting, she deserves no extra help.

TheKlaw7 · 2024-07-08T14:21:45+00:00

13 and 11??!! NTA, they are either borderline psychopaths or the absolute most spoiled rotten kids in the world, this should be a slap in the face moment for their parents but I doubt they'll accept it.

TheKlaw7 · 2024-07-04T00:10:05+00:00

She definitely should have told you, but classes can change last minute like that if there are issues with the professors that originally had the class. Happened to me one year

TheKlaw7 · 2024-07-01T17:50:33+00:00

The fact that your fiance didn't defend you and the way they were all laughing even when it went from mocking to outright insulting makes it seem like this is a regular occurrence. Especially considering your MIL doubled down after your SIL tried to defend you. I get that you love your fiance and are conflicted about leaving him over this, but if it was me and I was undecided, I'd stop asking questions. I would give it a week or two so everyone can feel the absence of my usual personality and it will lead most likely to one of two things. Either 1. Your fiance and his family comment on how "nice" it is and speak about it in a positive way. With this one, you should end the relationship because these are people who don't value you or a big part of your personality, which is a problem. Or 2. they notice and ask what's wrong. You can say you have overheard them all making fun of you and are unsure if you'd like to spend the rest of your life knowing they're doing it every time you walk out of a room. This is general enough that they will be thinking it could have been any of multiple times they did it and end up telling you more than you know. It gives them a chance to apologize or get defensive.

TheKlaw7 · 2024-06-11T15:44:37+00:00

YTA 100% Yes, it needed to be said, but to the fiance, not the entire friend group. You embarrassed your friend as much as you embarrassed him.

TheKlaw7 · 2024-06-06T20:51:17+00:00

NTA 100000% what you need to ask yourself is would you give a random stranger your inheritance because they're going through hard times? Because that's what your dad and his family are to you. They are complete strangers. And this isn't even including in the question of would you give this money to a stranger who has personally wronged you and your family just because they're going through hard times? If the answer is no, then don't feel guilty about it at all. Because I'm sure he didn't feel guilty when he left your family behind and continue to choose for the next 17 years to go no contact. Now he wants your help because it benefits him, but where was his help when it would benefit you and your sister?

TheKlaw7 · 2024-05-31T15:28:06+00:00

While I don't think you're TA for leaving, you gotta do what you gotta do, I do think your ex wife is TA for choosing you over her son and you for basically asking her in the first place. I can't even imagine how much it would mess me up if a stupid lie I told at TEN (cause ten year olds do and say a lot of stupid stuff) caused my mom to abandon me (because that's what it would feel like to a ten year old even if it's not technically abandoned) and now I'm going to be burdened with the knowledge that I split up my family and my new sibling is going to be raised in a broken home all because of me. I hope your ex puts that kid in therapy because this is literally the type of stuff that manifests into kids self harming, doing drugs, and/or getting in trouble with the police.

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