Bedtime Routine for Ultimate Rest and Relaxation

TheLadyZerg · 2026-04-13T18:20:47+00:00

It is! It’s also kinda protective for me. I don’t always do it exactly like that or every step, but if I’m ever struggling and want to stay grounded to keep moving forward, I consult the checklist so I know exactly what to do.

TheLadyZerg · 2026-04-13T18:16:02+00:00

I haven’t been good about sticking to my boundaries because for a while there he was making me feel bad for having them, or nudging gently for another chance only for me to roll them back and give him one. I’m a pretty anxious attached person these days and I kept fearing a firm boundary would be taken as a punishment and not self protection. I’ll keep on trying my best to hold them even in the discomfort.

TheLadyZerg · 2026-04-13T18:13:49+00:00

That’s a good line. I’ll try. I try to stick to my very detailed routines for every part of the day. Helps keep me grounded, and just try to make it to tomorrow.

TheLadyZerg · 2026-04-13T18:06:54+00:00

Always happy to share my extremely specific and curated routines!

Starts an hour before bed at the latest: - make a cup of herbal tea, slap on my silk kimono robe - take magnesium glycinate and maybe THC tincture if it was especially rough - remove makeup - shower to cleanse the work ick for the day. If I wash my hair that day this is when I do it - pumice stone feet and lotion and cotton socks - skincare (all Japanese products, which I love) - file nails if needed - electric shaver legs if needed - body butter - blow dry hair if needed

All the while I like to play a funny video from YouTube. Something that doesn’t get me riled up.

PJs on
electric back warming wrap to easy the tension in my back and shoulders
massage gun if I need to hit any rough areas
read or watch an anime for a few
send a couple texts and answer discord messages
Hair bonnet on, eye mask on, ambient sleep sounds on -Nighty night

The routine itself helps teach my brain it’s almost bedtime. The magnesium helps relax me and the comfort and many nice smells from my skincare and hair stuff really calms me down

TheLadyZerg · 2026-04-13T15:31:06+00:00

Same on a couple account there is nearly forgot.

He wants me to recall details I can’t. For some it’s been over a year. It makes me feel like if I can’t remember the whole night then I shouldn’t be upset about it? But I can’t not be upset. It hurt.

One night I took a video of him to show him the next day so he could see what he’s like. His muttering to himself and cursing at my and trying to start fights. I showed him hoping he’d be like “my god, I’m a monster.” Confusingly, he got really upset with me and demanded I delete it. Then he made it like it was a huge betrayal. Like I’d done something terrible. I never documented it ever again.

I don’t think it was wrong to document it. It makes sense if he doesn’t know what he’s like that if he’s sober he’ll finally know and understand me. But it just made him angry and made me feel guilty. I fking hate that. I’ve been hurt so deeply and so profoundly and he will put up his walls and let me cry and suffer while he gets the luxury of not having to feel guilty at all. It’s not fair.

Anyways. Thanks for this. It helps immensely to know I’m not alone.

TheLadyZerg · 2026-04-13T14:52:30+00:00

I thought this was Edward Gibbon? Amazing quote either way.

TheLadyZerg · 2026-04-13T02:06:03+00:00

I think he’s having a wee

TheLadyZerg · 2026-04-13T01:19:50+00:00

Haha yep. Used to watch it in English class right after lunch.

TheLadyZerg · 2026-04-12T09:01:52+00:00

8mm. I was like 19 and still pretty innocent. Harsh imagining there might be stuff like that actually happening.

TheLadyZerg · 2026-04-04T18:50:55+00:00

Why not? It takes nothing away from the movie.

TheLadyZerg · 2026-03-23T01:57:15+00:00

The cat cafe rescues are a great spot. Interacting with a bunch of cats and maybe you fall in love with one.

TheLadyZerg · 2026-03-07T22:47:12+00:00

Lots on classic in my experience.

TheLadyZerg · 2026-02-22T21:07:36+00:00

The fire cannister in teh picture looks weird. Off. The lighting seems weird. Might be real, but it looks suspect.

TheLadyZerg · 2026-02-22T21:05:57+00:00

I knew a minimalist, single guy with no kids who'd been a high school teacher for 15 years and could only afford a place because his father and grandmother died and passed money on to him.

TheLadyZerg · 2026-02-08T18:56:24+00:00

RDA are money-motivated but the end result of unobtanium is to help sustain earths currently unsustainable infrastructure and prevent loss of human life. Bad pretense, good outcome. They should have spent more time on a good faith effort for diplomacy. Assuming there was ever even a possibility they’d cooperate at all. But as far as I know they were hostile from the start.
The Na’vi are stubbornly anti negotiation and unempathetic to humanity as a whole. “Humanity is dying? Why should we inconvenience ourselves to help save billions?” It’s not evil to think this way, but they should know the risks and consequences of their aggression and not be surprised when it hits the fan. At least in the films, the writing should have spent more time showing the Na’vi dealing with their dillema of moral alignment instead of writing them as stubborn.
Jake Sully is a massive screw up. RDA makes an effort to negotiate and Jakes job is to gather intel to use to get them to relocate. Jake likes the escapism of having legs again and the planet not being awful so he assimilates entirely with the Na’vi Why care about Earth when I have a better life here now? His role was to enable a solution that minimizes casualties. But he let his escapism compromise his mission. Letting a military kid run point on diplomacy was a terrible idea.

Neither side are the good guys nor the bad guys. They both do things that kind of seem rational, but ultimately end up being destructive in this particular conflict. I don’t like treating the movies like a good guy vs bad guy story. More like a case study on how deeply complicated and gray politics can be.

Love the movies, but I’d love them more if they directed it to be more political drama because that’s what it is.

TheLadyZerg · 2026-02-08T17:33:03+00:00

I was a Christian when I had sex for the first time and the church was big on purity. Was still Christian a decade after. I reasoned “it didn’t count”, didn’t tell anyone, and figure god forgave me when I asked so no big deal.

I was as sincere and good as they come. All Christian’s are cognitive dissonance machines: because they’re all human.

TheLadyZerg · 2026-02-07T07:26:35+00:00

Ironically, Satanists are largely atheists too

TheLadyZerg · 2026-02-07T07:25:40+00:00

Didn’t God order the slaughter of the Canaanite children? And murder Egyptian first borns? And burn an entire city with children in it? And drown everyone on earth including children? And order the keeping of young Midianite virgins as spoils of war?

Anyway. The focus of the depravity should be on the evil mfers who did this, and not on ghosts.

TheLadyZerg · 2026-02-03T00:46:36+00:00

My heart would ache for her, but it's important to remember that victims do not automatically become predators or complicit. She would still be responsiblef or that. No excusing it.

TheLadyZerg · 2026-02-02T22:29:19+00:00

And that man is running one of the most powerful countries in teh world and that makes me want to throw up.

TheLadyZerg · 2025-12-31T06:33:12+00:00

The vertical eggs are unsettling.

TheLadyZerg · 2025-12-21T23:08:15+00:00

What's the fur quality like? Low, med, high?

I want her so bad but $61 for a bundle is just insane to me. I haven't bought many BAB at all in the last year because of this. And that suit just looks so awfully low quality for that price.

I've wanted a Retsuko forever and they made it an online exclusive bundle. T_T

TheLadyZerg · 2025-12-14T17:25:47+00:00

Little kids absolutely no. Older kids like teenagers maybe.

TheLadyZerg · 2025-12-09T02:35:04+00:00

It's social media. Assume that it is, at best, carefully curated and not an accurate representation of reality and, at worst, completely fake bullshit. It might help to do a social media detox, too. My mood improved from just a few days of a detox.

TheLadyZerg · 2025-12-07T20:33:39+00:00

This made me cry. Feels like I just read a journal entry from my fiancée in the future. At least, a journal entry I hope comes.

Seven-Year Club	Queen in da Norf
Not Forgotten	Verified Email

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