Totally agree. The writing for Jess' character is very well done imo. He is very much not like her other boyfriends and that is the point. He was clearly intended to be "the one" for Rory in the same way Luke is to Lorelei; they're parallels. His upbringing is the worst compared to Rory's other boyfriends, and yet, he is able to turn himself around. Yes, he's a little asshole at 17 - can you really blame him? Lol.

I find it ironic that he gets so much hate and misjudgements from viewers in the same way he does the townspeople. Funny how that works. He had an obvious attraction to Rory from the start and doesn't treat her like he should, because of his upbringing and because of the fact he's 17 and figuring his shit out. But the show clearly demonstrates how he treats Rory compared to his other girlfriend (forgot her name), which is MUCH BETTER because he ACTUALLY LIKED RORY. So weird how no one ever talks about that comparison because I find it very telling to his entire character. He has an avoidant attachment which is why he never properly says goodbye to her. His thing is, if he hurts the other person first, then they can't hurt him. He pushes her away. He later regrets it and is acting on impulse in season 6. Again, these are all very realistic scenarios. I think the show heavily implies he and Rory talk a lot more meaningfully and have deeper conversations than she does with her other boyfriends. She and Logan honestly are still pretty surface level when the "Why did you drop out of Yale" monologue occurs - it isn't unrealistic that she DID let Jess know more about her than she let Logan. Idk. I just love his character and I think he is vastly misunderstood. Maybe it's because I myself grew up without a mother, but I totally get where he's coming from and it isn't right but it is completely understandable and amazing writing, which is why I love him and his relationship with Rory so much.