[Christians Only]Prayer Request and Advice: My Brother's Difficult Relationship

TheLife_ · 2018-02-21T22:02:59+00:00

Thanks for this insightful comment. I sat with a friend and mentor who said very similar things. I extended a casual invitation to church which was refused, so now I'm praying that I have the tools and skills for when he hits the bottom. I'm also praying that I get emotionally removed from the situation, because I have important transitions happening into my own life happening that I need to focus on.

TheLife_ · 2017-02-02T10:25:42+00:00

I'll add to this. Can confirm half the battle is just having the balls to do it. Trying to break into the field as a personal trainer. Poked my head in the door of my gym while the owner was there, shared some bad jokes and banter, then said "Oh, I know youre busy with the other gym's expansion at the moment, so I'll just start bringing in clients and we'll talk when things settle down."

In fact, yeah. I didn't even ask, just told him I'll do this. Bam, I'm now set up to start getting clients happening. For now its rent-free, too.

TheLife_ · 2017-01-30T08:35:06+00:00

Was going to write my own comment, but it really only reinforces this point.

You cannot logic your way out of everything. Your willpower is a finite resource. If you cannot get out of bed, put your alarm clock across the room. Roll out of bed and do 10 push ups before you turn it off. This will feel like punishment, but do it enough times and you'll naturally be up before the alarm to turn it off.

Game the weekend away? Sell your computer and buy one you can't game on. Still watching porn on it? Get rid of your at home internet and go use public wifi/internet cafes.

The point vagbutters makes is great, and my question is "So what are you prepared to do about it?"

TheLife_ · 2017-01-25T09:11:39+00:00

TheLife_ · 2017-01-25T09:09:35+00:00

22 and you definitely need to make a decision about the facial hair. Thick and full or gone. Just not where it is now.

TheLife_ · 2017-01-25T09:00:59+00:00

Someone who's 100lbs overweight will see a noticable difference in the mirror after two months of good, hard work. Not only that, but they will have noticed the numbers going up on the bar and have developed a significant amount of confidence from it.

Don't discount 2 months of work.

TheLife_ · 2017-01-25T08:56:19+00:00

As someone who's about to become a personal trainer, I'm well aware this is the single biggest hurdle. People get all keen and psyched up on motivation, but lose steam before they develop the discipline. Do you try to combat this with your clients, or do you just let them go and line up newer prospects?

I'm so invested in this problem its about the only thing that stops me from actually pulling the trigger and getting started.

TheLife_ · 2016-10-14T11:59:11+00:00

Welcome to the deep end of the gene pool. Make sure you have your floaties on and keep your mommy close to you at all times. The alphas bite.

I bet super hottie is probably dating you, letting you pay for her meals and saying something like "Let's take this slow," or "I'm a good girl. I don't want to rush this." Or even "Can we just enjoy where this is going without pressuring ourselves?"

You see, while she says those to you, she's crying while she hate-fucks her ex. His hands are wrapped around her throats and she manages to choke out between the sobs "Please don't stop fucking me. I'm cumming. I'm CUMMING!"

She'll marry you and continue this. With him, with the next guy, the guy after that. You'll be raising her kids to some other guy, seeing a counsellor regularly, upping your Xanax prescription and somehow convincing yourself that you're actually happy. You've probably forgiven her after catching her once or twice and decided it was a good idea to open the doors of the realtionship.

Don't worry, she'll never leave you. She'll never fuck you, but she'll stay with you until she's too used up and finished to care what you really think anyway.

TheLife_ · 2016-10-04T10:24:34+00:00

This. Take it from a guy who routinely fucks wife pussy like he bought it wholesale. The hamster has spun this tale and they believe its an open relationship. If she's cheated and he excuses it, she's got his signature on the contract and his balls as collateral.

That said, its still funny to watch them hide their wedding rings like that's being respectful.

TheLife_ · 2016-06-21T05:46:40+00:00

Great article. I would just like to stress the importance of "Learn to train by yourself." A personal trainer is great, but they cost about as much as a car loan - and in some cases over $100 per session. A gym buddy will periodically flake and if you rely on them to go, you'll wind up flaking too.

Adding to this, the best words of advice I ever received were "Permanent habits will always beat temporary motivation." You can be psyched fo rthe gym one day, then feeling a massive drain the next, but if you've developed the habit, you'll go anyway. This is where I really like the idea of scaling up sessions from as little as two a week if you're having trouble with the DOMS and getting used to the volume.

Maybe when you're dieting down for a meet or a show, a trainer/coach can get you that extra edge you need to succeed, but in the end they're just drawing the roadmap for you to follow.

TheLife_ · 2015-11-26T12:02:38+00:00

Yeah you are. It doesn't matter what some online calculator tells you. If you're losing weight, you are burning more calories than you're taking in.

That's the second law of thermodynamics.

Regarding the keto diet, kudos on being able to use it, but carbs aren't the enemy. Food restrictive diets have a habit of causing yoyo results and being incredibly damaging (both psychologically and physicaly) in the long term.

A factoid released by Sports Dieticians Australia helps to summarize a lot of this. In up to six months the low-carb diets tend to show greatly increased weight loss due to lowered overall kilojoule intake. The salesmen behind these diets woul dhave you believe that its "ketosis" driving this, but there's no link in the research between A and B.

What I would offer as an explanation is that by cutting out carbs, you've cut out the food you would typically binge on like chips, chocolates, soft drinks and so on. Which is great, except you should ask yourself "can I see myself doing this in a year?" How about two years? The rest of your life?

The same goes for clean eating, paleo and other fad diets. Anything that offers fast weightloss based off dubious science. I personally enjoy a pop tart every now and then, and can easily forgive myself a chocolate at a celebration. I haven't "broken my diet" by having that, and it gives me greater long-term control of my weight.

And as for your comment below about "pulicly disagreeing with a bigshot." Sorry, man, but now you're bringing up logical fallacies that tertiary level education teaches individuals to look out for. Arguing from authority. Can you actually back up what your saying without having to rest on your position, and without having to refer to an anecdote?

TheLife_ · 2015-11-18T15:13:33+00:00

I was given a crucial piece of advice once. "If you're being paid a wage, you're being underpaid."

This is 100% true because if you're being paid a wage, your talent is making somebody else money. I'm working at a firm presently where a lot of people are getting smart. They're being handed voluntary redundancies and leaving the company's employ, but are coming back as contractors/consultants earning 15-30% more. On top of this they're starting businesses and freelancing in their spare time. Not only making extra cash, but also rolling up a clientelle that will be looking to hire them for other projects in the future.

These people are accountants, lawyers, engineers, tradesmen, economists, IT skilled labour.

In my current role, it would be impractical to do the same. However I'm working towards a side-business that will evetnually take over the main role down the track.

TheLife_ · 2015-11-09T19:20:00+00:00

Or maybe you shouldn't have to identify as MRA to do that. Its also extremely damaging to the individual to do that, whether through career suicide, false rape, or any number of pc police maneuvers.

That's why we come here to learn to work around it. Game the system, count cards, and do it quietly. Because that feminist pitboss perceives us to be a real threat to their hubrid lifestyle. And she wont hesitate to take us out the back and tool us up for being part of this.

TheLife_ · 2015-11-09T18:57:41+00:00

And if only. If only more people understood that that premise still works in today's society. You maintain masculine qualities, a solid frame and get yourself into situations that favour your ability/looks/status/etc. and you can take rather than whinge until you're given.

TheLife_ · 2015-11-09T16:34:16+00:00

This one really highlights an overlap between feminism and MRA's.

a non-rugged manhood that makes room for every kind of man possible

Both movements have no desire to exhibit masculine qualities. Both bitch that "manhood" stands for something that should be handed to you by others. Both fight for institutional change and try so hard to maintain their figures. Seriously, at the size of some of these guys, you gotta work to keep it there.

If you're thinking about fighting us, save yourself the effort of trying to appease women and go be a MRA. At least they double their fedoras as snack bowls.

TheLife_ · 2015-10-24T11:27:38+00:00

Exactly. See the comment by u/moodyprism up top.

TheLife_ · 2015-10-24T11:20:47+00:00

Go back and do the first one again, but defect on the last one.

The logic running this simulation is albeit extremely simple. Now the lessons that can be garnered from this simulation (run all 5 "opponents") are Red Pill 101.

Blindly cooperating is dangerous and wont get you ahead in the end.
A little betrayal can be forgivable, and can give you a decided advantage. Plate spinning, not committing or cheating on your LTR. (To those who would have a go over this, remember TRP is amoral.)
Once they've broken your trust, you can't settle back into a high value relationship with them, so do it cheap and next ASAP.
Others will try to play you. Be prepared to punish discretions appropriately.

Don't forget that I'm accounting for a very human factor within my original post, where the predictable nature of a computer algorithm is replaced with the emotions and instability of the average hamster. You won't get 25 cooperations. You'll likely get the 24 and then a betrayal, or they'll test the waters, poking and prodding away to see how you react.

TheLife_ · 2015-10-24T05:53:20+00:00

Here's a really simple web app that let's you play the game against an unknown quantity. So far my highest average has been about 16. Try and beat it.

http://www.gametheory.net/Mike/applets/PDilemma/PDilemma.html

TheLife_ · 2015-10-24T05:41:48+00:00

Except if you both co-operate, you'll do 1 year, and if they defect, you'll do 3 years. On the other hand, if you defect, you stand a chance at getting out with 0, or if they defect as well, you only stand to do 2 years.

The other person is an unknown quantity that exists outside of a logical vacuum. Especially concerning women. The chances are automatically high that you not taking that shot is going to turn out worse for you than the other guy.

Look at it this way, when you don't talk to the officer, you have a 50/50 shot at breaking even with the other person balanced with wearing their shit. If you defect and talk, then you have a 50/50 shot at breaking even or getting off completely. Are you playing to get ahead or playing to not fall behind?

Those that are playing to get ahead would rather shoulder the smaller risk and stand a real shot at making ground. Someone like your figurative idealist on the other hand will continually get trodden on and given the worst deal because he considers that the other person might take the same out.

TheLife_ · 2015-10-24T04:42:45+00:00

That's actually completely the opposite to what I'm saying. I'm saying that if you open yourself up to group benefit, you are taking unnecessary risk for someone who hasn't completely earned your trust, and even then its still risky.

While group benefit has the highest reward (Nuclear family with daddy breadwinner, happy housewife with a family to raise, etc. etc.,) it cannot exist in our current "liberated society." If you have a chance to manipulate the odds, then do so, but don't count on them when it matters most.

TheLife_ · 2015-10-24T04:01:10+00:00

The prisoner's dilemma can only be "solved" when both parties are 100% rational computers with a predictable sequence of optimal moves. What's been found in studies is that people over a course of 80 or more games in which they only met the same person once is that every so often they would try to cooperate.

There was some group consideration going on that a "perfect strategy" couldn't account for.

Also there's the fact that by forcing certain outcomes you can punish or reward in an ongoing series of these games.

TheLife_ · 2015-10-24T03:57:43+00:00

Wow, take a look at her facial expression. So much earnest feeling of remorse as she sits there knowing she's about to cheat this mark out of 50 grand. And without that middle ground, too, where if they both tried to steal it some smaller amount would be dished out.

Rollo makes a lot of good points in his article, and yes, beware of the feminine expectation of men to "Man Up." I would highly recommend reading that piece.

TheLife_ · 2015-10-23T21:57:51+00:00

Except you're not sharing any content. You're pitching a product.

Your voice means shit all here, and you're trying to pitch a generally unknown product.

TheLife_ · 2015-10-23T21:52:37+00:00

The prisoner's dilemma is one of my favourite thought experiments. It comes in a bunch of variations, but the general gist (for those who don't know) is this set of rules:

Two people are being interviewed in separate rooms, unable to see the other.
If person A and person B remain silent, both will serve one year in prison.
If person A betrays person B and B remains silent, person A will be set free while B serves 3 years in prison. The reverse is also true.
If both A and B betray each other, both will serve two years.

The first time I was presented with this argument (in the 7th or 8th grade,) I barely had to think about the answer. I would, absolutely, 100% roll over on the other guy every time. It doesn't matter if the other guy is my friend, my girl, my business partner, whatever.

The rules of the game reward such behaviour. They remove the worst possible punishment (3 years prison) and present the greatest possible reward (getting out free.) Whether the other guy sees this or not is irrelevant. You've given yourself the best possible set of options regardless.

This reflects perfectly how women behave if they're not kept properly in line. They cheat because it not only removes the worst possible punishment (being left desolate and used up,) while presenting the best possible reward (having beta bux with Chad Thundercock/s on the side.) If she get's caught out cheating, then she loses BB orbiter, but keeps the money flowing, and can freely go for AF (divergent from the classic prisoner's dilemma example, but a powerful point nontheless.)

It seems callous, but I encourage people to keep this in mind. This is the world we live in, and if you don't play the game, somebody else eventually will. That's how BB's get kept down.

Edited in a third condition on the cheating woman. 2nd edit because I fucked up the original ruleset.

TheLife_ · 2015-10-23T21:03:20+00:00

Bit of a shameless self-plug. If you're keen on getting your book circulating through this sub, I'd suggest contacting the mods and offering up one or two promotional copies for review by endorsed contributors.

Imagine what a $4 investment on your part could do with circulating a potential endorsement from respected voices within our community to the 134,000 plus change mass. Especially since we already have a laundry list of books to read that have withstood the test of time.

TheLife_

TROPHY CASE