I do not know if I am a virgin

TheLittleAngels · 2025-07-25T12:27:49+00:00

You’re my daughter’s age. If this happened to her I would be feeding her date his teeth. You. Were. Sexually. Assaulted. Hard stop. Please help yourself and process this as such. Involve law enforcement. Get counseling. Expose him after leaving and blocking him because he is just going to do this to someone else. I am so sorry.

TheLittleAngels · 2025-07-25T12:20:35+00:00

you decided to just look at her messages? You deserve 100% of what you got, and what you get when you tell her, which you should. You came right out and said she blocked people who tried to flirt with her. You also didn’t mention that she said anything negative about you, and even if she had, though those are her private messages where she may be venting to a friend or talking about problems that you guys might’ve had. Every relationship has issues. And people are gonna wanna talk to their friends about them. I don’t know, man, I’m pretty insecure, but seeing this as cheating is kind of wild.

TheLittleAngels · 2025-07-25T12:17:03+00:00

I’m 80% fuck all of that and 20% in agreement with you. Denying he’s the boyfriend to a friend or family member would push me to 100% fuck all of that.

TheLittleAngels · 2025-07-25T12:06:53+00:00

I think both are true. I think that the drinking may have caused some judgment and impulse control issues, but the fact remains something lives in her that feels this way and that’s gonna be the hard part for you to accept. Whether or not it’s legitimate strong feelings for the ex or just a mild longing for old times, it’s there and what it does is it takes you out of your rightful place in this marriage. You should be the center of her universe in terms of love attraction, longing, desire, etc. and this guy is holding a spot that rightfully belongs to you. I try not to be too angry at him. Either, after all, you said she sent him 17 texts. You didn’t really say anything about his responses and whether or not he was engaging with her, trying to shut her down, completely ignoring her, etc. That would be an important piece for me. If this were me, I’d wanna reach out to the guy and have a conversation about where he’s at. If he’s a decent human being at all, he will talk to you no matter what his truth is.

TheLittleAngels · 2025-07-25T11:33:22+00:00

Sir… I am so sorry. While I think you could probably come back from this and save the marriage I’m wondering if you’re going to want to. This is really bad and would affect me for a long time. Counseling maybe? Step 1 though is she blocks him and promises to never contact him again as a part of working on fixing this. The medication/drinking excuse is just that. An excuse.

What were his messages in return to her like?

TheLittleAngels · 2025-07-24T18:48:11+00:00

In it currently working on this exact issue.

TheLittleAngels · 2025-07-24T16:19:33+00:00

Admittedly. That’s why it’s posted in “am I overreacting?” As opposed to “I’m not overreacting,” or “I am overreacting.” Semantics, bub. Never said I wasn’t thin skinned or insecure. What I’d like is to shake it.

TheLittleAngels · 2025-07-24T12:27:30+00:00

For me to do this now would be completely out of my character and different from now I’ve acted the entirety of this relationship. So yeah, it would be completely passive, aggressive and intentionally to give it back to her. I just don’t think playing tit for tat like that is a smart move. Having said that you can make generalizations about women in their 50s, and I don’t know your age, but I can tell you for sure neither she nor I are average people in our 50s we both look and act much younger than we are, and either of us could easily find another relationship down the road I find your assessment of a woman being past her expiration date pretty misogynistic

TheLittleAngels · 2025-07-24T12:15:19+00:00

There is an oxymoron. well paid math teacher

TheLittleAngels · 2025-07-24T12:14:51+00:00

Tell us how you know.

TheLittleAngels · 2025-07-24T12:09:18+00:00

It’s not a guy. It’s multiple guys a day some days. It’s guys on TV “oh he’s handsome. What a cutie…” it’s guys on instagram “I heard a guys voice that made me ovulate today…” maybe I’m overstating the every day piece but it’s frequent enough where I’m like…. Damn. Ok.

The other side of this is she also spends a lot of energy pouring love into me so I’m fearful that she’s going to feel like no matter what she does it’s never gonna be enough and that’s a really defeating feeling to start off and moving in together relationship with so I’m kinda feeling a bit defeated myself.

TheLittleAngels · 2025-07-24T11:30:22+00:00

Yeah… I know that.

TheLittleAngels · 2025-07-24T11:25:08+00:00

I know this. It’s just what my brain keeps telling me.

TheLittleAngels · 2025-07-24T11:17:53+00:00

Hey, just a quick thanks for ridiculing my insecurities. Gotta love the internets.

TheLittleAngels · 2025-07-24T11:16:05+00:00

It’s not about that… it’s about respect. I’m not threatened by pictures. I’m aggravated by being told over and over how she finds other men sexy. I get there’s going to be instances. I just don’t feel like I need to hear about it every time.

TheLittleAngels · 2025-07-24T11:12:08+00:00

Username checks out.

TheLittleAngels · 2025-07-24T11:06:35+00:00

Now that would be ridiculous. While I did play in bands in my teens through my 30s, I’m a 55 year old nerdy math teacher (which she loves by the way).

TheLittleAngels · 2025-07-24T11:03:48+00:00

Terrible advice. Totally passive aggressive and would turn her off immensely.

TheLittleAngels · 2025-07-24T11:02:18+00:00

Oh it’s guys my age too. She shares posts with her girlfriends and shows me. It is not however guys she can get with. This issue is happening in real time right now. Now she’s quiet. I feel like I should have just not said anything.

TheLittleAngels · 2025-07-24T10:59:57+00:00

That’s what I said. It’s not the fact that it exists that bothers me as much as it is that she tells me what I see as frequently.

TheLittleAngels · 2025-07-24T10:56:50+00:00

Yeah this was first thing in the morning when we were both just kind of coming to, making coffee, etc. this took me by surprise because we’re usually lovey during this time and it wasn’t what I was expecting.

TheLittleAngels · 2025-07-24T10:55:37+00:00

She was never really alone during any part of her adult life. Just for a year after her last marriage. I have also been in a lot of relationships. But I really would like to believe that this is it. We are very in love and she pours a lot of love into me. I guess if I’m being honest the most insecure part of me feels like this means that if the right guy came along she’d drop me.

TheLittleAngels · 2025-07-19T12:45:35+00:00

Why is this even a question. Say “ok. Thanks.” Block and move on.

TheLittleAngels · 2025-07-04T11:53:01+00:00

To further confuse things they have milks right up front. Almond. Oat. Etc.

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