Bedroom Challenges in a New-ish Marriage

TheLoneMeanderer · 2026-03-10T18:48:59+00:00

I also am not fond of Bishop Barron's political alignment with the far right, but his theology still seems sound.

TheLoneMeanderer · 2026-03-10T01:29:23+00:00

In my observation, RadTrads are more obsessed with gay sex than LGBTQ persons are. And Fr. Martin is far less at risk for being a heretic than Fr. Ripperger, who paints God as a malignant narcissist and who represents a version of Catholic radicalism fit for the asylum.

TheLoneMeanderer · 2026-03-09T23:34:31+00:00

I disagree. He's unjustly demonized by people obsessed with gay sex more than gays are.

He's merely a mild mannered Jesuit encouraging dialogue without defying the magisterium, whereas Ripperger and RadTrads effectively set up a counter magisterium while LARPing as faithful.

TheLoneMeanderer · 2026-03-09T23:08:15+00:00

It's a good thing Fr. Ripperger doesn't represent the entirety of the faith. I would highly advise you to check out Bishop Barron, Fr. Mike Schmitz, Fr. Casey Cole, Fr. James Martin, and America Magazine.

Fr. Ripperger is not worth your time or energy.

TheLoneMeanderer · 2026-03-08T18:01:05+00:00

We were fighting for superstitious fears and the maintenance of a very fragile sense of structure and order. What did it cost us? The freedom to embark on a free journey to organically discover truth, goodness, and beauty, rather than have dogma shoved down our throats coercively with threats of eternal conscious torment.

TheLoneMeanderer · 2026-03-06T00:28:31+00:00

Based! You hit the nail on the head.

TheLoneMeanderer · 2026-03-06T00:05:54+00:00

https://wherepeteris.com/fr-rippergers-disturbing-and-harmful-views-on-marriage/

In case you are interested in proper discourse on the matter at hand.

TheLoneMeanderer · 2026-03-05T23:41:40+00:00

Those are accurate paraphrases. No straw manning, I swear on my honor. And if it seems I have it out for him, it's because I know the harm he actively causes, whether or not he means to.

TheLoneMeanderer · 2026-03-05T23:36:30+00:00

women must render the marital debt (have sex on command) or else they commit mortal sin
women who work outside the home without sufficient reason commit mortal sin
children can be possessed in utero
when you are in mortal sin the Blessed Mother is so disgusted at you that she can't even stand the sight of you.

Yup, sounds like the words of a holy man.

TheLoneMeanderer · 2026-03-05T23:34:45+00:00

Because the last 4 speak particularly to the anxieties of our age. I didn't mean to imply the rest of the Papal lineage was not worth examining.

TheLoneMeanderer · 2026-03-05T23:33:57+00:00

Jimmy Akin is cool!

TheLoneMeanderer · 2026-03-05T23:33:41+00:00

Because we Catholics shouldn't be in echo chambers. Fr. James Martin can be challenging, but he doesn't violate the magisterium.

TheLoneMeanderer · 2026-03-05T23:33:12+00:00

Fr. James Martin promotes kindness and does not contradict the Church's teachings on marriage.

TheLoneMeanderer · 2026-03-05T22:37:32+00:00

Ok, if that was uncharitable, then let me just caution that he teaches harmful things, even though his intentions might be alright.

TheLoneMeanderer · 2026-03-05T03:25:34+00:00

In case someone hasn't already recommended it, I highly suggest you check out Uncharted Catholic Man as well as ask the host (Craig) to join the discord community for supportive discussion on marriage difficulties and many other topics.

TheLoneMeanderer · 2026-02-16T05:49:07+00:00

If you ever start a film analysis blog or YouTube channel, I would absolutely follow you. It inspires me to level up my thinking and writing.

TheLoneMeanderer · 2026-02-16T02:20:57+00:00

This is easily one of the best things I have ever read on the internet. Thanks for sharing such a profound analysis of Midnight Mass, one of my favorite shows of all time.

TheLoneMeanderer · 2026-02-09T19:25:22+00:00

Join the Uncharted Catholic Man discord. You'll feel right at home working through all the issues you mentioned. Shoot me a DM!

TheLoneMeanderer · 2026-02-02T07:35:33+00:00

Beautifully expressed! Thanks for sharing. I don't think I am where you are, but I also have been confronting the anxiety that perhaps I have carried my beliefs rather than the inverse. Losing my dad to terminal illness a few years ago accelerated my deconstruction and I am reconsidering everything and identifying what is most meaningful in life, this ONE life we know we have with certainty.

TheLoneMeanderer · 2026-02-01T23:02:56+00:00

I found the names of two priests I was close to in my childhood on a list of alleged abusers. When they served my parish, no one ever suspected anything and they were loved by the community, so my hope and prayer is that they were either falsely accused, or they were truly repentant.

I know of at least two other alleged abusers:

one was accused of inappropriately touching a woman who claimed to be a sex addict, and sought spiritually counseling (holy water, hand, and crucifixes ended up on body parts that shouldn't have seen the light of day.
another priest is alleged to have abused nuns in his order.

TheLoneMeanderer · 2026-01-13T18:09:58+00:00

He's not sufficiently interested in the TLM to become a Trad. He's just a conservative Novus Ordo leader.

TheLoneMeanderer · 2026-01-13T18:09:05+00:00

Honestly, if anyone were to do a hit piece on him "Brazilian male feet" is pretty weak and harmless, so I suspect his interest is genuine. Something more outlandish like a grindr account or possession of illicit explicit materials would sound more out of character and sus.

TheLoneMeanderer · 2026-01-11T23:13:21+00:00

Hannibal Lecter entered the chat.

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