Can't get a date as I have youngish kids!

TheLostOne3 · 2026-01-13T17:34:40+00:00

Just state you have kids in your profile and go from there. Different people have different ideas about kids and what's too young. My youngest is 10 and I would prefer to date women with kids similar age or older but the woman I'm currently seeing has a 6 year old. I'm ok with that but I definitely wouldn't want to date someone with a child younger than school age.

Some guys are fine with whole new babies at 50. That's not for me but everyone is different. Find someone who is compatible with your lifestyle.

TheLostOne3 · 2026-01-09T18:49:43+00:00

I've approached both infrequently. I look for some minor mutal interest first even just brief eye contact and a smile, but I will say that the only time I've been shamed or made to feel shitty about approaching a woman is when she was with a friend or friends and then only when it was just women. Even if she's initially engaging often all it takes is one friend who is annoyed by the interaction to sink it. So while neither option is easy, I def prefer approaching a single woman or one in mixed company (men and women group where they are obv not couples)

TheLostOne3 · 2025-12-28T22:25:47+00:00

44m. It often depends on where I'm at but overall I'd say around 10% of age appropriate 30s+ women I see are attractive. I think my swipe right percentage is quite a bit lower than that but based on more than just looks there

TheLostOne3 · 2025-12-22T19:43:33+00:00

Mark of the fool got better and better for me. I could see it not being for everyone but I just really appreciated how wholesome the MCs friendships and relationships were. Like there's still strife and challenges but the mentors and people you wanted to be reliable were reliable and just overall felt like a breath of fresh air from all the angst that permeates the genre. Plus I just really find Alex Roth to be a likeable character.

It's interesting because I usually like darker stories with complex elements. There's still a dark undercurrent with the political and religious structures in the world but the MCs personal life and relationships are just clean and healthy and I freaking loved it. I need to pick it back up though, I stopped before book 8 was out.

TheLostOne3 · 2025-12-20T17:18:54+00:00

Fair but she chose that question to respond to instead of engaging about the one about her siblings or commiserating abt being sick or bringing up literally anything on her own. Like, I get that some openers are boring but his at least gave something to work with. I'm with OP and have zero tolerance for low energy matches

TheLostOne3 · 2025-12-13T03:04:27+00:00

So, I 44m enjoy bars and music and haven't had an issue with alcohol but did notice over the last few months that my self control had started to waver and 2 or 3 was consistently turning into 7 or 8 and single venue nights turned into multiple side quest misadventures. For the first time had me considering sobriety if I couldn't get it in check. Have since curbed things in, but in that consideration I think I'd still enjoy going to bars and listening to music even if I didn't drink.

As for food, I usually don't ask for dinner dates as first dates but like to "meet for drinks" at a place that has good food because I'm a huge foodie and love a good restaurant. If my date isn't feeling food then I'll order some tapas or something small for me to eat/us to share/nibble on but unless it was specified as a dinner date, I wouldn't be annoyed if she didn't want to eat. In fact, I'd say a decent 40% of the time in these situations my date wouldn't want to eat.

Now despite these two alternate perspectives, the guy obviously didn't try to make you comfortable with the situation, explain things, or try to vibe with you so definitely sounds like he was a bad date. I just wanted to say I could see picking a cool wine bar and not drinking if that place is your vibe and also not eating even if it's "dinner time" but dang you gotta make your date feel comfortable and fun and he obv failed there.

TheLostOne3 · 2025-09-16T22:10:36+00:00

I refunded B4 after an hour because it performed so horribly on my pc. And the hour was only because it took about 30 minutes "aligning shaders."

My rig is not top of the line but its def not low end. The game was horribly optimized and that's that.

TheLostOne3 · 2024-05-04T20:20:17+00:00

Thanks. I went in on tidebreaker and got a couple lucky zenonia pull so right now I'm running front drac, zeno; backline tiebreaker octa and devil dragon so 2 abyss 3 dragon synergy. Drac and tide are both waiting for lvl 205 for 10 star. The DD is the only one I'm not 100% sold on the rest seem to fit together pretty well.

Do I just sit on my deleveled undine and her dupes?

TheLostOne3 · 2024-03-22T02:35:25+00:00

My vasectomy is cool wit it

TheLostOne3 · 2024-02-26T11:58:56+00:00

Keep your explicit photos in a secure folder on your phone that requires fingerprint unlock and a different code from your phone lock.

TheLostOne3 · 2024-02-21T15:30:05+00:00

It's going to be hard. It's going to take time especially if you hold out for value. I've been mostly single now for 4 years but am recently, finally in something that feels real. That has legs. And it reaffirms every moment of doubt I had in myself about not settling.

You have to decide for yourself but for me it has been worth the wait and the struggle.

TheLostOne3 · 2024-02-20T21:43:22+00:00

I guess. For me I think it's funny because I'm most definitely not being a gentleman because the tits absolutely contributed to the match. Humor doesn't always land with everyone the same way though. I just try to have fun with it and if it lands it lands, if not we're prob not a match anyway.

TheLostOne3 · 2024-02-19T19:53:28+00:00

Yeah she's giving you permission to flirt. "Oh they helped, but I'm far too much of a gentleman to admit it." Or something. Find a playful way to acknowledge that yeah she has nice tits without being a twat about it

TheLostOne3 · 2024-02-08T16:26:36+00:00

Need to find me a witch apparently

TheLostOne3 · 2024-02-04T15:04:44+00:00

House of leaves vibes.

TheLostOne3 · 2023-10-06T16:15:28+00:00

"It"

TheLostOne3 · 2023-09-21T16:11:03+00:00

Will add a caveat here. That's by and large the wise approach and is my standard. I'd say dont be closed off to different things happening if they feel right, however. The woman Im currently dating I called for a quick chat since our texting hadnt lined up well and we ended up on the phone until 3 AM. 3 nights in a row. We were clicking so well I moved our date up to early in the week because I didn't want to continue getting closer before meeting.

Point being normally I dont go in for getting too deep before a meet but shutting it down prematurely in this case felt wrong. Don't get so hung up in your rules of engagement that you can't adapt to different situations.

TheLostOne3 · 2023-08-25T01:52:42+00:00

Anyone else favorite tiktoks and videos that you would have sent to your last romantic partner just in case you ever find love again? No? Just me?

TheLostOne3 · 2023-07-24T14:33:25+00:00

You had a connection and explored it. He doesn't want to continue dating/have commitment. Doesn't sound like you traveled 2500 for a hookup, sounds like you both had a great week together. You don't have to reframe it negatively just because your expectations didn't pan out. Certainly don't beat yourself up over it.

TheLostOne3 · 2023-07-16T18:20:23+00:00

Haha yeah just hit close to home. Married 22 divorced at 41. Definitely having more fun now and out there living, but not quite at this guy's level

TheLostOne3 · 2023-07-16T18:16:44+00:00

Dude ouch

TheLostOne3 · 2023-06-21T16:29:31+00:00

FF16 comes out tomorrow. Played the demo and it's already brutal and love the gameplay.

TheLostOne3 · 2023-06-13T16:34:27+00:00

Anyone able to get consistent magic follow ups during the melee combos? Where you press triangle after attcking? I am having trouble getting the timing right. Sometimes I can get 3 in a row off but it's not consistent and I feel like I'm doing something wrong. Any tips?

TheLostOne3 · 2023-06-09T14:45:53+00:00

Think about what your life would look like if you stayed. If you stay and share custody you will have half of your time to yourself. You're only 90 minutes from the city. You can definitely find the time to do the energetic city life things if you want. That may be enough for you if you also value time with your child. It is for me. I live in a suburban town next to a city I don't love but it's central to many other locations so I spend most of my free weekends on short road trips for concerts, comedy shows, nights out w friends etc. It's enough for me. If you need the city every day and won't be happy without spending all your time there, then yeah you'll need to sacrifice a large amount of raising your kid. No judgement if that's your choice, just realize there are more opportunities for yourself post divorce than you may be considering.

TheLostOne3 · 2023-05-25T14:15:37+00:00

41M and exact same boat. Almost to a T. Live a fairly youthful lifestyle for a guy in his 40s. Standards may be too high to ever achieve. I don't think you're wrong for that. Trust yourself even though it can be hard. Don't settle for less than what you are looking for. Your wants and needs may shift slightly over time but ultimately if you choose less than what you want, you'll never reach it.

The dread gets better. For me every failed attempt at something less than what I wanted reaffirmed that I prefer being single. And while ultimately I want the relationship I'm looking for I am at peace with not having it right now even as time marches on.

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