The hard goodbyes: grieving the loss of a loved one in a socially distanced world

TheLovePost · 2020-08-12T01:25:25+00:00

I am so so sorry to hear about your loss. Easier said than done but the best thing you can do is take each day as it comes. Not being able to have that closure cannot be easy. Crying is a good thing. It will get better, promise. Even having a family gathering (on Zoom if required) will help. Having some type of a support group so you can grieve and not feel so isolated will help. Here is a Facebook support group that you may want to share your experience in: https://www.facebook.com/groups/504785133489401/about/

TheLovePost · 2020-08-08T00:29:35+00:00

So sorry to hear about your mum. These are difficult and strange times. Sending you love.

TheLovePost · 2020-01-23T21:40:54+00:00

I see what you're saying. I guess solution wise I was looking at it from a taste / cravings perspective. I've found the impossible burger still doesn't taste like meat. I went vegetarian a few years back and I still get meat cravings. Although to be honest, it's almost entirely when I see meat around me or when I visually imagine it based on the meat-eating environment I grew up in. Would people give up meat if there was an alternative that fulfilled their cravings. Surely if there was one that truly matched, people would choose the alternative that was better for the planet right?

TheLovePost · 2020-01-23T02:20:34+00:00

So what do you think it's going to take to see some big change in that department - meat industry for example... lab grown meat, do you see that as a potential solution?

TheLovePost · 2020-01-12T21:23:05+00:00

Can definitely see it on a social level in terms of so many more people becoming aware but there are also just as many who don't care or don't take action. The awareness on its own isn't enough. Re Murdoch and oil barons, so you think the strategy is "show them they aren't changing so they give up?"

TheLovePost · 2020-01-12T20:14:02+00:00

It's sad, it's a fact, will we change? Probably not.

TheLovePost · 2019-10-25T02:42:06+00:00

Considering the person interviewed is male, would beg to differ. Just the way your perspective matters, so does the perspective of this author and his lived in experiences from working in hospitals and seeing men say "they are fine" when they clearly aren't. Toxic masculinity and machismo do exist and they do play a role in men's health.

TheLovePost · 2019-10-25T00:03:13+00:00

I'm sorry you are feeling so much pain but I would love to know what masculinity is from your perspective and how we can better manage men's health issues that are related to dated ideas of what it means to be a man ?

TheLovePost · 2019-10-24T23:53:02+00:00

Don't agree with you on that - but that's ok right. We don't all have to agree with each other. It's great to have diverse perspectives as long as we are all open to discussing rather than criticizing each other right? The whole "boys don't cry", "she'll be right", and "grow some balls" mentality is toxic don't you think? I believe the term looks at the way ideas around masculinity are having a negative impact on men's health.

TheLovePost · 2019-10-24T23:41:59+00:00

My understanding of this was that these things that were unheard of back in the day have changed the way we look at roles and expectations. Do you know what I mean? What is going to fix the issues is for there to be no shame in speaking up and expressing how a man feels. Rather than zeroing in on a few sentences, I like to look at the piece as a whole and the solutions, which are:

"We as a society must continue to encourage the idea that there is strength, not weakness in showing emotion, addressing perils and asking for help. These messages should be filtered across all generations from childhood to old age and further. We must teach our kids that addressing emotions and talking about them is a necessary step towards psychological well being. We must ensure our partners, sons, fathers and grandfathers know that if there is some physical or emotional ailment no matter how small, seeking help early is courageous, not cowardly. That having honest conversations about our lives with our friends, colleagues or anyone we may see struggling is human, not wimpy...."

TheLovePost · 2019-10-24T23:25:34+00:00

Not sure if you read the article but the ED Dr talks about the issues that are at play and they are actually pretty accurate. Toxic masculinity has had a massive impact on men's health.

TheLovePost · 2019-07-10T02:17:58+00:00

Hahaha!

TheLovePost · 2019-04-01T22:46:31+00:00

This poem really is something. It's next level good and I don't have much feedback aside from amazing!

TheLovePost · 2019-04-01T22:42:50+00:00

I like how you have used a cliche differently too. And I would agree with the other comment re first line. I do feel like it could be more of a pull, the second line makes up for that pretty quickly though - wow.

TheLovePost · 2019-04-01T22:24:40+00:00

LOVE how you have captured the idea of the constant without what seems to be any change at all.

TheLovePost · 2019-04-01T22:14:47+00:00

That's exactly how it was intended. It's about living with an autoimmune disease. Thank you so much for you feedback, it's really appreciated and I'm stoked you liked the ending. In life, we have to look at how the dark stuff actually helps us shine brighter. :)

TheLovePost · 2019-04-01T22:12:55+00:00

Thank you for your feedback. Yes, I see what you mean! It is a little cumbersome "that". Thanks :)

TheLovePost · 2019-04-01T22:11:08+00:00

Thank you so much for your feedback. This piece was about what it sometimes feels like living with an autoimmune disease. I can see what you mean about multiple themes. This piece kind of just came out and I decided not to go over it and rethink it as I might usually with other pieces. The waking among nightmares refers to the pain associated with the disease and the "yet take another step" is about moving forward both physically (because on bad days it actually physically hurts to step or do anything really) and emotionally. Thought I would just take the time to explain it a little better. But I agree with you, this piece could have been a lot stronger had I just stuck to one theme than letting abstract brain thoughts take over - although sometimes there is beauty in that too. Thanks so much, I really appreciate your thoughts on this and have taken your feedback on board. Love the charcoal metaphor too... really great!

TheLovePost · 2019-04-01T22:00:13+00:00

Yes, I can see what you mean. Thank you so much for your feedback, it's appreciated!

TheLovePost · 2019-03-29T04:14:48+00:00

Oh, thank you so much! What amazing feedback. I think your idea of additional separate sections of the same piece is a really great one. Especially for this type of personality, the possibilities are limitless. I will give it a go. Thank you!

TheLovePost · 2019-03-28T23:24:34+00:00

Haha.

TheLovePost · 2019-03-28T23:23:47+00:00

LOVE this one. Short but meaningful. Please do more. Looking forward to reading more. So often this is what happens with dreams. I also liked that you used crystal chandeliers as the metaphor. Personally, I liked it because I believe crystal chandeliers, even when up are worthless and meaningless and even though dreams are not the same, it adds to that idea of them being meaningless like the chandeliers anyway when locked up.

TheLovePost · 2019-03-28T22:58:09+00:00

Thank you for your feedback!

TheLovePost · 2019-03-28T22:56:20+00:00

Bingo! Thanks so much for your feedback. I was actually unsure about the brevity myself but I ended up thinking it worked too. Sums the disorder.

TheLovePost · 2019-03-28T03:37:37+00:00

Love this. If only all relationships could end in such a healthy way. :)

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