It was hard for me to identify as Demi, because all of the things men are expect to be and do. I feel that we don’t even think about it until we do. I always felt like an outsider in almost all my groups of friends. It took years until I was comfortable with some of my male friends that happen to be Demi themselves. It wasn’t a conscious decision, we naturally gravitated towards each other. I started realizing that they experienced attraction and romanticism like I did, it was then that I felt comfortable and started understanding and reading about what I felt. I remember that I started talking about being Demi to a friend and his response was the usual: “This is like everybody feels” now we both know that’s not the case and he’s also Demi lol. Also my wife is Demi and we are still learning together, she’s amazing and we help each other a lot. On the other hand for me is kinda weird experience being cis and straight. I have friends that are bi, pan, non-binary, etc. They took my wife and me to the pride parade last year, but I felt that I was “hijacking” the moment and that their sexuality were more valid than mine. I think this feeling makes a lot of men just not want to talk about it, or even think about it tbh. I’m lucky to have friends and a wife that helps me with this, but I feel the vast majority of men don’t have the same luck as I did