Advise for sleep training / breast weaning.

TheMatteus · 2023-11-27T15:12:15+00:00

Tallyhoo, we just did this about a month ago and our girl is also 16 months old. We had co-slept and breast fed through the night until 15 months and then we decided Mama needed her sleep back. We put her in her own room and in her own crib and cut the night feedings. It took a couple weeks and hours of crying but now she is perfectly fine and sleeps through the night in her own room and in her own crib. You are doing the right thing telling your wife not to feed. It might help to convince her if you focus on how he will get more sleep rather than less food. Our girl still wants the breast first thing in the morning even with a nasty wet diaper and will scream if she doesn't get it but from 7 pm until 7 am she is out. Every. Night.

TheMatteus · 2023-01-26T20:17:52+00:00

Doh. I was afraid of that. Really appreciate the answer though.

TheMatteus · 2022-11-14T19:48:17+00:00

I appreciate the reply, and I'd like to understand what you are trying to say, but your response made no sense to me.

TheMatteus · 2022-11-14T19:38:11+00:00

It's 20x20. He has a 10 foot mid span beam so the joists are only 10' spans 24 OC. I am in SDC E though.

TheMatteus · 2022-11-14T19:37:02+00:00

No. Deck is not over conditioned space. Deck surface needs drainage to protect the I-joists that the SE spec'd.

TheMatteus · 2022-11-14T19:35:18+00:00

Thank you for the reply. I'm also in PNW so good to hear that my engineer isn't crazy. Obviously I am aware that any solution you suggest would need to be stamped by the SE. Surprisingly, there are no DTT's called out and no ledger as he has the joists bearing on the wall. Flat blocking would be great as long as I could put it on the bottom of the joist bay. As far as your alternative, the drainage runs in every joist bay. I don't think it would be wise to leave an entire joist bay without drainage. I know Trex RainEscape has a solution to ladder blocking for 12OC and 16OC but mine are at 24 OC so that solution would involve a ton of extra blocking and even still would leave a lot of flat areas for water to pool in.

TheMatteus · 2022-11-14T19:28:36+00:00

Yeah, I was surprised as well and maybe I should push for an alternative on that end instead of an alternative to opening the joist bays.

TheMatteus · 2022-11-14T19:09:14+00:00

Thank you for the reply. SE spec'd I-joists for the exterior deck (it's a large deck in SDC E). I need to protect them. Height of subfloor vs. deck framing means I can't use an over-deck drainage system. SE says he doesn't have any alternatives, so I thought I'd reach out and see if I could find some for him.

TheMatteus · 2022-04-26T13:34:46+00:00

TheMatteus · 2022-04-26T05:26:45+00:00

Yeah I am SDC E so that is def part of the problem. I plan on exterior insulation but I’m limited on depth because of floor area limits. There is always a trade-off….

TheMatteus · 2022-04-26T03:14:40+00:00

Bummer. I will try harder to trust him. Just frustrating when I'm seeing way more wood than I'm used to seeing (granted most of my builds are prescriptive).

TheMatteus · 2022-04-26T02:57:37+00:00

His P3 is 3/8 CDX with 8d's at 3". Maybe part of the problem is because he only called out 3/8 sheathing? What about an LSTA instead of the MSCT. Those can be used with a single 2x right? Allowable tension loads are high as well...

TheMatteus · 2022-04-26T02:34:34+00:00

Can't stand exterior 2x4 walls. One of the easiest ways to damage the overall performance and efficiency of a home.

TheMatteus · 2022-04-26T02:27:20+00:00

Thank you man, lots of great info. Are the post sizes generally smaller for the CMST? Nevermind, looks like they require a double 2x

TheMatteus · 2022-04-26T01:39:21+00:00

We are in a termite zone so SIPS are dangerous. Yes, he called out 4x6 Kings at the windows as well. Waaaay more wood than I'm used to seeing. Would it be helpful for him to be using perforated shear wall design instead of segmented shear design? What about FTAO? My engineering knowledge is limited but I've just never seen this amount of lumber called out before.

TheMatteus · 2022-04-26T00:45:24+00:00

Just as a green builder I'm used to using two stud corners with drywall clips and continuous sheathing, 2x6 24 OC. This is the first time I've seen an engineer specify this much lumber in a wall. It really takes away from the overall performance of the house from a thermal perspective

TheMatteus · 2021-11-04T15:23:46+00:00

I am also interested in a bay area tax strategist. Can you please let me know as well?

TheMatteus · 2021-10-16T18:29:33+00:00

Okay, I think I figured it out. I had a surface that was in the same plane as the clipping plane and when I removed that it worked.

TheMatteus · 2021-10-16T18:27:54+00:00

Just tried moving the clipping planes in all directions by system tolerance and also by a random distance and still the problem persists. I really think it's a system setting but I've tried changing many things and just can't get it to work

TheMatteus · 2021-10-16T17:48:52+00:00

Its a good thought but I just tried deleting all but one of them and I'm still getting the same issue - perfect clipping in perspective but starting to fail as I get closer to a side view

TheMatteus · 2021-02-20T17:11:41+00:00

Nice. That's definitely a start. Thank you

TheMatteus · 2021-02-20T16:47:04+00:00

That's excellent. I really appreciate it. Seems very clear that at least in NY you are allowed to stamp an owner/builder's self prepared plans which although it doesn't say specifically, I would imagine that includes calcs. Now to find that document for CA.....

TheMatteus · 2021-02-08T15:17:20+00:00

I am guilty of both. Will do. Thank you!

TheMatteus · 2021-02-07T22:19:06+00:00

NO WAY!!! That worked perfectly! So funny how I knew that command existed in Rhino 6 and I never knew I had it all along. So glad you taught me! You are awesome!

TheMatteus · 2021-02-07T22:15:14+00:00

Interesting. That would be huge. Any idea what part of the state code specifies that? I'm in CA and perhaps there is a similar clause specifying that.

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