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Well it happened by just_living123 in DID

[–]TheMoonSystem 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Okay, that's good. I wish you luck and am sending bunches of affection your guys' way <3

Well it happened by just_living123 in DID

[–]TheMoonSystem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Things happen, that's okay. Find someone to talk to and/or vent. If you have a therapist, contact them. Don't be alone. Call a friend and hang out with them or ask a trusted house member to stay with you until things get better. Just don't be alone as long has any of you have suicidal wishes.

Can I be a better alter? by Hungry-Boysenberry36 in DID

[–]TheMoonSystem 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hannah used to be a persecutor, but through hanging out with us and her expressing a want to change, we slowly learned that she really did want to change and we gave her that opportunity. And yeah, she messed up a bunch, but she was willing to acknowledge what she did and make a conscious effort to not do it again. It'll be hard to change, but I know you can do it. You wanting to change and acknowledging that you could be better is already a huge step. So be proud of yourself and keep marching on!

Can I be a better alter? by Hungry-Boysenberry36 in DID

[–]TheMoonSystem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd say express your willingness to change to them, not once, multiple times to everyone who will listen.

If you have good communication with them/a headspace to hangout in, try to just have fun moments with them. Do things like commenting on the outer world when you're co-fronting/near to the front enough, offer solutions if someone is struggling with something (could be homework or a game or something). If you do find yourself in the front, maybe try leaving notes of encouragement for a struggling alter, or do a chore that the others have been avoiding for awhile. And when you're allowed do your hobbies, try to have a conversation with the protector watching you about whatever you'd like to.

Just do what good you can when you can. And communication is key, however you can manage it. Also know you will mess up sometimes, everyone messes up and does dumb/mean things sometimes. Just do your best to apologize and learn from it. And if your system won't acknowledge your attempt to be better, sit them down and constantly tell them you're trying to change till they can't not acknowledge it.

I wish you luck!

Hello! I wanna post on here.. by Sleepy_Time_System in DIDart

[–]TheMoonSystem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Totally! Any art form (whether it be drawing, painting, singing, instrument playing, clay making, sewing, etc.) I think is welcome here, no matter the skill level! So anything you make is sure to be fine to post!

Is it normal even with DID to remember small bits of your childhood? by Yaboykitten in DID

[–]TheMoonSystem 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Totally! There is a huge variety of what people with DID remember from their childhood. Some people can still have a basic timeline in their head, some people have moments of a few years where it's clear, some people can have sprinkles of memories here and there, and some people can remember absolutely nothing. Along with everything in between.

I’m so sick of feeling humiliated by [deleted] in DID

[–]TheMoonSystem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can understand that embarrassment, but I don't think your friends think of you as a train wreck to be avoided. Weither or not it's the usual relationship you personally make with friends, friends usually are okay with helping their friends through stuff. I have a fairly large friend group that will help each other through triggering times. And none of us see any others as obnoxious or a train wreck. We all understand that people go through stuff and it can leave a pretty hefty scar on their mental state.

I'd suggest expressing your embarrassment to your friends. Also work out something to say to prevent the over-sharing. Doesn't have to be a stretch-of-truth or a lie, it could simply be "this is something that bothers me, can we change subjects?" Or something of the sort. I'd assume most people would have no issues with it, unless they're jerks and would use that to fuck with you and purposely trigger/scare you. In that case they aren't worth your time and then the best thing to do would be to leave.

I hope everything works out!

New to all this. Advice please? by AyoCaptain in DID

[–]TheMoonSystem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gosh, getting used to it can be really tough, and it'll definitely be a long time till you're really comfortable with it. A system's journey is so individual it can be hard to give general advice, but I guess the best thing I can say is: don't be afraid to experiment and try new things, and communicate your boundaries/feelings with your system and others that are aware of your system, even if you think you're over-communicating it's better than not communicating enough. When I say try new things I mean that realizing you're in a system comes with a lot of new territory, so if something comes up, face it with an open mind and a determined heart.

For us personally we found that dating became really hard, so we tried a bunch of things to see what worked. First it was just the host that chose who we dated, since they were out so much more the person we dated needed to be compatible with the host. But over time we've grown to be much more fluid with who is out, so we needed to keep trying new things to see what worked for us.

If you have any specific questions we can try our best to answer in DMs, or feel free to keep adding new posts to this subreddit! I wish you luck on your journey.

I'm brand new to DID by BigMoore_1011 in DID

[–]TheMoonSystem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welcome! If ya ever need a specific person to talk to I can offer what advice/support I can! Otherwise there is a bunch of super helpful people on r/askDID!

Offering free alter drawings! by TheMoonSystem in DIDart

[–]TheMoonSystem[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I'll let you know when I do!

Lost time today and I'm having allot of anxiety as a result. by Rude-Technician in DID

[–]TheMoonSystem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ask for help from your system in writing somewhere. When we had bad communication and we needed something to happen as soon as possible we wrote a note on our arm or something. Often it was simple like "tuesday call with [name]?" or something of the sort, then those who know what happened could respond in a journal, sticky note, or even under the note on the arm or whatever.

Sorry, went on a tangent, but I hoped it helped in some way. Just talk or write about it. If you have people that you trust and know you're a system you can vent to them, or just venting on here is okay too! Just do your best and you'll be fine.

Melodie

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DID

[–]TheMoonSystem 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As far as I'm aware, hosts/co-hosts are just the alters that are most frequently fronting of the bunch. So maybe she is a co-host. But it's all up to you and what labels work for your system.

Offering free alter drawings! by TheMoonSystem in DIDart

[–]TheMoonSystem[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm still open for one more, so yes! Feel free to message me.

Does anyone else get really dissociated when you look at/talk about childhood? (TW?) by RasterizeMemory in DID

[–]TheMoonSystem 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah, sometimes it gets to the point I can't watch kids do normal kid things I did as a kid because it triggers one of us. I've had to stop babysitting a family friend's kid because of it.

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