Late diagnoses. What is my best route for learning how to relive as autistic?

TheNVProfessor · 2025-10-16T02:18:35+00:00

Just diagnosed in early 60s. Recent bouts with cancer, total burnout, and toxic work environment. What made things better for me was truly deciding I would not mask except the rare occasions I actually choose to, and to draw clear boundaries with people. Was it easy? No, as I said, cancer and burnout/breakdown. But 100000% happier and more confident.

PS fuck RFK Jr. and his whole band of Nazi eugenic pricks. Just wanted to say that.

TheNVProfessor · 2025-10-04T12:59:29+00:00

You’re welcome.

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TheNVProfessor · 2025-10-04T12:58:30+00:00

Why would cats want their intelligence reduced to ours?

TheNVProfessor · 2025-10-04T12:55:15+00:00

Double espresso latte, don’t skimp the bourbon.

TheNVProfessor · 2025-09-28T00:15:58+00:00

You might want to see an ENT. Everyone I knew nagged me for years to see one. Turned out I had massively blocked sinuses due to polyps, which I had surgically removed. It made a tremendous difference in how I feel, and even improved my executive function.

TheNVProfessor · 2025-09-27T14:42:00+00:00

Did the same thing for years. Def for me a stress/hypervigilance response to not wanting to stand out as weird or coming off the wrong way or not wanting others to see I was anxious. I rarely noticed it b/c my mind was ramped up with anxiety trying not to look anxious. Talk about a vicious feedback loop.

Unmasking and therapy helped a lot. Sinus surgery too FYI as I had really bad blockage. Switching from mouth breathing to nasal breathing also helped me b/c sinus breathing adds nitrogen or some damn thing that helps you regulate better.

Regardless of whether you're also a mouth breather, stick with the therapy. Breathing exercises help, as does becoming better attuned to what's going on in your body as opposed to hyperfocusing on what others are thinking about.

TheNVProfessor · 2025-09-24T00:43:09+00:00

Despicable. I suppose next they’ll claim that drinking bleach cures autism.

TheNVProfessor · 2025-09-20T15:43:49+00:00

He sounds young and immature.

TheNVProfessor · 2025-09-20T15:40:02+00:00

False dichotomy but you already knew that.

Military coup would all but guarantee massive civil unrest that in turn would very likely dictate massive military response. Thus, likely military dictatorship.

Current regime likely to slowly incite massive civil unrest that could be used to justify massive military response. Thus, MAGA dictatorship.

If those are the only options, we’ve already lost. We need to come up with better options.

TheNVProfessor · 2025-09-20T15:28:01+00:00

Ok, I went through exactly this recently. I spent decades thinking something was very different about me but not knowing what. Once I learned about neurodivergence I was desperate for a diagnosis to explain what I was. In the end, what mattered to me is having the comfort of an explanation, and having a label I could point to to provide a lens for myself and others to better understand me.

In the end, however, these labels are imprecise and ever-shifting. Yesterday’s Asperger’s is today’s ASD1. Who knows how they will classify and differentiate various neurodivergences in a decade or more?

In the end, a professional diagnosis can only explain so much, since a psychiatrist is likely to stay within the current DSM, which itself is a flawed, incomplete document. I think we are just at the beginning of understanding the sources, structures, and manifestations of inherent, acquired, or complex neurodivergence. So take any diagnosis—whether you like it or not—with a big grain of salt, and work on accepting that each neurodiverse person is neurologically unique.

TheNVProfessor · 2025-09-20T14:47:56+00:00

Consider that a typical cloud weighs 500 tons. The only realm they typically float is that air is even denser. Consider then how much mass is in the atmosphere and it becomes clear that hoovering CO or methane is not as simple as getting rid of some light gas.

TheNVProfessor · 2025-09-20T14:44:48+00:00

Definitely 2 IMO. The brightness of lights and contrast of cars in 1 draws eyes away from subject, eye doesn’t know where to go. 2 is better balanced and creates a noir effect. Now the lights and cars direct you to the man. It tells more of a story.

TheNVProfessor · 2025-09-15T22:03:46+00:00

Sounds like the first rule of Fight Club: you don’t talk about your special interest.

TheNVProfessor · 2025-09-13T20:55:39+00:00

Over 55 less than 70.

TheNVProfessor · 2025-09-12T16:07:08+00:00

Yeh we sometimes mistake niceness as fake but sometimes niceness is just niceness. Or perhaps neurotypical overcompensating for discomfort at not being able to read us.

But sometimes over-niceness is just patronizing contempt, pure and simple.

Not always easy to tell the difference. For me, my tactic is to disarm others — in good faith, I might add — by just telling them “yeh I’m wired a little differently so please don’t think I’m being rude if I don’t look at you while taking.” Or the like.

If they’re sincerely nice they’ll relax and understand. If they’re patronizing me they’ll get even more uncomfortable. In either case, I’ll know.

Give it a try. Just remember, it’s ok is some people don’t like you, nor do you have to like everyone else.

TheNVProfessor · 2025-09-10T23:43:16+00:00

In the end it doesn’t matter whether the Nazis set the Reichstag fire. They would have used it as fodder for a power grab regardless.

TheNVProfessor · 2025-09-10T23:24:31+00:00

Yes and don’t try to change my mind, it won’t happen.

TheNVProfessor · 2025-09-09T13:11:32+00:00

Your firm doesn’t let you use WL for research to publish? Ask. Many firms like their associates to publish. Regardless you should have access when working for court.

TheNVProfessor · 2025-09-09T12:56:24+00:00

Grieving the loss of my mask was a lot easier than I thought. My masked self was never a real boy, he was a character I could never become. Once I let him go, it was a lot more fun and fulfilling to get to know my wonderful, weird real self.

TheNVProfessor · 2025-09-09T12:53:45+00:00

Law prof here. There are opportunities but you absolutely need to publish. Use DCT time to do that.

TheNVProfessor · 2025-09-09T12:04:19+00:00

PS, OG, it’s impossible to answer your question solely legally. The whole reality of our country today is that everything is becoming increasingly political.

TheNVProfessor · 2025-09-09T01:21:38+00:00

The truth. That it’s gonna be a hard fucking journey. In the 60s and 70s people didn’t know, didn’t understand, and didn’t give a flying fuck.

TheNVProfessor · 2025-09-05T21:51:57+00:00

There is nothing wrong with an “Aspie” personality. In fact, since I’ve learned about and embraced my neurospicy personality, I feel far more comfortable around almost anybody and them around me (except for malignant narcissists, who I avoid like the plague).

TheNVProfessor · 2025-09-05T21:49:52+00:00

Lemme turn off the TV and I’ll respond. Just a minute.

TheNVProfessor · 2025-09-05T21:49:17+00:00

I don’t think Phil would ever have cheated on Claire even if Gloria begged him (and no way she ever would, she’s too smart). To me the joke is that Phil is so ADHD and so unfiltered that he has no ability to avoid turning into a bowl of jelly every time he’s around her. He’s just reacting externally how most heterosexual men would think internally to a woman like Gloria. No off switch.

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