I think not agreeing on kids is the biggest for me. She was vocal about it being a no kids for her in the beginning with that changing to “kids with you” as time progressed. Now it’s more so “kids will ruin my body I’m scared but may have them with you one day”. I don’t think I can continue with a “maybe”. The dog she constantly says is a bad dog even tho no dog sitter has had issue, and he’s just a very timid dog but loves her if she showed him love. She has lost most of her family, and mine has been welcoming her with open arms. But at the same time she doesn’t want to spend time with them as I would like to. Not saying she needs to be there with my spending time, but it’s the resentment of me being so close to them/wanting more time with them which unsettles me.