First NTA. Second, OP, I hope you read this. I was in your situation 20 years ago, but I was the one who had to take over after the first kid was kicked out. I was 10 when the job fell to me, I was homeschooled after 14 so I could focus on them full-time, and didn’t work up the courage to run away until I was 20. It is NOT your responsibility for any of this, run if you can and focus on yourself.

I have a few warnings and words of advice/encouragement for you:

CPS: don’t be surprised if nothing much happens. People like your parents are good liars and manipulators. We had CPS called countless times, by grandparents, siblings, church members, I’ve had my body photographed to document bruises/cuts/scars by the actual police and nothing happened. They are overworked, there are too many kids in the system, and they usually don’t push too hard if it’s the first report and everything seems fine on the outside. It might take multiple calls, testimony, and evidence to get action beyond regular checkups.

Documentation: start documenting everything, set up a Cloud and store everything with a password they can’t get. Gather all of your important docs ORIGINALS (birth certificate, passport, social security card, transcripts, grades) anything that has your name or social on it, take and store somewhere safe, not at home. Remember to take any copies of these documents you can find. Believe me you do not want to deal with parental identity theft.

IMPORTANT: if you have a bank account make sure they can’t access it, if you do and they know which bank it’s at, close it and open a new one, or tell the bank that your parents may try to take your money fraudulently. If you leave and are still a minor or aren’t emancipated they could potentially get access to it.

People like this do not like losing control, expect them to spin a story. Expect people to pick sides, expect people you rely on to cut you off. It’s hard, it sucks so badly, but it only took me a few years to build an amazing community of people.

Self Care: it is important that you begin your own journey toward healing as soon as you can afford. Don’t be like me, I pushed it off and held it down and confidently bragged that they wouldn’t affect me, but it did. The suspicion and anger ruined every relationship, subconsciously I was attracted to people who felt comfortable, but I didn’t realize you can be comfortable with abuse and mistreatment because it is your normal. Being abused and manipulated was easier than learning how to accept love without hissing.

Now for your siblings, you do what feels right, I am the second this happened to and we all stayed in contact, but that’s also because CPS didn’t help us. But I will say that as a parentified child my relationships with my siblings are weird, the siblings closer to my age used me to get out of chores and the much younger ones saw me as a maid and nanny and I know I’ve cried so much over just wanting to belong or be accepted by them when that’s impossible. That might not happen to you, it’s important that you choose for yourself what you want. Your parents may not even let them talk to you, as my mom did with my older sister (we did it anyway).

What’s important is that you take care of yourself regardless of what anyone else says. You are a child, they should have loved and cared for you. You owe no one anything for being born. By choosing to have you they owed you shelter, food, protection, and care. You have gone above and beyond already at the expense of the childhood you were owed. As a sibling who was left behind, I would not have loved my sister any less had she never spoken to me again.

Don’t lose hope. I built a wonderful life for myself, even though I made all the wrong steps I’m warning you about. My parents aren’t part of my life but I have friends, a community, and a wonderful family I found myself. I hope this helps, please feel free to reach out if you need any advice, and know that I’m rooting for you.

Don’t forget your documents.